Community Forums

Reload this Page Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Coping

It's been awhile

Coping Learning to deal with one's emotions and loss.

LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 14th March 2010, 4:41 AM   #1
Established Member
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 96
It's been awhile

Hey everyone.
It's been a while since I have posted on here. It's been about 8 months since the break up. I've been doing a lot better. It does get better for those of you that are still struggling.
But the thing is...I can't stop thinking about her. I mean, I'm fine now. But she is always on my mind still. It's crazy.
Anyone else feeling the same thing? I'm not sure what's with it, but it's kind of annoying.
nathan0726 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 14th March 2010, 4:51 AM   #2
Established Member
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 96
That's exactly how it is for me. Crazy, right? Not sure what to do about it though. I mean, I guess I can't really DO anything. Just gotta let time pass, and see what is going to happen. Who knows..
nathan0726 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 14th March 2010, 11:08 AM   #3
Established Member
monkeymaid's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 466
sounds like you guys are on the mend. ...good job!

perhaps it is your brain working out the last bit of trauma she/he dealt out, and once dealt with, they will definately be an afterthought.

keep it up.

im 2 weeks out of a breakup and im dead. ...i would KILL to be where you guys are
perspective...i feel dead, nothing reminds me of her, and i am out for a run, then i remember that we used to run together, and i broke down on the side of the trail crying like a little bitch. or i went to the movies and remembered goofing around with her and being all close, and then bam, no girl next to me and i cry through the rest of the movie.

u guys are doin just fine!
monkeymaid is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 15th March 2010, 5:47 PM   #4
Established Member
USMCHokie's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Northern California
Posts: 15,280
+1,000,000 to everything said in this thread...I'm at about 7 months or so...
Ad hominem - attacks on a person rather than on the validity of evidence or an argument
Reductio Ad Absurdum - argument that an extreme of a position must be true as well
False Dilemma - giving two extremes as the only alternatives to a position
Confirmation Bias - considering only evidence favorable to one's own position
USMCHokie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 15th March 2010, 8:36 PM   #5
Established Member
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 125
Same's been about 6 months, and I am doing better, but yeah, a day does not go by that I don't think of him. Sometimes it's good thoughts, and sometimes it's not. I keep wishing this will's making me crazy. I feel like my mind is taken over...
phoenix1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 17th March 2010, 12:33 AM   #6
Established Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 53
I'm at 7 months. For the most part, I'm 1000% better than the first couple of months (severe insomnia, weight loss, borderline suicidal thoughts).

I totally relate though. Every once in awhile, I will relapse (usually after a heavy night of drinking) into the same depressed, whiny, little b@#$$ that I was before. It's a tough fight, and there are times when I fear regression.

But deep down...I think we all know we will one day be OK. It's just a matter of patience, and it's certainly lasted a lot longer than I would have predicted, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

One thing that helps me a lot is just realizing that there is plenty of time still. My biggest fear before was that I'd spend the rest of my life moping over her. But hell, I'm about to turn 27. Even if it's another year (and I know it won't be that long), I still have plenty of time left on the runway. And I'm sure the same is true for the rest of you, even if you are 35, 45, or 55.

Now we just have to spend the time to continue to better ourselves, until we are that much better than we were before.
quarterlifecrisis is offline   Reply With Quote


Thread Tools
Display Modes


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
It's been awhile..... mendsley Coping 2 8th August 2009 7:10 PM
Its been awhile... fabulousgal Coping 1 2nd May 2009 4:25 PM
It's been awhile saturnsfall Coping 4 21st January 2009 9:06 PM
Boy has it been awhile!! Babybird The Other Man / Woman 20 26th August 2008 10:06 PM
its been awhile wx3 Second Chances 17 12th April 2007 11:48 PM

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 5:14 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.

Copyright © 1997-2018 All Rights Reserved.