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Old 28th December 2017, 7:27 AM   #16
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Wow, such anger. I am compassionate and so is all of his family. I wouldn't be here asking for help if i didnt care. Like i said my wife and his parents feel the same and want to help him. Its hard for all of them as they of course love him and want him to be happy. I'm giving you the facts here. If we take the mind your own business route, then fine. Thats the easy option and the one thats up to this point hasn't done anything. He gets upset if we go out all go out together including parent's, and we show each other affection, even holding hands as couples. He goes all quiet and retreats to his room when we come back. When we ask what's wrong, he says its hard for him seeing couples etc. Does everyone else need to walk around eggshells, because he's made these life decisions?
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Old 28th December 2017, 10:57 AM   #17
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Thereís nothing you can do and if I were you Iíd learn how to ignore it. Iím speaking from experience. The dysfunction that both he and the parents have is bigger than you, and will never change.
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Old 28th December 2017, 12:12 PM   #18
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Thanks Popsicle, have you had similar experience?
My wife is worried. She lives 8n a different country now, so when she returns, she tries to help and talk to him, he does listen, but never changes. They ask me to help and chat with him, which i do. I approach as gentle as i can. He is sensitive to feedback. I feel hes never been challenged or pushed out of his comfort zone. He makes good money, doesnt drink, smoke, or head out socialising. He borrows his mothers car to go to work, wont buy his own. To be he's taking so much liberties against his parents.
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Old 28th December 2017, 1:44 PM   #19
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I agree with Basil67 (although I wouldn't put it quite so bluntly !)

This situation is non of your concern, so it would be best to keep out of their family dynamics.

The only time you need to be concerned is if your wife wants to move him in with you !
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Old 28th December 2017, 2:21 PM   #20
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Thanks Popsicle, have you had similar experience?
My wife is worried. She lives 8n a different country now, so when she returns, she tries to help and talk to him, he does listen, but never changes. They ask me to help and chat with him, which i do. I approach as gentle as i can. He is sensitive to feedback. I feel hes never been challenged or pushed out of his comfort zone. He makes good money, doesnt drink, smoke, or head out socialising. He borrows his mothers car to go to work, wont buy his own. To be he's taking so much liberties against his parents.
The power rests with him and his parents, not you or anyone else. They have all the power and they are not using it and you can't make them. I'd stay out of it if I were you. There's nothing you can do and you will just end up frustrated.
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Old 28th December 2017, 3:12 PM   #21
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Ok guys. Thanks for the advice. Ill leave it with them. Hope you all have a good 2018.
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Old 25th January 2018, 3:05 AM   #22
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Gaelic Soul, I just finished reading your thread back in 2011. About the girl you were once with for 2.5 years. Then she was with a fat and older guy. How did it all end. By reading your posts I see you have a wife now. Did she ever get back in touch? Did you ever get to speak to her again? What is of her life? When did you get over her? And when did you meet your wife? I am so curious. I would love an update on your situation.
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