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It's the birthday party of a very good friend of mine and I know for a fact he will be there, too.

There wasn't a real relationship but we were dating exclusively for four months. He broke up with me for all rational and understandable reasons, major changes in life ahead, still hung up on his ex-girlfriend of 6 years, pressure coming from having to go long-distance.

So while I accept his decision because I know it's best for both of us, I'm still in love with him. And it hurts a lot just thinking about it. I know he's hurting too.

 

I am scared to see him, scared of his reaction. will he avoid me, pretend he doesn't know me? Will he get drunk and try to get with me?

 

I really want to go because it's my friend's birthday and I won't see her for at least a year after it.

 

Any recommendations on how I should behave?

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HeartOfAPhoenix

Act as if you have no emotion towards him, act indifferent. be friendly if you walk by him and say hello. you can make small talk but I would keep it limited. Go to the party and enjoy yourself, just because he is there shouldn't change your outlook on the party.

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TheHurtProcess
Act as if you have no emotion towards him, act indifferent. be friendly if you walk by him and say hello. you can make small talk but I would keep it limited. Go to the party and enjoy yourself, just because he is there shouldn't change your outlook on the party.

 

I agree with Heart.

Go to the party. Have fun. Pretend he isn't there. Don't try to look at your ex too much. Like he said, Say "Hi", act indifferent as if the two of you never had a past together.

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turokturok5

hey i was in the same situation as you last night, me and my ex were both at the exact same party. just act oblivious to the fact that he is there and if the opportunity arisies just say hello and act civil, otherwise just continue socialising with friends and have a good time! i didn't come into contact with my ex once but i still had fun catching up with other friends, just treat your ex as you would treat anyone else at the party

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