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Old 26th November 2013, 12:14 AM   #1
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No Contact 2014

I'm posting my current goal. No contact until 2014. Anyone with me? I have broken NC many times over the last 6 months. But this is my restart moment.. This is it. I am leaping into the new year starting now!

And when I do reach 2014 I will be pushing it into 2015!

Nc train... Beep beep!
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Old 26th November 2013, 1:21 AM   #2
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Your not alone!!

Here is my story and progress...
The 60 day breakup Challenge!!
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Old 26th November 2013, 1:32 AM   #3
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@ Jenny - Good luck! Be strong, you can do it!

@ Tara - I read your blog post and yup, NC includes no social media and no stories from friends of what he's been doing. You unfriended him, that great! But you have to do more than that, you have to block him. Otherwise you might have mutual friends and see tagged pictures of him or see his comments. He can also still message you so that will break NC. And maybe in moments of weakness you might get tempted to look at his profile page. Good luck to you as well!
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Old 26th November 2013, 2:52 AM   #4
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I'm posting my current goal. No contact until 2014. Anyone with me? I have broken NC many times over the last 6 months. But this is my restart moment.. This is it. I am leaping into the new year starting now!

And when I do reach 2014 I will be pushing it into 2015!

Nc train... Beep beep!
Don't be so hard on yourself. It's a nice idea don't get me wrong, but it's just going to be torture having such a lengthy plan. You have stated you have failed to keep NC over the past 6 months many times. Which means you can't even guarantee yourself that it wouldn't happen again.

I suggest getting through each day for a while. Once you are able to get through a day, then another, then another, that is when you increase that goal to a week, once you get through one week, then another, then another, that's when you increase that goal.

Recovery is about taking steps, they don't have to be gigantic leaps. Baby steps are just as important and just as effective.

I in no way judge you for breaking NC, we have all done it. I just feel that you'd benefit and feel the benefit's a lot more from starting off with a smaller NC Goal. just till you are used to it.
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Old 27th November 2013, 12:47 AM   #5
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Don't be so hard on yourself. It's a nice idea don't get me wrong, but it's just going to be torture having such a lengthy plan. You have stated you have failed to keep NC over the past 6 months many times. Which means you can't even guarantee yourself that it wouldn't happen again.

I suggest getting through each day for a while. Once you are able to get through a day, then another, then another, that is when you increase that goal to a week, once you get through one week, then another, then another, that's when you increase that goal.

Recovery is about taking steps, they don't have to be gigantic leaps. Baby steps are just as important and just as effective.

I in no way judge you for breaking NC, we have all done it. I just feel that you'd benefit and feel the benefit's a lot more from starting off with a smaller NC Goal. just till you are used to it.

Very true...I'm setting smaller goals...like making it a day...then to a week....and another week and another week
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