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Old 3rd September 2017, 10:02 AM   #1
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Comparing myself to my brother

This may sound stupid, but I have noticed that I compare myself to my brother.
The main problem is that I am afraid that he will be more successful with women than I am. Im older (22) than he is (19), and I have always seen myself as a role model to him.
Im good looking and I have alot of girls chasing me. My brother is also good looking nowadays and I always wonder if he is going to get the girls who chase me to chase him. I always wonder how women see us and which one is better looking in their eyes. If I like someone and want her, im paranoid that she will meet my brother or see his post on instagram, and go after him.

I don't know if this is healthy or normal but I can't stop thinking about it.
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Old 3rd September 2017, 10:14 AM   #2
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Well, it probably will happen a time or two. And you will survive it .
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Old 3rd September 2017, 10:16 AM   #3
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It's a normal feeling. You've got to be prepared that this will happen in real as well. Your fear is not unfounded. 2 sisters with similar age differences go through the same stuff. The reason is that people first go by physical appearance and then the personality.

I have no advise but yeah, it will happen , unfortunately. Not just to you but your brother will have the same issue. It's both ways.
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