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Old 13th January 2018, 5:30 PM   #46
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Spend money and a hire a professional to take your photographs. At least one in a professional looking suit. That would greatly increase your odds.

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Old 13th January 2018, 6:09 PM   #47
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Sites like Tinder and Bumble are very superficial. On sites like Tinder and Bumble, It's 95% looks. Your bio doesn't matter all that much, your personality or interests don't really matter too much. That's why you should treat it solely as a hookup app, anything more than that is simply a bonus.

Basically the closer you are to what your society defines as the physical ideal, the more successful you will likely be. In America's case, that's going to be a 6 ft tall good looking white guy who isn't too fat or too skinny.

If you're short (under 5 ft 7), don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're fat, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.

If you're not attractive, don't even bother... You're wasting your time.
I think you’re being way too hard on yourself. I empathize with you though. Let’s say I put a young Brad Pitt onstage and I invite 100 beautiful women to judge and critique him. I can guarantee you that there will be at least ten to fifteen women who won’t find him that attractive, some of them would think he’s too short, or too tall, or too young, or too blonde, too feminine, or too beautiful, etc..etc...

Being tall and handsome only gets you to the front door. It doesn’t guarantee you a first date, second date, third, fourth, fifth, six...etc It doesn’t guarantee you a successful relationship. Besides you only need one good woman who thinks you’re a ten in the looks and personality department. She’s out there but when you meet her would you be ready?

If I work on improving myself then when the time comes I’ll be ready and I’ll hold onto her and she won’t get rid of me.
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Old 13th January 2018, 9:49 PM   #48
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Tinder/Bumble is mostly about the pictures. Iíve been using photofeeler to get some feeback.
I'd yet to hear of this site. But I plugged a few bucks into it just now and uploaded some pics. All the pics of me I thought were best have gotten the worst scores; and others I uploaded fared much better. THis is not a plug and I have nothing to do with this site, but thanks brother!
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Old 13th January 2018, 11:15 PM   #49
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Be attractive, don't be unattractive are the main two tips I have. I think the profile you had in the original post of your last thread is OK length, but no longer than that. The whole concept of dating apps is to make it brisk, so don't worry too much about the writing and just make sure you get down the main points down.
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Old 14th January 2018, 12:56 AM   #50
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Spend money and a hire a professional to take your photographs. At least one in a professional looking suit. That would greatly increase your odds.
I've taken some photography classes and have a pretty good camera so I thought I could give the camera to a friend and get a pretty good picture.

Aside from a professional looking suit what else should I do in the picture? Face the camera straight on, from the side, what kind of background, what kind of pose, etc

From what I can tell bumble gives you a main profile picture and then the option of adding a few more. She will have to swipe through all your pics before messaging you or even reading anything so I understand how important the pictures are here.
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Old 14th January 2018, 1:16 AM   #51
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I think it depends on the man. It depends on you. Be natural!!! Nothing worse than looking “forced” If the man is a broody, intellectual introvert he might get more attention not smiling and looking away from the camera. If he has great smile and a friendly and energetic nature, he should smile. OkCupid(dating site) did a study on it and found:
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Men, Smiles are Out of Style: OkCupid discovered that men who look away from the camera and don't smile have a much higher chance of getting a response than those who look directly into the camera. OkCupid CEO, Sam Yagan, guesses the reason that guys who look at the camera get less messages than those who don't is because it's intimidating to women. Valdez says this could be the case but believes it may also have to do with the fact that a typical "customer service photo" pose makes you look like you care too much and are seeking approval. "By not looking," he said, "you appear stronger and more challenging while simultaneously building aura and mystique."
Keep in mind, this study has been reproduced and it did not hold up!! Probably because they used pics of guys with good, genuine smiles. It’s important you look genuine and comfortable, and not like you’re “trying too hard”


It’s also important that you get the gist of you/your vibe and you look your sharpest so you attract not only women but ones who fit in with you. If you want and feel that you are an adventurer, maybe put a picture of you out in nature or climbing or doing something adventurous. List goes on.


