I can’t believe he did this just thinking about it make makes me mad

[Mylovelifeisinshams]

***if anyone knows anything about the law & such please read this I need advice****

 

So me and my ex broke up 4 weeks ago I believe and I had an item at his house that I asked him to send to me he agreed that he would send it. So on his days off I would just shoot him at text like “just a reminder” so he would call me saying he loves me and ants to talk casually but not date but I refused because he just wants me to stick around and still feel like we’re together.

 

So I asked him directly does he want me to move on he said yes I don’t want to have control over your life so I said okay then let me move on in peace. 2 weeks go by still haven’t received my stuff he said the post office was closed 3 weeks go by he claimed to forget it in someone’s car. Then now I’m on vacation just recently and we are on FaceTime he’s asking me if I’m talking to other people if I’m giving my number out, if I’m dancing with other guys in the club and I answered no but I completely forgot I danced with this guy in the club and my friend posted it on snap after we get off the phone the next day he calls and says he wants nothing to do with me and I’m a liar and I’m not getting anything back and that he’s gonna cut it up.

 

So I’m like why are you angry you broke up with me you told me to move on I just forgot just relax please. So then the next day he came to the conclusion that he wanted me to pay for it. After that I was so angry I threatened to send his nudes to his job just to scare him I never would tho Ik about revenge porn I’m really not evil or spiteful. After I said that he threatened to kill me and he said he’s actually willing to go to jail.

 

After that I told him I wasn’t going to do that but then he texted me the next morning saying he contacted his lawyer and I can go to jail for even sending him the nudes message and how him and his family are reporting it and getting paperwork in order because he’s being harassed. Can I go to jail for this?

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[ExpatInItaly]

You need to stop communicating with him. The man threatened to kill you, OP.

 

This sounds like quite an abusive dynamic you two have going on. Was he abusive during the relationship? How long were you together, and how old are you both? Why did you break up? I am sensing this is not the first time he's exploded. He is angry that you're not under his thumb anymore, and tough cookies for him if you were dancing with someone else at the club. It's zero business of his. Stop the FaceTiming, stop all contact. Unless you badly need back whatever belongings he has of yours, I would chalk it up as a loss. He's going to continue using that as a way to control and manipulate you.

 

None of us here can give you legal advice. We don't know where you are located, nor the laws in your area. You need to consult a lawyer. My strong suspicion is that he is just trying to scare you and has not spoken to the police at all; you are extremely unlikely to be sent to jail for threatening to send his nude photos to anyone. He is grasping at straws because he's mad at you. Do not send him any more messages whatsoever. This dude is not playing with a full deck and you need to be done with him.

[Mylovelifeisinshams]

He wasn’t abusive he did have a temper though.we dated for a year he’s 26 I’m 23. He broke up with me because he said he’s not ready to be in a relationship and wants to focus on himself .

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[assertives]

Tell him you are going to the police too because he for real threatened to kill you and even said he wouldn't mind going to jail for it!

[hippychick3]

Um, I’m pretty sure that threatening to kill you trumps threatening to send nudes. Find a lawyer or get advice from legal aid so you can get your stuff back and be done with this loser. Let him know you’ll be pressing charges for his threat to kill you and not returning your stuff if he doesn’t return it all by a certain date. Then STOP engaging with him.

[ExpatInItaly]

He wasn’t abusive he did have a temper though.we dated for a year he’s 26 I’m 23. He broke up with me because he said he’s not ready to be in a relationship and wants to focus on himself .

 

Believe me when I say he did you a giant favour by breaking up with you.

 

He is not stable. Rational, emotionally-balanced adults do not go around threatening to kill people just because they're angry. You're seeing the tip of the iceberg with this person, and thank goodness you will not have the misfortune of discovering who he really is. I promise, it's worse than you realize.

 

What is it you need back from him?

[sandrawg]

I'm pretty sure this guy's an idiot and you can't go to jail for threatening to send nudes to his boss.

 

However, HE can go to jail for threatening to kill you.

 

I'd get a restraining order if I were you.

[preraph]

Yep, threatening to kill you trumps nudes. But you need to save the communication. So stop talking on the phone and only email or text and save it. You may need to go to Small Claims Court if you're in the U.S. There are fees you'd have to pay up front, maybe $300, but if he's found wrong, he has to pay the fees and give you your thing back or pay for it too, so hope you have photos or a receipt and if no receipt and only photos, get it appraised and a paper on that to take to court.

 

I would try reporting him to the police, but without you having proof of his threat, it's he said/she said.

[MetallicHue]

The guy sounds like a psycho. Unless highly valuable I don’t think it’s worth the trouble dealing with him. Restraining order please and definitely do not lose that text!