Alltheabove1212 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 At this point, I realize I most likely will never get back with my ex. When we broke up about 5 weeks ago, she seemed tired of it and kind of indifferent. She said things like "things aren't the same" and "it's not as comfortable as it used to be". Our issue was sex. She was my first sex and girlfriend. I had trouble getting up right away because I was nervous. She thought it was because I wasn't attracted to her. But kept saying how she wasn't happy with sex. This was a week after we got back together and had an emotional moment. She was crying and saying she loved me. And she NEVER cried in front of me. We had an awkward weekend and then she became distant. Things didn't get better. the 3 weeks before we broke up, we had a bunch of fights that never got better. She didn't want to work on things anymore, she got tired of the talks to fix the arguments. I'm pretty upset right now. This whole time, from her point of view, she probably sees that I'm out having a good time and it didn't bother me. She even asked my friend how I was a week after the breakup. But he and my friends know I've been miserable this whole time. I've had hope me doing No Contact she would contact me, but it hasn't happened. I think one of our mutual (her) friends came over to drink once and took her stuff that was here without me even knowing. I miss her and the relationship so bad. She was my first sex and first legit girlfriend, and I get depressed thinking about it. Even her best friends don't know why she did the things she did. My best friend said he talked to her and while they didn't go into depth about ANYTHING, he could tell she checked out and there is zero chance we'd get back together. FAST FORWARD AND THIS BELOW HAPPENED A WEEK AGO What are reasons for an ex girlfriend to not make eye contact (she looked at me once and when I turned she looked the other way) at lunch. She was sitting at a different table. She'd turn and talk to my friend if he said something but it was like she was trying to not acknowledge me. What the hell? It's been a month and it's pretty much her fault that she wanted to end it. It's been 5 weeks of no texting/calling. Does she have another guy already? Does she miss me? What gives?! She's always been one to completely hold in her feelings and not show hurt or emotion Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Sorry but nobody can explain what your ex is thinking except your ex, and she's not talking. Wondering isn't going to help you heal. I'm really sorry you're hurting. Focusing on other things and forcing yourself out of bed is the only thing that's going to help right now. Link to post Share on other sites
aburd123 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 What are reasons for an ex girlfriend to not make eye contact (she looked at me once and when I turned she looked the other way) at lunch. She was sitting at a different table. Okay oh boy! Umm I would say that if she's not making eye contact that either she's guilty of something or she feels bad about something and doesn't know how to tell you. When I don't make eye contact it's because I feel ashamed of something. I recently had an arguement with my mother and when she confronted me I wouldn't look her in the eye because I was guilty of what she said I did or didn't do. It could also be that maybe someone doesn't like you and told her some lies about you and she doesn't know how to handle it and instead of coming to discuss them she thinks avoiding you would be the answer. She'd turn and talk to my friend if he said something but it was like she was trying to not acknowledge me. What the hell? It's been a month and it's pretty much her fault that she wanted to end it. Okay. Even if she wanted to end it, don't publicly say that she wanted to end it in front of your mutual friends. That could tick her off pretty badly and that may make things worse. It's been 5 weeks of no texting/calling. Does she have another guy already? Does she miss me? What gives?! Withoout knowoing what those last fights were about I really can't say but she may not have another guy, she may have had one for awhile. It sounds like from your point of view that it's not you, it's her. But she may be thinking the same exact thing...it's you not her. Women can reallly play mind games with men especially if they are mad or hurt in any way. It could be her way or getting to you. She's always been one to completely hold in her feelings and not show hurt or emotion This also may be her way of dealing with things...and the not making eye contact would now make sense if that's the issue. Link to post Share on other sites
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