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Old 7th February 2019, 10:47 AM   #31
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why did you marry this clown?!?
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Old 7th February 2019, 11:03 AM   #32
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I would not be expecting money anytime soon.
I'm not expecting anything really. Yesterday I went in there expecting to have the monies reduced if not have this case closed altogether. I really didnít know what to expect. Our kids are older now. Theyíre both still at home but they both hold jobs while going to college so I truly had no expectations of having the amount being left unchanged. As it is it hasnít been changed, heís still racking up the same amount every week and the case remains open.

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Usually they donít want paying parents in jail. The court would have taken my view into consideration if I opposed his incarceration for the very reasons you had stated. I didnít though. I fully accepted their recommendation to proceed with the warrant.

I guess Iím just going to have to see what happens.
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Old 7th February 2019, 11:04 AM   #33
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why did you marry this clown?!?
I was really messed up in the head
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Old 7th February 2019, 1:04 PM   #34
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if he is in arrears for monies owed, there are services available who have ways to get the money for you. I used one one time on a judgement, and I knew the party had no intention of paying me. So, I hired this service (can't remember what they are called) for a small fee, and the next time the party was payed from their work, the money was immediately garnished from their bank account. One of the best services I ever employed.
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Old 7th February 2019, 2:23 PM   #35
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just wondering?

I'm just wondering how him being locked up in jail is going to help him pay? Doesn't seem like the best way to get the money. Now he'll owe the court/system big $$$s too.
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Old 7th February 2019, 3:54 PM   #36
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I may go the private investigator route. Unless he’s very smart, which I don’t think he is considering how easy it was for me to murder him in the divorce that he never even saw coming, he shouldn’t be too hard to find.
With the fact that the kids are grown there has to a cost benefit to all this that outweighs the bad.. meaning is it worth it...

I know the window is small that you can go back.. maybe till the kids are 21 ??? Is it worth the emotional turmoil to go thru this being he probably won't pay you anyhow..

I know I would walk away from it all knowing that he is one eff'd up mofo and wouldn't get any of the brains though time thinking about it..

Is there a cost benefit to you that makes this worth it ?
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Old 7th February 2019, 4:00 PM   #37
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I'm just wondering how him being locked up in jail is going to help him pay? Doesn't seem like the best way to get the money.

Being locked up doesn't give incentive. Staying out is where the incentive comes from.
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Old 7th February 2019, 4:14 PM   #38
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Is there a cost benefit to you that makes this worth it ?
Yes there is. College tuitions. As per our divorce settlement agreement we are each to contribute to those costs. As of right now itís only me paying. So the price weíre talking is tens of thousands and I think itís worth a shot.

I donít know if Iíll ever get that back and really itís fine if I donít, Iíll manage, but I think I should at least try to get half back.

We arenít even at that point though. Right now itís only overdue weekly child support that caused them to step in. He stopped paying in November but it really adds up fast.

He also owes half of some medical bills but theyíre small time compared to college expenses. If it was just for that I wouldnít bother at all.
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Old 7th February 2019, 4:17 PM   #39
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So the price weíre talking is tens of thousands and I think itís worth a shot..

In most places nowadays there are child support enforcement agencies, funded by the taxpayers,that do all the work for you. All you gotta do is fill out the form, and sit back and wait while they hunt him down, garnish his pay, invalidate his passport, suspend his driver's license as well as any other business licenses such as contracting or medical or professional, and/or throw him in jail.



It's worth it even for $100. If only on principal.
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Old 7th February 2019, 4:34 PM   #40
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In most places nowadays there are child support enforcement agencies, funded by the taxpayers,that do all the work for you.
Iím already in that system. My attorney had me set it up that way during the divorce. Many times over the years my exH asked me to withdraw from the program and do a gentlemanís agreement where heíd pay me directly but there was just no way Iíd ever do that. I wouldnít have seen a dime for the past ten years!
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Old 7th February 2019, 4:50 PM   #41
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there was just no way Iíd ever do that. I wouldnít have seen a dime for the past ten years!

Smart move. There could only be one reason why he'd have asked you to do that.
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Old 7th February 2019, 5:34 PM   #42
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It amazes me how many women get talked into that! I guess they're hoping to get back together or they wouldn't do it. Lots less tension just to have the state handle it. Plus, I've seen where men will come back asking for money and say they've paid you tens of thousands of dollars when they haven't, just trying to reverse the situation -- and if the state isn't handling it, what proof would you have?
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Plus, I've seen where men will come back asking for money and say they've paid you tens of thousands of dollars when they haven't .. and if the state isn't handling it, what proof would you have?

In a situation like that, where the man is coming back and saying they've paid 10's of thousands when they haven't, it isn't up to the recipient mother to prove it hasn't been paid, it's up to the payor father to show proof of payment via checks or bank statements or whatever.
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Old 7th February 2019, 5:42 PM   #44
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Itís exactly why I kept it that way. I like having a third party overseeing it all and keeping accurate records.

It really made my life easier which in turn made the kidsí lives easier.
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Old 7th February 2019, 11:39 PM   #45
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Bench warrant usually means police won't make it a high priority to hunt him down. They will wait until they have some reason to interact with him such as a minor traffic violation.

It is at the Judge's discretion. Apparently the Judge feels it won't take long for him to turn up. Usually those who have an outstanding warrant will inevitably run into the police for some other reason.
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