Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 I stumbled across the dialogue between the two main characters in the movie "Swingers". I had forgotten about this part of the movie, but reading it now (in "hindsight"), I can totally relate. Hopefully you can too: Okay, so what if I don't want to give up on her? -You don't call. You said I don't call if I wanted to give up on her. - Right. So I don't call either way. - Right. So what's the difference? - There is no difference right now. See, Mike, the only difference between giving up and not giving up...is if you take her back when she wants to come back. But you can't do anything to make her want to come back. In fact, you can only do stuff to make her not want to come back. So the only difference is if I forget about her or just pretend to forget about her.- Right. Well, that sucks. -Yeah, it sucks. So it's like a retroactive decision then? I mean, I could, like, forget about her. And then when she comes back, make like I just pretended to forget about her?--Right, although probably more likely the opposite. What do you mean?--I mean, at first you're gonna pretend to forget about her.Not call her, I don't know, whatever. But then, eventually, you really will forget about her. Well, unless she comes back first. - Mm, see, that's the thing. Somehow they know not to come back until you really forget. There's the rub. - There's the rub. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
sendme Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 amazing! I love this.... there is no difference you just DON'T CALL! thanks for this I needed to hear that! Link to post Share on other sites
Reegs Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 (edited) Absolutely love that movie! Although I love the OP quote...the convo below is really awesome. Anyone that is going through the rough part of their breakup....PLEASE go watch this movie for a laugh..its a great movie TRENT-That's just plain silly. Your self- esteem is just low because she's with someone else. But thinking about it and talking about it all the time is bad. It's no good, man. You gotta get out there. The ladies want to love you, baby. MIKE I just need some time... TRENT Why? So you can beat yourself up? Sitting around in that stuffy apartment. It's just plain bad for you, man. It's depressing. You've come so far. Remember the first week? After she told you? You couldn't even eat. MIKE Don't remind me. TRENT You just sat around drinking orange juice. Now look at you. Look how far you've come in just a few months. You got that part in that movie... MIKE ... a day... TRENT ... Whatever. It's work. You're doing what you love. What's she doing? MIKE Selling scrap metal. TRENT (smiles) See? And what does this guy she's with do? MIKE He drives a carriage. TRENT What?!? MIKE (smiling) I hear he drives a carriage around Central Park or something. TRENT Please. And you're sweating him? You're "all that" and you're sweating some lawn jockey? MIKE I hear she's getting real fat. TRENT Baby, she's the one who should be thinking about you. Sounds to me like you cut loose some dead weight. Trust me, Mikey, you're better off. Edited September 6, 2012 by Reegs 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fucpcg Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 One of the best movies ever, and such amazing dialogue. Link to post Share on other sites
SandRat Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Great, I gotta go and buy that movie now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 I was feeling down today (I'm 3 months post BU/No contact) and for some reason reading that dialogue exchange gave me a little more strength. The day I can completely see the humor in all of this is the day I am striving for!! Link to post Share on other sites
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