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Old 14th March 2019, 1:53 PM   #61
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Dark enough in Canada in the winter without living behind closed blinds. At night, fine. In the day, no. I could be sitting in the dark all summer for all I know.
Dark enough in Canada, yes. And yet, my blinds are often closed during the day and night to protect my privacy. It’s not ideal, as we need all the sunshine and natural light we can get. But it can be done, if needed.
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Old 14th March 2019, 4:03 PM   #62
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I mean, this is statement... come on, do you really think so? First off, he doesn't have a job... second of all nobody drives past someone's house for hours unless they're obsessed.

Why, may I ask, are you insisting this is MY problem? You seem to have taken a rather hostile stance.

Just because a situation isn't dangerous doesn't make it pleasant or acceptable or something I should just have to put up with.
its not a "hostile" stance. i'm just trying to help you

is moving an option? what if you lay some spike strips in the road in front of your house?
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Old 14th March 2019, 4:09 PM   #63
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That was my suggestion fair. And by “third party,” I meant police. I personally wouldn’t want to put anyone in the uncomfortable position of sending this kind of message to my ex. What happens if he does become confrontational? That’s not fair to ask someone else to deal with - it’s not their responsibility. I would either text him directly, or call the police.
I agree. I think that's likely to cause more drama than it solves.

If he's the type that is genuinely spying on you, OP, he's obviously not playing with a full deck. I don't think asking someone who isn't the authorities to chat with him is a responsible or wise decision.
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Old 14th March 2019, 4:21 PM   #64
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Dark enough in Canada in the winter without living behind closed blinds. At night, fine. In the day, no. I could be sitting in the dark all summer for all I know.
I thought you wanted a low impact solution. You can leave all the blinds open which don't fact the road. Of course, if you don't like low impact, go to the police.

Unless you'd prefer to just do nothing and simply complain about it?
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Old 14th March 2019, 6:06 PM   #65
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It's his word against mine at this point.
Don't they have cameras on phones in Canada?
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Old 14th March 2019, 8:49 PM   #66
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I thought you wanted a low impact solution. You can leave all the blinds open which don't fact the road. Of course, if you don't like low impact, go to the police.

Unless you'd prefer to just do nothing and simply complain about it?
I don't have any windows that don't face the road. Even my bedroom window faces the road. Honestly, if I could have the blinds closed in the daytime without being suffocated by darkness I would do it.
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:01 PM   #67
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what if you lay some spike strips in the road in front of your house?
At this point that doesn't sound like such a bad idea.

I suppose it would be wrong involving someone else in this by asking them to talk to him for me. It's just, you have to understand I don't see him as someone who is dangerous or unstable. Nobody around here does. It's more like someone who is just being an idiot. He would probably just deny he's been doing it but would stop at that point. He's very concerned about his reputation, which he's carefully manufactured.

This isn't 'routine' behaviour for most people and he's not the most stellar human being but I don't think it indicates he's unstable. Sometimes people are just … dumb.

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Old 14th March 2019, 9:38 PM   #68
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Yeah l think it's a big ask for a friend and it could get messy come back on them who knows.
Not fair on them.
Don't worry , the cops are use to this stuff and know how to keep it low key and with as little fuss as possible, and they'd be use to him of course denying it.. l'd think just warning him in a text would be enough anyway.
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Old 14th March 2019, 9:43 PM   #69
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Personally, I would send a text that says “Stop driving by my house or I will call the police.”

And chilli is right, the police are used to this... they would knock on his door, offer a friendly reminder to mind your privacy, and that would be all. I too think that would be enough to scare most people into changing their driving habits...
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