nowwhatnow Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 help! its been a year since the BU. i dont even know why i do it, all it does it make me crazy. i guess it is just kinda a way of staying close to him, even when i am excluded from what is going on in his life. but why can i not stop? i have to, all it does is upset me, especially when i do not find anything about me... Link to post Share on other sites
omkara Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 That sucks. I still don't know what you're talking about though. Do you know your ex's passwords? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nowwhatnow Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 That sucks. I still don't know what you're talking about though. Do you know your ex's passwords? yes i know his passwords Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 yes i know his passwords Does he know some how that your looking at his stuff? That seems wrong on sooo many levels. Think of it this way. How would you like it if he was doing this to you? Do unto others....ya know Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 trust me you have to stop, it will only make you hurt for longer. It isn't worth you doing anymore. It has been a year you have to TRY and move on. Have you made any other friends? Something that helped me was that I went out and made new friends, and I didn't want them to know about my ex and what happened to us. I wanted to just start a new chapter in my life that had no record of her or us. I also had a strong couple that encouraged me to let go and move on. The husband has been a REALLY solid friend and the wife has given me advice on what changes I need to make to meet and retain a healthy LADY in my life and what failures and mistakes I made in my last relationship that I can not make in my next one. Checking your ex's email is just bad for you and if you do see something it probably won't be good anyways!!! I can tell you this from experience no good will come from it. Plus he probably went and made another account. Link to post Share on other sites
omkara Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Not only is that stalker-ish, it's an invasion of privacy. I would stop doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
fiat500 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 You really have to force yourself to stop. This facebook thing is causing you unnecessary stress. Scramble the passwords in your mind so you can forget about them. You already know this isn't healthy. Food for thought: the more you want an ex to think about you, the more they won't. So the more you look on his facebook for you, you're never going to find it. Just try to rewire yourself and pretend to not care even if you don't feel it. Your ex will probably think about you once YOU forget about HIM. Link to post Share on other sites
Badenov Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Believe it or not, I'm in the EXACT same situation. I know it's wrong, but I keep thinking I'll find something to give me hope . . . or at least knowing what's going on in her life, which in itself is breaking NC. The motivation I'm using to resist the temptation is to imagine how embarrassing it would be if I got caught. And believe me, the more you do something like this, the odds of getting caught get better & better. Think of yourself as being in a casino. You've gotten lucky so far, so grab your chips & get out before your luck changes. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 trust me you have to stop, it will only make you hurt for longer. It isn't worth you doing anymore. It has been a year you have to TRY and move on. Have you made any other friends? Something that helped me was that I went out and made new friends, and I didn't want them to know about my ex and what happened to us. I wanted to just start a new chapter in my life that had no record of her or us. I also had a strong couple that encouraged me to let go and move on. The husband has been a REALLY solid friend and the wife has given me advice on what changes I need to make to meet and retain a healthy LADY in my life and what failures and mistakes I made in my last relationship that I can not make in my next one. Checking your ex's email is just bad for you and if you do see something it probably won't be good anyways!!! I can tell you this from experience no good will come from it. Plus he probably went and made another account. I totally agree. Meeting other people that don't know your ex at all, really helps. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 as other posters have already said, you just have to stop. i drove myself nuts checking the ex's facbook status literally every other minute. all it did was bring my misery. i finally asked myself: why am i putting myself through this misery when i really don't have to?? that was that - - it's been nearly a year and i haven't checked his facebook since and i am *much* happier for it Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I dk about others on the site but I think I hate facebook or as I like to call it fakebook.... Pretty easy to make your life look glamorous, but truly living it is a whole other animal... Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I dk about others on the site but I think I hate facebook or as I like to call it fakebook.... Pretty easy to make your life look glamorous, but truly living it is a whole other animal... I agree!! I dont do face book or my space. I think, No I know am better off for it. I see all the drama it causes here on this site and from my family members that do face book. And the fact that my ex left me to date women he met on there didnt help. FYI its one year later and hes still on there looking for smone!!!I like that FAKEBOOK,,everyone trys to make it look like their all happy. But in real life it aint like that. Nothing beats the real thing!!! Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I agree!! I dont do face book or my space. I think, No I know am better off for it. I see all the drama it causes here on this site and from my family members that do face book. And the fact that my ex left me to date women he met on there didnt help. FYI its one year later and hes still on there looking for smone!!!I like that FAKEBOOK,,everyone trys to make it look like their all happy. But in real life it aint like that. Nothing beats the real thing!!! You are welcome to take my saying out west!!! I think that fakebook can be used for good reasons but I think that people are learning to live without privacy. I turned mine off but it took a solid 7 or 8 months post breakup to finally pull the trigger. MAN was I relived when I did!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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