walkingonair Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 I haven't spoken to him for 4 months he reached out once before and I ignored he has texted again today and said that he's thinking of me and hopes im well and that he won't message me again after this but just wanted to let me know that he's doing OK... Does this deserve a response guys? Or is this just breadcrumbs? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 I would text him back. "Who's this" 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 This was a excellent advice. I do charge for my services. Where do I send the invoice????? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Do it I dare you!!! Cmon and let's see if he replies:cool: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 Do it I dare you!!! Cmon and let's see if he replies:cool: Great advice! But I'm such a wuss ? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Great advice! But I'm such a wuss ? This could be a defining moment in your life. Take the challenge!!!!! Do it!!!! Do it now!!!! We must work on your sense of humor. Please do not waste my intellectual talent. This was a masterpiece and you know it 3 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 I would text him back. "Who's this" This is dumb. What year do we live in? He knows that she knows what his phone number is. They were in a relationship. Not to mention, the whole: "Who's this???" line is so cliche. It's almost right up there with, "It's not you, it's me." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xcupid Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Ignore him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Think of it as well thought out revenge! Yeah think of the worst he treated you and just hit send:eek: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 This is dumb. What year do we live in? He knows that she knows what his phone number is. They were in a relationship. Not to mention, the whole: "Who's this???" line is so cliche. It's almost right up there with, "It's not you, it's me." It was supposed to be funny. A joke, chill out 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 I'm worried to respond because he probably is texting me just to see if he has me and just relieve his guilt. He's in another state far from me. I want a relationship not friends with benefits:( 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Seriously, why do you not have him blocked? That way you'll never have to be reminded. My first response get at least a giggle? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
callingyouuu Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 I'm worried to respond because he probably is texting me just to see if he has me and just relieve his guilt. I'd be worried about this, too. I wouldn't respond until he clearly expresses that something has changed. Anything less is meaningless. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 29, 2015 Author Share Posted November 29, 2015 I'd be worried about this, too. I wouldn't respond until he clearly expresses that something has changed. Anything less is meaningless. Yes you're right!! Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I haven't spoken to him for 4 months he reached out once before and I ignored he has texted again today and said that he's thinking of me and hopes im well and that he won't message me again after this but just wanted to let me know that he's doing OK... Does this deserve a response guys? Or is this just breadcrumbs? As much as I enjoyed Marc878's sarcastic "Snidley Whiplash"-esque advice, no, it doesn't deserve a response. It's straight up bread crumbs. His thing fell through or he's feeling sorry for himself and needs you to help him feel better about dumping you. He's trying to put the hook back in your cheek. More to the point, why isn't he on block already? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 As much as I enjoyed Marc878's sarcastic "Snidley Whiplash"-esque advice, no, it doesn't deserve a response. It's straight up bread crumbs. His thing fell through or he's feeling sorry for himself and needs you to help him feel better about dumping you. He's trying to put the hook back in your cheek. More to the point, why isn't he on block already? Thank you for your response! I won't respond, it's either relationship or ignoring. I'm such a wuss to block ? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Maybe this is your opportunity to finally sever ties with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I had an ex visit me after 2 years of nc.....he was still the same jack ass as before. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 Problem is i still have feelings for him. I also don't understand why hes telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing OK. And before this text he also Texted me telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing real well..... Why is he telling me that he's doing good? I never asked!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
antimanchild Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Problem is i still have feelings for him. I also don't understand why hes telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing OK. And before this text he also Texted me telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing real well..... Why is he telling me that he's doing good? I never asked!!!! He probably wants to know that you care if he's doing well. Agree with the others - NC. He needs to deal with the consequences of his decision. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) he won't message me again after this but just wanted to let me know that he's doing OK... Haha... if someone is doing ok, they don't need to send a message saying they are ok. He is clearly not ok, that is why he is messaging you. Sounds like he is insecure for some reason and has overcompensated with this silly comment. He has also stated this will be his last message LOL, possibly to get a response from you to pacify his insecurities. Not sure what his motivations are but its sounds like his ego is dented (even though it sounds like he was the dumper). If you keep strong and stay NC, he might come crawling back. Male dumpers have been known to do that purely out of ego. Not saying you should take him back should it happen. At this stage he has given you nothing worth responding to. Edited November 30, 2015 by marky00 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Problem is i still have feelings for him. I also don't understand why hes telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing OK. And before this text he also Texted me telling me that he just wants me to know that he's doing real well..... Why is he telling me that he's doing good? I never asked!!!! Manipulation. If he wanted to get back with you, he'd be at your front door talking to you. He knows this, but isn't doing it. He's trying to see if he can get back in your bed. If you dont' want to be manipulated, block him. He has also stated this will be his last message LOL, possibly to get a response from you to pacify his insecurities. "Yeah... this is my last message to you. I'm going now. Yep. Out the door. I'm doing great, though. Really great. Ok. I'm going. Ok. Bye... See you later... call you sometime? Yeah, ok... bye.." Reminds me of the smarmy character John in the British series "Last Tango in Halifax". Edited November 30, 2015 by kendahke 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) Haha... if someone is doing ok, they don't need to send a message saying they are ok. He is clearly not ok, that is why he is messaging you. Sounds like he is insecure for some reason and has overcompensated with this silly comment. He has also stated this will be his last message LOL, possibly to get a response from you to pacify his insecurities. Not sure what his motivations are but its sounds like his ego is dented (even though it sounds like he was the dumper). If you keep strong and stay NC, he might come crawling back. Male dumpers have been known to do that purely out of ego. Not saying you should take him back should it happen. At this stage he has given you nothing worth responding to. I agree! In the past he actually told me that he has low self esteem and that he's terrified of rejection. Hes the type of person that wants to be liked by everyone. So him reaching out is because he's being selfish, all about his ego He lives in another state, theres no point in us talking. I'm not gonna be his friend with benefits. Edited November 30, 2015 by walkingonair Link to post Share on other sites
Author walkingonair Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 Manipulation. If he wanted to get back with you, he'd be at your front door talking to you. He knows this, but isn't doing it. He's trying to see if he can get back in your bed. If you dont' want to be manipulated, block him. "Yeah... this is my last message to you. I'm going now. Yep. Out the door. I'm doing great, though. Really great. Ok. I'm going. Ok. Bye... See you later... call you sometime? Yeah, ok... bye.." Reminds me of the smarmy character John in the British series "Last Tango in Halifax". Thank you! You're right!! It's all about him, him reaching out has nothing to do with me. He moved for no reason after we dated for a year, he abandoned me. Thinks he can have me on his time, but I'm not giving in. It sucks how they hurt us and then expect us to be OK ? Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) "It's not you, it's me."Except when you think about it, that is 100% true. It isn't you. You didn't do anything wrong or bad. It IS them. I haven't spoken to him for 4 months he reached out once before and I ignored he has texted again today and said that he's thinking of me and hopes im well and that he won't message me again after this but just wanted to let me know that he's doing OK... Does this deserve a response guys? Or is this just breadcrumbs?That's just bait, to see if you'll bite. It's nice and harmless, and it threatens you with banishment if you don't respond. It's an ultimatum wrapped in sugar. If he just wanted to let you know he's doing OK, mission accomplished. Now you know. Edited November 30, 2015 by mightycpa 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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