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Old 4th February 2018, 2:07 AM   #1
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I'm so sad and i don't know how i'll get over this one

Probably because my life isn't that great right now. Am physically at a low and am working on improving my health.

Meanwhile, she is great. Looks good, and seems happy.

I spied on social media today. It's like i never existed.

Just don't understand why / how someone can move on so jovially and not take any responsibility for their actions.

Guess i'm at the point where i need to cut the ties for once and for all. Broke up a year ago, thought i was over it two weeks ago, but it has surfaced on me again.

Guess i'm feeling pretty lonely, and pretty betrayed that i was not worth trying to reconcile with: that it's easier for her to go through the spin cycle again.

I feel like i have been sucked dry and she has come out the victor. When does this feeling end?
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Old 4th February 2018, 9:44 AM   #2
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Anniversaries bring up all sorts of emotions. It's the time of year. Especially if you have present physical problems weighing you down, you are not in a good space.

Remember social media paints a distorted picture. Most people only put up the happy stuff. Very few people go on there & disclose the bad stuff so it looks like everything is honkey dorey. Try to remember it's not.

Going forward, focus on improving your health. Do what you have to do to get better -- improve your diet; get 8 hours of sleep; do some exercise / physical therapy.

Most of all hang in there. This too shall pass.
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Old 14th February 2018, 8:54 AM   #3
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Seems like you have not gotten over it and you haven't done anything improve yourself. You need to start prioritizing you first. Girls are more likely to move on faster than guys, its their emotional nature. Shes doing well, let her be. Forget her and focus on YOU. Go be productive, read some books, excercise, do something to keep you BUSY. After all that, you will feel better about yourself. At some point in time, she will creep on you, and when she sees that your a changed man, that's your time to shine. Good Luck!
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Old 14th February 2018, 9:10 AM   #4
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You will get over it, Time is the only factor you need, soon you will look at those posts and they will mean nothing.

Exes are specialists in the grand illusion, and only gets to you because you're the one who was dumped, others look at the posts with no second thought but we tend to think how amazing their lives have become suddenly without us, but it's social media and everyone puts up a smiling face, she may be happy / maybe not, but you must accept it's no longer your business

I believe it's very common, my ex too , was posting almost every week, either in a party or with new fr or holiday, at first if did get to me, I thought I was the obstacle to her great life she just removed and thus she could finally shine, later on I accepted it for what it was, just Facebook, nothing more. Days like today can bring back memories and nostalgia but keep up Nc, if you can't help yourself spying, try to interpret those posts in a different way, they mean absolutely nothing
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Old 14th February 2018, 10:57 AM   #5
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I am with you, you are not alone. Broke up six months ago, NC for three. We will all get there at some point
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Old 14th February 2018, 10:58 AM   #6
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Days like today can bring back memories and nostalgia but keep up Nc, if you can't help yourself spying, try to interpret those posts in a different way, they mean absolutely nothing
What a great post.
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Old 17th February 2018, 2:55 PM   #7
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I am with you, you are not alone. Broke up six months ago, NC for three. We will all get there at some point
Same here.

To OP: there is really no winner in a failed relationship. And she is no longer related to you, both her sadness and happiness are irrelevant to you -- don't keep tracking her updates, it only does bad to you.

She may appear to be shiny again, but may not be the actual life. -- tbh, I am trying to cheer up myself, and I only post positive moments to my social media, those are the moments I encourage myself to live like.

People are supposed to team up in a relationship, but our exes treated us as opponents.
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