*Avoid flash if possible. Natural light
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Old 14th January 2018, 1:19 AM   #52
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Catfish on those apps

From what I see, there are plenty of good looking -- I mean really good looking like models, lawyers, doctors with perfect face and body, but BUT none of them look real.

And they don't typically share much human side in profile, which makes me assume there are plenty of dead or catfish accounts.

Just keep trying, and if nothing return, don't take it personally.
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Old 14th January 2018, 1:27 AM   #53
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Bumble does Have a ton of fake profiles. There was someone I knew who was on it and there were a ton of people that were in “medical school” but there was no medical school anywhere close to her location. It also stacks the most swiped/highest Elo in there with the fakes to attract newcomers. But as you continue through you will start to see people more representative of the norm.

But I agree I did not like the selection on there. I honestly felt like I was browsing a J.Crew catalog.

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Old 14th January 2018, 10:14 PM   #54
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I've taken some photography classes and have a pretty good camera so I thought I could give the camera to a friend and get a pretty good picture.

Aside from a professional looking suit what else should I do in the picture? Face the camera straight on, from the side, what kind of background, what kind of pose, etc

From what I can tell bumble gives you a main profile picture and then the option of adding a few more. She will have to swipe through all your pics before messaging you or even reading anything so I understand how important the pictures are here.
No you can swipe on the first pic and I would think most people do. The extra photos and profile are if they liked the first one.
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Old 14th January 2018, 11:17 PM   #55
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I normally swipe through all the pictures, hoping for a body shot.

I swear I am not a paid schill for the photofeeler site, but I had my pictures ranked on there, replaced them, and had two matches from two quality ladies within a day.

I highly recommend having others (you don't need to pay for a site, just have a few friends do it) review your pics. At least for me, I was not the best judge of what looked good! Who knew rocking my wife beater tee and trucker hat with a crack pipe in one hand and a 40 oz in the other wasn't my best look?!
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Old 15th January 2018, 7:12 AM   #56
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bumble doesnt work for me even when i swipe right on everyone it like it only shows me inactive people i get matches on tinder and badoo so confused i ended up deleting bumble
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:46 PM   #57
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Bumble profile review v2

I was all set to sign up for Bumble before, but I've been pretty busy and actually went on a couple dates from Match that didn't go anywhere. I'd really appreciate some feedback on my profile. I incorporated suggestions from the 1st one I put up and wanted to get your thoughts before doing this one.

Iím a well-rounded true gentleman who is also a business owner, athlete, chocolatier, and Disney enthusiast who loves both being active as well as taking the time to sit back and relax. Iíve traveled extensively and go hiking in the summer and skiing in the winter. My camera comes along on all my trips and Iíve enjoyed taking some great pictures.

My favorite form of exercise is battling on the tennis court, but Iíve got lots of other ones I enjoy as well. All that exercise can work up an appetitive and Iím on a first name basis with the staff at several restaurants. When I get a break, I can be found watching comedies as well as action shows and movies. Iíve also been a voracious reader my whole life and have a seemingly endless supply of books/magazines on different topics I read when I get the chance.

No matter where people know me they tend to comment on my character and people that know me better enjoy my sense of humor.
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:50 PM   #58
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Some blunt feedback here:

From the way that reads, I wouldn't believe your claim to have a sense of humour.
Don't talk about having a sense of humour - inject it.

You need to lighten it up in other ways too.
It alternates between sounding stuffy and braggy.

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Old 8th February 2018, 7:53 PM   #59
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Imo, it is too long (will that even fit on a swipe app?) Keep it to your first sentence or something around that long. This one is longer than your Match one.

I agree that it doesn’t show off enough personality and is too showy

No waffles

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Old 8th February 2018, 8:02 PM   #60
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Get rid of the bit about being on first name basis with restaurant staff.

Oh and you're a chocolatier? Why isn't that expanded upon? That one word "chocolatier" is pretty much the only thing I care about!
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