LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Second Chances

New GF, but ex came back


Second Chances Called it off but doubting the decision now? Someone wants you back? Let us know about it!

Like Tree1Likes
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 20th February 2019, 6:26 PM   #1
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 19
New GF, but ex came back

Hi everyone!

Let me be short;
6 months ago my ex (we've been together since we were 16, now we're turning 22) left me completely out of the blue, due to a guy she met on holiday. Then they've been together for 2 months and broke up in November.

Since January, I'm with another girl I like, but I've got my ex who keeps texting me she misses me and so on (she started texting in December).
Now, I like my new girlfriend, but my ex texting me causes me a lot of confusion.
I find myself thinking about a second chance, I think about all I had in my life while we were together.
I don't know what to think about trust issues I'd have bringing my ex back.

Fact is, I can't really believe she cheated on me, I feel like nothing happened but it's defintely wrong.

Please help me, any experience/tip would be super-appreciated

Thank you
Smurf1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 20th February 2019, 6:36 PM   #2
Established Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 13,231
Your ex is texting you because she's single again and wants attention.

My money would be on her leaving again if you reconciled. She just hasn't met the guy she wants to be with, but when she does, you would probably be right back where you were the first time she broke up with you.
ExpatInItaly is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 20th February 2019, 6:40 PM   #3
Established Member
 
preraph's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Posts: 24,933
Nope. You need to either tell her to leave you alone or block her because she's just trying to mess up your current relationship. She wasn't happy and will leave for another guy as soon as she finds one. Whether she cheated is irrelevant. She left you because she didn't want to be with you anymore for greener pastures. Don't let her keep messing your life up. People mature and rarely ever stay with their high school sweetheart by college age. Just the way it is.
__________________
"I care not much for a man's religion whose dog and cat are not better for it." -- Abraham Lincoln
"The greatness of a nation & its moral progress can be judged by the way in its animals are treated." -Gandhi
preraph is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 20th February 2019, 6:42 PM   #4
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 19
Well ExpatInItaly,
First of all, thank you a lot.
Then, I've thought about what you said, and I partly agree.
But she says she understood she wants to be with me, how much I meant to her life and stuff like that.
Would you bet your money on breaking up again even if you were told something like that?
Smurf1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 20th February 2019, 7:14 PM   #5
Established Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 13,231
Quote:
Originally Posted by Smurf1 View Post
Would you bet your money on breaking up again even if you were told something like that?
If she were older and more experienced with relationships, then I could take that assertion more seriously.

But she's still very young, started dating you very young, and has barely had any dating experience apart from you. The chance that she's ready to settle down with you forever are not that good, particularly if some dude she met on holiday was able to turn her head that much. I would be very surprised if you two reconciled and were still together, say, 5 years from now.
ExpatInItaly is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 20th February 2019, 7:36 PM   #6
Established Member
 
Join Date: May 2016
Posts: 8,861
Quote:
Originally Posted by Smurf1 View Post
But she says she understood she wants to be with me, how much I meant to her life and stuff like that.

Would you bet your money on breaking up again even if you were told something like that?
I would still bet money on the thought that she would break up with you again if you got back together.

I’m sorry to say, but she probably wants you back because her relationship didn’t work out and she now knows that you are with someone else...

She had her chance and she blew it. She didn’t just break up with you, she left you for another guy. You would unwise to trust anyone who does this to you.

It’s easy to rewrite history, to remember the good times and forget about the fact that she dumped you for another guy. She is young, she wanted to have a different experience, but still... I would suggest that you focus on your current relationship and see what happens. I wouldn’t be willing to give up a promising relationship for someone who has done something like this in the past...
__________________
If they love you, you will know. If they don't, you will wonder all the time if they do...

Last edited by BaileyB; 20th February 2019 at 7:39 PM..
BaileyB is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
My Ex Girlfriend Came Back But Hasn't Ended Things With Her New Boyfriend noloveloss Second Chances 4 24th November 2015 12:40 PM
My Ex Girlfriend Came Back But Hasn't Ended Things With Her New Boyfriend noloveloss General Relationship Discussion 1 23rd November 2015 5:01 PM
Dumper came back, but is choosing between me and new man leesc90 Breaks and Breaking Up 428 25th September 2014 4:51 AM
I came up positive but she came up negative? Kortalian General Relationship Discussion 2 12th March 2013 12:06 PM
I came clean, and it all came crumbling down. vaisforlovers Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy 11 2nd March 2009 5:45 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 3:58 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2018 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.