VenusJ4F Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 My husband and I have been married for three and a half years, He has a six year old daughter form a previous marrage. Lately things between us have not been great. On my birthday he told me he wanted a divorce, we have talked about and decided to try to work things out. But now he has taken his daughter for the past 8 weekends, and when she is here he does not pay an attention to me. I know this is a soar subject for him and I was woundering if anyone has some advise on how to address this with him. I am so scared that if I say anything it is going to push him over the edge and He will leave. Please help I love him so much and I want to make this work. Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 My guess is that he's using his daughter's visits on purpose as a way to avoid intimacy / spending time with you. He could pay attention to you when she's there and you could all three do things together (emotionally) as a family. So, she's an excuse for him to avoid you. I wouldn't confront him about his daughter's visits. I'd try to talk with him about the larger issues in the marriage. Why would he want to keep you at a distance? What can you do as a couple to close that distance? Don't focus on the symptoms -- get to the underlying causes. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
Author VenusJ4F Posted January 8, 2005 Author Share Posted January 8, 2005 Thanks for the advise, that sounds good. I will try to talk to him today and we will see how things go. Link to post Share on other sites
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