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Old 28th February 2018, 2:27 PM   #76
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No one knows that except for the only two people involved in that situation -- your ex and the other woman.
I dont understand 1 thing. They only met for 2 weeks. Then what made them hold onto each other after all this time? Why couldnt he build this connection with me :/
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Old 28th February 2018, 2:42 PM   #77
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I dont understand 1 thing. They only met for 2 weeks. Then what made them hold onto each other after all this time? Why couldnt he build this connection with me :/
He couldn't build that connection with you because he didn't feel the same way about you. I've had several relationships in my life and men have left me and moved on to other women, and built their lives with them. Does that mean that I wasn't valuable or worthy? No, it just means that they weren't compatible for me and that my journey was leading me elsewhere -- and it has and now I see why life happened the way it did.

Relationships end. Whether through a breakup, a divorce, death, the prospect of a new love interest -- it ends. You're going to go through loss again and it's going to hurt. Not every man that comes into your life is going to stay with you indefinitely. Not every man that comes into your life is going be the one. When they do leave you, the rejection is painful but the lesson is to never allow it to define your worth. She's not better than you nor are you better than her. You're two different women and unfortunately he feels he is better suited and feels he has a better connection with her. It has happened to most of us on LS. And if he chooses her, that is not a reflection on you.
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Old 28th February 2018, 3:05 PM   #78
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He couldn't build that connection with you because he didn't feel the same way about you. I've had several relationships in my life and men have left me and moved on to other women, and built their lives with them. Does that mean that I wasn't valuable or worthy? No, it just means that they weren't compatible for me and that my journey was leading me elsewhere -- and it has and now I see why life happened the way it did.

Relationships end. Whether through a breakup, a divorce, death, the prospect of a new love interest -- it ends. You're going to go through loss again and it's going to hurt. Not every man that comes into your life is going to stay with you indefinitely. Not every man that comes into your life is going be the one. When they do leave you, the rejection is painful but the lesson is to never allow it to define your worth. She's not better than you nor are you better than her. You're two different women and unfortunately he feels he is better suited and feels he has a better connection with her. It has happened to most of us on LS. And if he chooses her, that is not a reflection on you.
Well what was so striking about her that he couldnt get over her after all these months. That bugs me. Why even date me when he still had her somewhere in his heart or mind
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Old 28th February 2018, 3:08 PM   #79
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Well what was so striking about her that he couldnt get over her after all these months. That bugs me. Why even date me when he still had her somewhere in his heart or mind
It was an attraction that he had -- you can't control how someone feels about another.

Unfortunately, sometimes people date to get over someone. It happens but better you knew 4 months in rather than later.
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Old 28th February 2018, 3:19 PM   #80
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It was an attraction that he had -- you can't control how someone feels about another.

Unfortunately, sometimes people date to get over someone. It happens but better you knew 4 months in rather than later.
But it didnt work for him at all. Otherwise why would he go and talk to her.
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Old 28th February 2018, 3:22 PM   #81
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But it didnt work for him at all. Otherwise why would he go and talk to her.
Natasha, you are obsessing. He told you he still has feelings for her. He ended the relationship. You don't want to be with someone that feels for another while in a relationship with you.

Stop trying to figure out what, when and how. You'll never get the answers.
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Old 16th March 2018, 4:31 AM   #82
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Natasha, you are obsessing. He told you he still has feelings for her. He ended the relationship. You don't want to be with someone that feels for another while in a relationship with you.

Stop trying to figure out what, when and how. You'll never get the answers.
Hes still not with her. He was only being nice?
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Old 16th March 2018, 6:31 AM   #83
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Hes still not with her. He was only being nice?
He does not want a relationship with you. Period. Everything else is irrelevant.

Iím not sure why itís been so hard for you to focus on that one, most important fact but rather youíre skirting around that and obsessing over details that do not matter.

