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Old 22nd February 2019, 2:38 PM   #1381
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You bitch.. Your call left me seething with anger. I can feel the anger coursing through my veins.. You say you called me by mistake and then on my message you drop a bomb.. You ****ing ingrate..
What the **** do you want.. I was deleting you.. You deleted me much before.. And then the lie.. **** you.. I want to call you up and shout my heart out on you. **** you..
I am writhing in pain because of you.. Are you happy now you immature selfish bitch..

Who calls an ex to tell them they are dating someone.. Have you no empathy.. You want a rise out of me. You are not getting one.. You will never get one.. Cause I am done with you..

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Old 23rd February 2019, 1:43 AM   #1382
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It's been almost two months since we've talked. I finally worked up the courage to delete our text thread on my phone tonight.. our best conversations were gone long before that.. but now I have almost erased you completely.. almost. I'm not quite ready to do it at full capacity yet. My memory wouldn't allow for that, anyway. But.. I'm getting through this. I missed you today.. but then I remembered some random yet valid reasons of why you're not good for me, and why we're just not good for each other. It's going to be a long wave of progress and regress, but I'm going to see it through. I have to get over you one day.. but a part of me hopes you'll never fully get over me.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 4:14 PM   #1383
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Hey bitch.. How you doing.. Went out with a friend. The kind I avoided when we were together.. Approached a woman.. She said no to having drinks.. But it was a pretty good night . We introduced ourselves to a couple of other women who though were not into us were still friendly.. Had a good time

Hope you are having the same with your new man.. Oh and yeah I am the catch on the 2 of us.. So **** you and everything associated with you
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Old 24th February 2019, 3:06 AM   #1384
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Goodbye forever D_ _ _ d.
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Old 24th February 2019, 6:40 PM   #1385
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I've been feeling awful lately, and I broke down crying today. The aching in my chest is so painful, especially when I wake up and remember what's happened. I'm finally getting rid of hope. You're not coming back and if you did, the same problems would be right there. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I don't need a third ticket to the circus show. So many things I'm realizing now about your behavior and true nature, and I can't even let you know because then I'd look crazy. So I have to take the L and accept that I wasn't looking out for my own best interest. Lesson learned.
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Old 25th February 2019, 12:00 AM   #1386
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23 years of marriage, the last 10 should have never happened. Back then I felt alone and I used to ask myself, "Who is going to tell me it's okay to leave my spouse who has a mental illness?" The answer was always, nobody. One year ago I finally decided on my own and 2 months ago you moved out. Now I'm reliving that pain I experienced 10 years ago all over again.

I don't hate you, I hate that your condition and my decisions has lead us to the point where I have a lifetime of memories, a lifetime of spousal support (I do hate you California) and a few days of sadness. I know the pain will pass. But right now, I hate how it feels.
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Old 25th February 2019, 8:32 PM   #1387
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Hey.. So last night as I went to bed, I was begging you to come back.. I am sure I will get over this begging phase but really I am tired of trawling the net looking for reconciliation stories..
I also had something come up in my mind.. If you don't wanna be with me how can I ask you to come back.. If there is not love what would be the point..

I don't understand your last call.. Why you stabbed me in tge heart.. Were you looking for a rise out of me. Things are well just going on. I

I oscillate thinking you might come back to thinking you wouldn't to thinking I dont want you back.. Part of me believes if I do a grand gesture you might come back but the problem is I can't.. Because they've never worked and would feel like ripping open old wounds..

I don't know when I will stop thinking about you.. Oh and by the way I am a little apprehensive crossing yiur part of town.. Don't want to run into you. The other day I had to cover my face..

Well thats it for today.. I am not sure I miss you anymore but yes you're on my mind a lot..
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Old 27th February 2019, 11:54 PM   #1388
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You're a scumbag. What kind of man goes through life wanting everything his way or the highway, regardless of the needs and feelings of the other person? What stops me right in my tracks from contacting you when I miss the good times is that I distinctly remember the sighs and eyerolls you gave when you voluntarily discussed your exes and how you didn't miss ANY of them. How you despised running into them. How you had been careless about their wants and needs. I was so foolish to think what we "had" was any different or better. Now you've thrown me in a pile with them. We should all get together and start a therapy group lol Or even better, write a tell all--proceeds going to an organization for women's emotional health. I hate the fact that you think you've gotten over on yet another person. You were always quick to describe someone else as an a**hole--another driver, a co-worker, etc. Well what about YOU???
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Old 1st March 2019, 2:52 AM   #1389
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I feel like such a fool.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 12:43 PM   #1390
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Itís been a while since I felt the need to write to you Nhu. I caved today and stalked your Facebook profile. I saw you changed your profile picture and cover photo. Your cover photo read ď#ourcottagebelowĒ. The guy you are with is very lucky. I wish I had treated you better, I wish I knew how to appreciate you before you walked away. You are such a strong woman and I can see you becoming very successful. You know how to switch off the part of the brain that loved me. Iíve noticed that girls have a better ability than guys to do this, but having said that, you have a very strong capacity to do this. Truth be told though, I needed us to end and we needed to end. It was just how it ended that could have been better, but I needed to learn the lessons, the harsh lessons from the break up. Itís truly 1 full year now since we last kissed, had sex and held hands.

