Gypsy_Soul Posted January 29, 2010 Share Posted January 29, 2010 Well, I found some pictures online of him and the woman he abandoned me and my daughter for with nothing to our names. As I've been struggling to make ends meet and pay off the debts he left me with, and trying not to be depressed, he's been having the time of his life with his little 19 year old from Belize. I'm thinking this had to be ongoing because the people he's been living with the entire time know her too, they are all from the same town in Belize. So I went over there upset about everything, to go talk to him. I went to his door and rang the doorbell but he looked out the window and wouldn't answer. I stayed at the door for about 10 minutes but it felt like forever. So I left and decided to text him from my car telling him that he needs to give me back my stuff that he stole from me. I could easily sell them to pay our bills. I've been really struggling. While I was texting I noticed a cop car pull up and walk over to where he's staying. I left. I drove to a jack in the box about 15 minutes away and pulled over. I was still and am still in shock. I can't believe these people he's staying with knew he was with me and abandoned us yet they still gave him a place to stay. It's bad enough in my eyes that they knew he was seeing this girl soon after or who knows could have been longer. I think she's related to the people he's staying with, but I can't say for sure. It doesn't matter anymore I suppose. I'm just really worried about what he told the cops. He may have exaggerated or lied about what happened. Why call the cops if I just ring the doorbell and ask to speak to him? Well, he's called the cops a bunch of times on me before for no reason when he was cheating before. Like when he came to get his stuff, he called the cops. When I went to my classes, he called the campus police to escort him around because he was on the campus at the same time. He's just a punk. I think this time he's going to take it too far now that I know the truth behind why he left 10 months ago. This whole time he's been telling me no I didn't leave you for anyone. Or no I don't have a girlfriend or friends with benefits. LIES LIES. Why lie to me if we aren't even together anymore? I mean I know it's none of my business anymore but why lie when I asked for answers as to why he left in the first place? I just don't get it. I kind of worried now. Gosh I hate him. I want to scream I'm so hurt. All those times he never called his daughter he was with her I know it. While our little girl sat here and cried and told me , "my daddy doesn't love me anymore he never answers his phone." I got her, her own cell phone because he said he never called her because I would answer the phone. Even though she has had her own phone now he never calls her or answers her calls or texts. I also heard from a mutual friend that the girl he's with is saying she's pregnant. Most likely by him. Who knows. I know I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight. What should I do now? I messed up huh? I shouldn't have gone over there, knowing he calls the police over any little thing. He cheats and then he calls the cops on me. What a pu**y. Now I hope I don't go to jail or something for our daughter's sake. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gypsy_Soul Posted January 29, 2010 Author Share Posted January 29, 2010 So I've been sitting here thinking and I don't think I'll go to jail because I didn't do anything. What might he have been telling the cops? I suppose I shall soon find out right? Maybe, maybe not? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gypsy_Soul Posted January 29, 2010 Author Share Posted January 29, 2010 I'm now feeling a bit relieved and glad that I know what's been going on. I realize now how this has been all so easy for him to move on. He's had her the whole time. He did this to me once before, so it was inevitable that he would only leave me once again for another girl. I've noticed a pattern with him, he always chooses young clueless little girls to mess with. I wish I could take a vacation, I surely do need one. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted January 29, 2010 Share Posted January 29, 2010 HI, try not to worry hun. If the cops were there b/c he called them, he will only have been spinning a line, probably saying you were harrassing him or something. He can't prove this, b/c you haven't been and a court needs evidence to get an injuction. Stay away, see a lawyer so you can get proper child support from him and only communicate through your lawyer. If you do this now and attempt to get a restaning order will get thrown out of court most likely. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted January 29, 2010 Share Posted January 29, 2010 Biggest thing is use this as a good listen & just try & not repeat it in the future. He has shown his true colors so now you know not to waste good energy on him, but to focus on you & your child. Link to post Share on other sites
mimidarlin Posted January 29, 2010 Share Posted January 29, 2010 He might be worried that you will go psycho on his a**. I know that many of us that are cheated on have the desire. Doesn't mean we will do it but he might be worried. He could be making himself out to be a victim too. Doesn't matter...get yourself a lawyer. Contact him in this manner exclusively. Maybe they will recommend hiring a PI if it's in your budget. Checks can be garnished for child support. Don't depend on any financial support for him right now but he can be made to pay in the end. In the US you can sue the father until the child is 18 and after that the child can sue for back child support. If you end up on state support then DHS will go after his earnings as well. Sorry...but what a freaking loser. No sense of responsibility to his daughter...grass is greener yadda yadda. Link to post Share on other sites
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