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Coping Learning to deal with one's emotions and loss.

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Old 13th March 2019, 4:23 AM   #1396
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I'm almost at 6 weeks NC, and my how things are changing fast. I no longer think it could be you when I get a message, nor am I terribly disappointed much anymore when I see it isn't. I don't wonder if you'll pop by much anymore. I'm not even sure now that I would get back with you if you wanted to. This is such a surprise because I've wanted things to go back for so long up until recently. When you first dumped me like a bag of trash, I was still thinking you were a catch. But now I'm realizing you were equally, if not more, responsible for the problems. I'm more clearly seeing your character flaws and issues. I'm understanding how you knew you weren't going to stick around, but you let me think you were committed to buy yourself time to emotionally get a jump start on the breakup. You set me up. Who does that? What has helped me is this forum and thread, crying when I need to get my emotions out, having a person or two I can talk to about it from time to time, making improvements to my life, getting rid of reminders about you such as old texts and pictures, the fact that you aren't on social media so I can't keep up with what you're doing, etc. I also remind myself of key indicators that our relationship sucked. You're becoming just another person instead of this guy worthy of a pedestal.
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Old 17th March 2019, 4:12 AM   #1397
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Hi D_ _ _ _

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When someone dumps you, you learn how much you don't matter to them.

Give me loyalty.

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Old 17th March 2019, 4:40 PM   #1398
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I thought I was doing so much better, but I feel worse than before. Not only did you leave in a cold-blooded way, not only are you gone for good, but now I'm feeling like I'll never meet anyone else I can have a relationship with. If I were so awesome and attractive and successful, you wouldn't have ditched me. I have nowhere to go for me emotional, physical and sexual needs. You didn't even want my friendship or to be fwb. I feel completely undesirable and pathetic. I have no one to spend my vacation with anymore. All of the good things you were looking forward to in your life I've been completely shut out of. It's like there was never an us and you have it as if we never even met. Maybe you left me for good reason. I wouldn't stay with me, either. I'm beyond feeling depressed. I feel hopeless.
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Old 17th March 2019, 5:13 PM   #1399
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@GeorgiaPeach, don't stay in this frame of mind for another moment. Shake yourself. Don't let the opinion of one measly guy get to you. It's just the opinion of a person. Get your mojo back without him and with or without any other person.
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Old 17th March 2019, 7:42 PM   #1400
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He broke up with meÖnow what?
Im 29 and he is 29. My boyfriend of almost 2 months broke up with me yesterday and he said that he felt like we didnít have a mental connection. He said we can stay friends and I can call him but if not then thatís fine. Iím in a lot of pain right now I cried last night and this morning. I asked him so whatís really going on last night but he didnít respond in text. I will be surprised if he calls me ever again. Iím so confused. What does he mean he doesnít have a mental connection? He feels like he is not mentally attracted to me.. How do I get through this pain??? Iím told to wait until he contacts me. I only sent him one text after we broke up and he hasnít replied.
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Old 17th March 2019, 10:00 PM   #1401
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@Greatlove, It's hard and it sucks. There are people on here who have been through what you are experiencing now.
Things will get better in time. Don't contact him after you've had that final "closure" talk. Oh, and don't have part in that "we can be friends" thing.
Look after yourself and share with close friends you trust, if you feel you need to.
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