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Old 31st December 2017, 3:50 PM   #1
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How To Get Approached By The Guy You Like

So you want to be approached by the guy you like but he's too shy? Well, if you want to be approached by men, you must first think from the perspective of a man.

So let's just say you're a single guy wanting to meet girls and you see a woman somewhere out in public and you think she's cute and you want to talk to her. The reason why most men arne't going to make that approach is because of several reasons. They don't know what to say, they're afraid of coming off as a creep, they're afraid she will say no, and the woman isn't even giving any signals she wants to be approached.

And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected. It's a blow to their ego, a blow to their self-esteem. And for many guys when they get rejected, they pretend they're not phased by it because by reacting negatively to rejection, we are taught it's a sign of weakness and desperation.

So by knowing all of this, what can you do to encourage guys to approach you? Start giving off signals that you want to be approached. Here's several ways.


First off, learn to smile. Smiling is a sign of friendliness, but it's also a subtle way of saying, hey I want to be talked to!

Another way is to use proximity. If you like a guy and want to be approached, then stand by him, sit by him, do anything to get close to him.
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:14 PM   #2
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How to get approached by the guy you like.....

Well, I'll pull an anecdote from fishing the San Simeon pier over the holiday...... me, being the old-fashioned friendly guy I tend to look strangers in the eye and say hello....

Get your head out of your phone
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:32 PM   #3
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I agree smiling and looking approachable is important for women IF they are interested. And most will smile at guys they are halfway attracted to who look friendly and outgoing.
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:37 PM   #4
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And contrary to popular belief, most guys don't like getting rejected.
I don't think this is a "popular belief."

But, I agree, smiling and appearing approachable are good tactics for any favorable interaction you'd like to have with members of the human race!
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Old 31st December 2017, 4:46 PM   #5
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I didn't know it was a popular belief that men like being rejected
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Old 31st December 2017, 5:33 PM   #6
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Better yet, say Hello to him.
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Old 1st January 2018, 6:23 AM   #7
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Proximity and Start a conversation. Thats all that matters with both genders.

I think that sometimes we put too much thought to this. Thats what I do for the most part. I start a conversation and the woman will either be into it or not. If she is not. I drop my interaction like a hot potato.
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