I have lots of things to tell you about my life since we stopped talking. I am obviously still not over you but a lot has changed. I am now very musclar and lean, so much so, I am potentially going to enter a body building competition this year (honestly donít know if I will though, but I have been asked by many guys if I will be competing). I am also well into my ISACA studies and am studying hard. I have also been dating several girls. The current one I am seeing is Thy. She cried today, saying she wanted to be my girlfriend. Sheís a good girl, but I am unfortunately not attracted to her. The most important change though is you have matured me. You have humbled me, you have made me a better person (I hope). Aside from my parents and sister, you are next person to have had a profound impact on my life.

I genuinely hope that I am forgetting you. Maybe I need a full two years, but what is for sure, I WILL get over you fully. I am more determined than ever to move on. Having said that, I will always love you Nhu. I will always have a soft spot for you. I canít tell Thy I love her, because I donít feel it. But Nhu, I love you. I always have since we met, regardless of how much post break up pain Iíve felt, and I will continue to love you, just not as intensely as time passes, as I achieve more and eventually, when I find that new Nhu to be with.

Thank you for entering my life, hurting me so that I would change myself. I realised I wouldnít have changed if I hadnít been hurt so badly. It was better to have loved than to not have loved at all.

All the best ok? Praying that you will have a better life than me.
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Old 3rd March 2019, 3:44 PM   #1391
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I've been more or less doing ok, feeling better, until it hit me like a ton of bricks: even if you were to miss me, recognize YOU messed up too and want to return, I could never EVER trust you again. The way you walked out was cold-blooded and you didn't care that I'm a HUMAN BEING with feelings. If you've ever spent quality time with someone, had great times, been intimate, etc...there's just certain things you don't do out of common decency and respect. No one likes endings, but there's a big difference between a graceful exit and bulldozing your way out. One big lesson I've learned is that in the future, if I ever feel a man is doing the slow fade, I will bring my efforts to a screeching halt, do a 180 after reversing, a speed in the opposite direction. The days of me second guessing my intuition and being naive and overly trusting are GONE. I'm no longer the same person.
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Old 4th March 2019, 9:14 AM   #1392
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Today is day 10 full NC (including not checking your social media), day 22 since last contact (I fell into the birthday text trap because I was having a low moment and it happened to be your birthday) and day 1,425 since our final 'breakup' - though, by the end, I wasn't sure if we were even in a relationship anymore, or if the diminishing returns had reduced us to just sleeping together.

Today I told my new therapist about you, and about what happened back then. I only had time to give a brief outline of the main bits - how enamoured I was in the beginning, your jealousy, my refusal to let go... how it split me down the middle between my rational side, which knew along what I needed to do, and the needy child side, whose demands always won out in the end.

After the session, I cried because I remembered all the pain from that experience. Even though it's been nearly five years since we met, I've had to accept that some part of that experience still bothers me and brings me down. This is the case, despite my fantastic 2018 when I didn't contact you or check your social media once. Not once.

Look, I don't want you back. Never, ever. I don't want you. I want you to get out of my head and to stop thinking about you whenever things go a bit wrong in my present, and much better, life. You re-created a struggle for me from my childhood, that's all it was, and by God I'm going to get to the bottom of it, process it, and let it go once and for all. One day, you're gonna be so far from my mind.
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Old 6th March 2019, 9:15 AM   #1393
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You had 4 other children, one in foster care, you refer to the son in foster care as your son but our son as the boy. You have never taken any responsibility for your actions. I pity you to be honest. I am angry at myself for being so stupid and not telling you when I had the chance how selfish and dishonest you really are. I am fortunate that you are not in my life but absolutely disgusted that some women would be foolish enough to marry you. I spent day in and day out alone raising our son and you don't even give us financial support. Screw you! You don't deserve us in your life and are nothing but a waste of time. I don't regret you because my son is the best thing that happened to me, but I do regret not telling you what I really think of you when I had the chance.

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Old 9th March 2019, 12:29 AM   #1394
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I'm falling into the stage of depression. The days you're off are worse because I wonder whether (hope) you'll pop over. I've been reading about breakup stages for both dumper and dumpee, and I see that you're probably thrilled to be out of the relationship. You're probably hanging out with friends, going new places, and probably dating someone else. If I knew for sure you've slept with someone new, it would help me move on, but you aren't on social media. I just feel like a lost, sad little puppy. I have vacation coming up, but what's the point if I have no one to spend it with. I feel utterly alone while everyone I know seems to be in a happy, fun relationship, getting married, starting a family, etc. I want to move forward, but I just don't know how to go about it.
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Old 10th March 2019, 12:20 AM   #1395
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Hey.. itís me. Itís getting harder and harder to keep away. I miss you more than I can even describe. I wonder if you still think of me.

A friend told me you were asking about me and I tried not to let it get to me but my heart almost exploded. I am trying to move on, Jason, but every little thing reignites that fire. Iíve never loved anyone the way I love you and Iím so scared of losing that. I would give almost anything to hear your voice. I wish you were still in my life. Everyone said letting you go would set me free, so how come I feel worse than I ever have before? Jason, what am I going to do without you? Please help me I donít know what to do. Iím not happy. Iím so empty without you. Iím lost. Help me.
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