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Made it Through the 1 Year Mark - but Why Do I Still Feel Wretched?


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Old 26th March 2011, 3:35 PM   #16
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Your situation sounds like the rel has long been done but the activity is mostly in your head. You have to learn how to train your brain. Every time his thought comes up, immediately think of something else. What I do is I write out "No contact", "He's an as$hole" in script in my head over and over again when the thoughts come up and it helps me.
Lol. I like that!

I know: me and my crazy head, trying to make sense of the whys, the hows and the wherefores. I had planned to make 2011 about me - but it's still becoming about him. Urgh!

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This hits the nail on the head for me. I was not being honest with myself. And your life has to begin with being honest to yourself, otherwise you will be living a lie. I knew my ex was no good for me but yet decided to stay with him year after year, until he finally played me. Be honest with yourselves people. You must ask yourselves the difficult questions and answer them honestly and act accordingly. All rel. have red flags and you must look at these red flags and be honest to yourself. Don't be blind like I did. If I had been honest with myself and faced reality, I could have saved myself a lot of heartache.
Yes! We mustn't be afraid of saying what we want; how we feel; what we expect. I wasted time waiting for things to settle down when in the end all I had to do was ask. I never did and the relationship just died a slow, painful (well, for me anyway) death.
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Old 27th March 2011, 3:10 AM   #17
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nah the trip was perfect. we were perfect. some of my best memories.

its when we came back and hit reality that he was gone. he never told me why. and that is why im still waiting.
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Old 27th March 2011, 3:45 AM   #18
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nah the trip was perfect. we were perfect. some of my best memories.

its when we came back and hit reality that he was gone. he never told me why. and that is why im still waiting.
Ooh, harsh. I'm sorry to hear that.

Just goes to prove that we can never really know what goes on in someone's head. It takes a whole load of emotional maturity to be able to be that open.
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