Heís still not choosing to be with you even though he isnít with her. And stop stalking there lives. Focus on your own.
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Old 16th March 2018, 6:33 AM   #84
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He does not want a relationship with you. Period. Everything else is irrelevant.

Iím not sure why itís been so hard for you to focus on that one, most important fact but rather youíre skirting around that and obsessing over details that do not matter.

Heís still not choosing to be with you even though he isnít with her. And stop stalking there lives. Focus on your own.
Forget about me. As everyone said he likes her so im asking about them. The universities in uk had 1 month strike so he hasnt been there and he hasnt seen her coz students arent coming.
Is that why? I mean what makes you think so strongly he likes her?
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Old 16th March 2018, 6:48 AM   #85
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Forget about me. As everyone said he likes her so im asking about them. The universities in uk had 1 month strike so he hasnt been there and he hasnt seen her coz students arent coming.
Is that why? I mean what makes you think so strongly he likes her?
Youíre asking questions that no one can answer, EXCEPT HIM. No one on this planet can tell you whatís going on in his head. No one can give you the answers to your obsessive questions about his every move. Unless youíre tied to his and her hip 24/7, stop speculating their every move.

Whatís apparent, fact and reality is that he does not want a relationship with you AND he told you he has feelings for her = he likes/loves her. Whether itís the reason as to why he ended with you, ONLY HE KNOWS.

His feelings for YOU however arenít strong enough to make him want to be with you. This is your REALITY. Move forward with what you know. The rest is all irrelevant noise in your head.

Your ego canít stand that he may be choosing someone else over you. Itís happened to mostly all of us at some point in our life. You accept it and move on. You donít sit there and obsess over their every move because you absolutely cannot embrace being rejected. The sooner you learn how to deal with, the sooner you heal and move on.
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Old 16th March 2018, 6:48 AM   #86
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Forget about me. As everyone said he likes her so im asking about them. The universities in uk had 1 month strike so he hasnt been there and he hasnt seen her coz students arent coming.
Is that why? I mean what makes you think so strongly he likes her?
Your answers are in the information you provided in this thread, OP.

This isn't about him or her anymore. It's about your unwillingness to move on.
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Old 16th March 2018, 11:41 AM   #87
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Youíre asking questions that no one can answer, EXCEPT HIM. No one on this planet can tell you whatís going on in his head. No one can give you the answers to your obsessive questions about his every move. Unless youíre tied to his and her hip 24/7, stop speculating their every move.

Whatís apparent, fact and reality is that he does not want a relationship with you AND he told you he has feelings for her = he likes/loves her. Whether itís the reason as to why he ended with you, ONLY HE KNOWS.

His feelings for YOU however arenít strong enough to make him want to be with you. This is your REALITY. Move forward with what you know. The rest is all irrelevant noise in your head.

Your ego canít stand that he may be choosing someone else over you. Itís happened to mostly all of us at some point in our life. You accept it and move on. You donít sit there and obsess over their every move because you absolutely cannot embrace being rejected. The sooner you learn how to deal with, the sooner you heal and move on.
Well his feelings for her are not stromg enough either?
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Old 16th March 2018, 11:47 AM   #88
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Well what was so striking about her that he couldnt get over her after all these months. That bugs me. Why even date me when he still had her somewhere in his heart or mind
It could be any number of things but most likely he has better chemistry with her and can't get over her. He was trying to date others hoping his feelings for her would fade and go away; but they didn't. It has nothing to do with you or what you did or didn't do.
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Old 16th March 2018, 11:59 AM   #89
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Well his feelings for her are not stromg enough either?
What is it that you are not getting? If he said he still has feelings for her that is all you need to know. Why they aren't together (at this point and time) is their business.
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Old 16th March 2018, 12:23 PM   #90
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It could be any number of things but most likely he has better chemistry with her and can't get over her. He was trying to date others hoping his feelings for her would fade and go away; but they didn't. It has nothing to do with you or what you did or didn't do.
How are u so sure his feelings for her didnt fade?I
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