roxie74 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 When my boyfriend and I first split up we had both hooked up with other people..I did not mention one of them and I still feel guilty for not saying... We were out at a friends gathering and unfortunately I got too intoxicated and don't remember the rest of the night. I apparently was having a deep conversation with a friend and my boyfriend was over hearing us..it was just talking about our past break up. he had asked me what we were talking about and I said nothing and he said I heard you talk about us..and I said it was all good things (now I do not remember any of this, he told me the next morning) I started crying and got mad at him and saying "ugh we are fighting again" and I guess cried the whole way home and he said I couldn't say much except im sorry. my guilty conscience gets me thinking "did I mention the hook up I didn't tell him" just because I was so intoxicated. would he have brought it up to me if I did say? or would he let it go? I feel its a pretty big thing and he would have said something if I did. We were doing good for a little after that night and then we kept getting in fights and him still being upset about that night because I made him look bad in front of people by not wanting him to touch me and crying..and because I got that drunk. But he said he was getting over it. A week in a half later we broke up... You think he would have mentioned that occurrence if I did say it while I was drunk and he knows I don't remember anything? Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 ? Does it matter what you said when you were drunk? Would it change the current course of events? In any case - if you said something that painted you in a worse light - if he is already broken up with you and has NO intention or desire to get back with you - I doubt he would say anything to you, but just chalk it up instead as "See that's another reason why I'm not going back there, I did the right thing". If he DOES have leftover feelings for you and/or a desire to work things out, as soon as the opportunity arose he would've been flinging it in your face real fast & furious. SO given he hasn't said anything it's either you blurted it out, and he doesn't care enough to give you static about the confession - OR - you said nothing, and he knows nothing. K. Link to post Share on other sites
Author roxie74 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 We were still together and doing good after that night happened..You don't think he would mention it then? Especially the next day? We just ended up fighting a lot after and that's what ended things mainly.. Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 if you were still together and going STRONG/GOOD when you got drunk - i can almost guarantee you - if you had blurted something out, he would've called you out on it asap. The fact that you later on broke up - and he still said nothing - reinforces, for me, that you didn't say anything crazy that night. He broke up for other reasons. Don't stress/obsess - I do not think you blurted anything out that night. K. Link to post Share on other sites
Author roxie74 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 I appreciate your help and thought, thank you! Also, do guys try to make you confess? because a few days after that happened we got in a fight that I brought up about a past issue and he said... (this was when we first broke up awhile back) "you kissed 3 guys while we were broken up" "you don't hear me accusing you and asking you all the time cuz I trust you" "right" and I said ya your right...and that's when problems started happening... that couldn't have been a way for him to have me say anything ya? Link to post Share on other sites
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