JonjMie Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Trying to think this morning, what is it that gives me that heart ache, I went on a date with a much more beautiful and tactile girl last night and going out again Saturday but........... specifically for me Ass Talking Figure Her home was nice familiarity I cant really put my finger on it Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I think people miss their idealized versions we have of our ex's, but when it comes to a reality check and finally realize who they really are, there's not a whole lot to miss that you couldn't find elsewhere. I think one of the benefits of breaking up is taking advantage of the growth and in time you realize there's a better fit out there. Link to post Share on other sites
unforgotten Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 JonjMie, this won't help. Why don't we rather make a list of things we hated about them?! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 It would be much more entertaining reading what people don't miss about their ex 1 Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 umm... *racking my brain* .... nothing really. I guess the way he smelled. But that was the cologne he wore, not him Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 The way he smelled. Even then it was his cologne or deodorant. Having company although his moods drove me up the wall. The very occasional moments when he showed care. Pretty short list. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 It would be much more entertaining reading what people don't miss about their ex Hah! Now that would be a lengthy list ! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Her stunningly fashionable and very expensive range of replica football tops. (mine). Consigned to a distant and flagging memory. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Seeker12 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Do you guys think that what you miss and dont miss is ultimately dictated by how the break up happened? What i miss about my ex - her smile her teeth and eyes the way she would laugh was very cute when she was angry her maturity and the way she was with me specifically Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Hah! Now that would be a lengthy list ! Haha tell me about it! Let me get my notepad out.. This is going to take a while Link to post Share on other sites
An0nymiss666 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 -His looks, everything about them. Even his "flaws" -The sex, intimacy -How understanding and loving he was and could be -He was mature.....in some aspects -My parents loved him -We didn't ever have big issues -He was loyal -We had a good and healthy relationship He was nice and a gentleman to a certain point. We all miss how things were when they were good. Of course they all have good aspects and traits or else we would've never dated them. I guess you can look back on the good things and memories but it's more important to remember why you aren't and shouldn't be together. I'm sure in my future I'll still miss him even when I see other guys, but there's still reasons we didn't work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JonjMie Posted January 29, 2015 Author Share Posted January 29, 2015 JonjMie, this won't help. Why don't we rather make a list of things we hated about them?! I get you, but for me its part of the healing process, I'm only 23 days in NC and BU but feeling stronger and better every day, I sometimes actually smile and remember the good stuff in between the heart ache, its a roller coaster at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveIsMyReligion Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Longest relationship and 2 years later I miss nothing! Nice person, cute girl, but we were very incompatible. I learned a lot from her and vice versa but we were definitely not meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
FancyFace Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I miss abso-effing-lutely nothing about that sorry excuse for a human being. Nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
batt Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Nothing!!!! Don't miss the constant complaining, sure as hell don't miss the negativity!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Her shower. That water pressure was amazing. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
seminoles84 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Ugh hate these threads. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 That he was equally as silly, crazy and wild as me we were great fun from fart jokes to chin hair tickling to pranks and utter weirdness. I haven't found someone like that yet and I really want that in a partner someone to be humorous with. Oh yea and that the relationship had total trust I never worried it was just so loyal. Link to post Share on other sites
gnick Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I just miss hanging out with mine.I really respected her and loved our conversations. Unfortunately I can't think of one thing I don't miss about her. Link to post Share on other sites
ralfgarnett Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Everything I miss everything about her and I think I always will, I have never in my 50 years loved anyone, felt so comfortable and compatible as I did with my wife, I cant say too much more as I am suffering depression because of it and I cry a lot, I am seeing 2 counsellors weekly and don't really feel as though I want to go on, nuff said. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 (edited) Well, since I'm being forced to comment here (LOL) I'd have to say there are lots of little things but I don't think about it anymore. I don't truly miss him, but if I missed anything about him at all it would be the familiarity & comfortability with him...the chit chats & silliness...the friendship side of him. Edited January 29, 2015 by me85 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 You know, it was this kind of question that got me to understand that love was an illusion. I loved her more than anything in the world, but when I picked it apart piece by piece, Sex Looks Brains Personality etc. yeah, she was nice, but I knew people that were nicer/better in each department, and some who were nicer/better in > 1 department. This got me to thinking...what did I fall in love with? What makes her so great? Why am I in love with her? One day, she was a normal girl that I knew and the next day, she was the greatest. How did that happen overnight? What did I notice that other people don't? You think they're perfect for you, but clearly not. etc, etc, etc. The questions were unanswerable, and the over-the-top admiration was comical. Because the heart wants what the heart wants is what it all boiled down to. Being in love is truly an illusion, a sickness. And you know what? This "withdrawal" that you feel when you're left behind, which is even more intense and ridiculous than being in love in the first place? That's a sickness too. Think about it. Before you broke up, unless you're some kind of codependent a**hole with no life, you could be away from your girl for a few days, no problem. Now, all of a sudden, you need her so badly, 24/7. It makes no sense. It's all bull****. You're deceiving yourself, and brain chemicals are helping you do it. It wasn't long after that when I began to feel a lot better. Good Luck to you sir! 7 Link to post Share on other sites
flightplan Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 +1 mightycpa... but I'll miss her cooking. Link to post Share on other sites
seminoles84 Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Mightcpa you are on point! Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I miss having someone who cared about me and loved me. I miss having someone who was happy to see my face at the end of the day. I miss being wanted. Now I don't really mean much of anything to anyone. It's a neutral place to be, but it makes me feel strangely insignificant. Link to post Share on other sites
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