Community Forums

Reload this Page Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Second Chances

Is Getting Back Together After a Nasty Break and Moving Away Possible?

Second Chances Called it off but doubting the decision now? Someone wants you back? Let us know about it!

LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 9th November 2017, 10:00 PM   #1
New Member
Join Date: Nov 2017
Posts: 2
Unhappy Is Getting Back Together After a Nasty Break and Moving Away Possible?

Hey all! I was looking for advice on my current situation. My (ex)boyfriend and I have had a really messy break up and in the heat of an argument he told me to move back home with my family. And I did. Our breakup started three weeks ago with a break, but I didn't take it very well and had a nervous breakdown because of it and how cruelly he was treating me. I was originally supposed to move out of our apartment but ended up leaving town when we got into a huge explosive fight. The whole thing started because he was pulling away all summer because of his new job promotion, so I suspected he was betraying me behind my back because of the distance. Then I found he had and couldn't let it go and kept arguing about it. Then he started deleting texts from a new coworker of his, claiming it was nothing besides not wanting his phone to be cluttered. Then he said he'd stop talking to her, but hadn't. So I thought he was cheating, even though he kept assuring me he wasn't. He admitted he ****ed up majorly by deleting their messages and other other fine tooth details of our relationship and he was sorry and he cried a few times, especially when I left. Through the end of it he was cold and kind of mean but yet seemed sorry about everything and he didn't want to do it. He said that my key and my dog would be there when I got back. He cried when he said it'd only be a temporary move. We got into a fight because I broke the no contact rule not even a day after I left but have been good about it since. But now I see that I can't see his friends on Facebook, he took the life event of our one year anniversary and hid his age on his Facebook but he hasn't unfriended me. Is he just being spiteful because of all of the fighting or is it over? Can we fix things even though I've moved? Is it possible to recover a relationship after a nervous breakdown?? Help! Oh it's only been a few days since I left. We've only been broken up for a little under a week, excluding the break.
FreeFromBurden is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2017, 9:16 AM   #2
Established Member
d0nnivain's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Northeastern USA
Posts: 28,048
There is not much to fix. This relationship was in shambles before you formally ended it. He spent all summer pulling away due to his new job. Whatever was going on between him & his co-worker was not healthy for your relationship. He's being cold because he's emotionally done. The crying is an acknowledgement that something that was once precious to him -- your relationship -- is now over. That is a loss but it's not evidence that he wants to continue your relationship. He hid his friends list from you because this co-worker whose texts he hid from you is now his friend. He's moving forward so you must too.
d0nnivain is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th November 2017, 2:07 PM   #3
Established Member
Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 554
A relationship can be repaired only if both people are fully invested in fixing it regardless of location.
springy is offline   Reply With Quote


Thread Tools
Display Modes


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
How many of you had nasty break-up's? Apparition Breaks and Breaking Up 9 20th September 2015 2:28 PM
Moving back in with your family after a break up nic05 Family 7 23rd March 2014 4:00 AM
Moving on but the ex is being nasty CharlotteX Breaks and Breaking Up 2 8th July 2013 3:23 PM
Long-distance break up but moving back soon nferrar28 Breaks and Breaking Up 10 13th June 2012 12:49 PM
Difficulty Moving On After Nasty Break Up verve Breaks and Breaking Up 5 25th August 2008 7:08 PM

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 6:24 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.

Copyright © 1997-2018 All Rights Reserved.