leon23 Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 Hi Everyone, I need your help...I had a question on Facebook and when you should add a date as a friend. I've been seeing this guy off and on for about a year with no commitment talk as of yet. I personally don't believe in adding a romantic interest as a fb friend until we've had the talk and have defined the relationship. So we are not fb friends, he's also 40 and is not on FB very much, but he has a ton of friends that are and has told me that the only reason he will go on from time to time is if someone adds him or to look at pictures. Over the last month, I've become a little nervous because I have not seen him we've been texting and emailing and whenever we've tried to make plans it hasn't worked out because we've been extremely busy over the summer. About three weeks ago I was looking at his page and I saw that he had added three people as fb friends, all three of them women, so ofcourse as a typical woman I'm now wondering what the connection is...two of them are just mutual friends in his big circle, the third is a woman who is not. I didn't think anything of it because I know he's pretty social in the summer and gets invited to a lot of things. About a week later after becoming fb friends with my guy this girl's brother fb friend requests him...again not worried about it because I'm thinking they are still friends, last week she becomes fb friends with two more of his friends and my romantic interests sister. Now I'm stressing out a little, on one hand he just became fb friends with her three weeks ago, but now the siblings part doesn't make sense. I know I personally wouldn't add someone or their sibling unless I was in a serious relationship. The truth is I can't ask him about it because I would blow my cover as his fb stalker. He's 40 year's old, his sister lives way out of state but was here in August the same time he became fb friends with her. I wonder if i'm stressing out over nothing...it would just be hard for me to believe in the span of 4 weeks he could meet someone else that quickly..I'm trying not to spy on the fb activity. I know some people just add people after meeting them one night so my fb philosophy is different. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 (edited) My first thought is that this guy is not serious about you. Dating on and off for a year with no hint of a relationship, is too long in my opinion. I don't care how busy you are, if you want a relationship, then you'd make time. Otherwise, you are emotionally and/or physically unavailable and therefore undateable. He has not made time for you and has other priorities. I'd move on. The questions surrounding his latest FB activity while suspicious, become irrelevant. Edited September 3, 2012 by january2011 Link to post Share on other sites
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