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Old 25th December 2017, 1:53 AM   #16
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Another possibility is......she's stepping out on her husband. And she was waiting to see if I was the kind of guy who'd be willing to play with a married woman. Once she saw I'm the kind of guy that would run from that....there was no reason for her...at that point....to get to know me further.

Seriously.....there's got to be more to it than fear. If one is *that* fearful....you don't go. No body's that crazy. Are they? lol
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Old 25th December 2017, 6:05 AM   #17
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Why?

Scams work both ways. I had no way of knowing her partners in crime weren't going through my house while I was eating with her.

If I'd been more concerned with my well being rather than being nice to her I'd run outta there that moment to check on my place.

And you don't blame her.....interesting that you have no problems putting other human beings in that position.
So? Youíre obviously not as afraid as this young lady is.
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Old 25th December 2017, 6:11 AM   #18
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Another possibility is......she's stepping out on her husband. And she was waiting to see if I was the kind of guy who'd be willing to play with a married woman. Once she saw I'm the kind of guy that would run from that....there was no reason for her...at that point....to get to know me further.

Seriously.....there's got to be more to it than fear. If one is *that* fearful....you don't go. No body's that crazy. Are they? lol
Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.
However....

Why donít you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....
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Old 25th December 2017, 6:45 AM   #19
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Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.
However....

Why don’t you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....
No. It bothers me, taking advantage of people for my own satisfaction. It bothers me...intentionally putting people in positions of vulnerability they do not expect to be put in. I don't want people to feel over exposed....as a result of my intentional deceit.

I'm afraid I cannot do what you suggest.

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Old 25th December 2017, 7:06 AM   #20
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Yes she could be married. There are married folks online playing around.
However....

Why donít you try creating a profile of a woman or even a post on Craigslist as a woman as an experiment. See how many creeps and weirdos you get....
Hmmm. The OP already responded that he'd be uncomfortable doing this. So would I (another male and rather 'active' with OLD right now). BUT .... I think 'bad' experiences with OLD are useful to hear about. I haven't seen a thread specific to that topic. Anyone care to point me to one if there is one? If not, is there some 'enthusiasm' to start one up? Examples: Pop, have you gotten creeps and weirdos? The OPs tale of the no-name woman who didn't thank him for dinner is worse than any of mine (so far). I've been ignored and ghosted. One apparently very nice woman sent me two very interested sounding messages one day, begged off (in another message) the next day, and has NCed me since (plus some other system-specific weirdness). I plead guilty to ignoring women who have cold messaged me but in whom I have no interest.
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