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Old 16th October 2017, 1:59 PM   #1
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Do you really have a type

All our friends and family are different. Is it reallistic to have a certain type.

All my exs and women I have dated in the past are really different from each other. From looks to personality.

The reason I broke up from my x in 2012 is that she wanted to have kids very soon in the relationship. That was too soon for me. If I just went along with what she wanted. I would have been a father in late 2013. I want to gel as a couple first. Not be togther because of a child.

My physical type is all over the place. My personality type is a woman that I don't feel that I have to make all the effort with. We would be 50/50 at best.

I would say off the top of my head. I like the girl next door type that dotes on me. Is affctionate as well and can converse with humour. That is even a little bit more into me per say. Single and Childless is a must to. If I had it totally my way.
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Old 16th October 2017, 3:10 PM   #2
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All our friends and family are different. Is it reallistic to have a certain type.
All my exs and women I have dated in the past are really different from each other. From looks to personality.
The reason I broke up from my x in 2012 is that she wanted to have kids very soon in the relationship. That was too soon for me. If I just went along with what she wanted. I would have been a father in late 2013. I want to gel as a couple first. Not be togther because of a child.
My physical type is all over the place. My personality type is a woman that I don't feel that I have to make all the effort with. We would be 50/50 at best.
I would say off the top of my head. I like the girl next door type that dotes on me. Is affctionate as well and can converse with humour. That is even a little bit more into me per say. Single and Childless is a must to. If I had it totally my way.
Females tend to have "types" much stronger than males do. It's hard to describe why... but think of it similar to this. When females are looking at a guy in terms of attraction... they subconsciously imagine how life would be with this man. That is why some women would be attracted to a James Bond type guy and some want a James Deen type guy. Some want a guy with masculine features and some want a more soft and feminine look.

Guys do this too. My cousin hasn't had a date in 10 years, but he is only attracted to women with a Swedish look. His father is 100% Scandinavian and he is crazy about the culture. I also have a black coworker the exclusively dates blond women.

I think as a guy, if you don't have a serious physical preference for a particular type of woman it's a sign of good mental health. People who are too particular are virtually always afflicted with some kind of crazy.
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Old 16th October 2017, 3:38 PM   #3
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I don't have a strict type. I do like Red heads. For me on a physical level. A Lot of it has to do with Face more than anything else.

Personality. The more superfical. The less I am into women like that. The more soft/kind/easy they are to interact with them. The more I am attracted to them.

Age plays a factor. 27 to 67 for attractions for the most part. Realistic. Late 20's to early 50's. As long as we don't look to far in age.
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Old 16th October 2017, 3:40 PM   #4
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I really do...It's really only physical. Extroverted/introverted, gamer/outdoorsy, funny/serious... doesn't matter to me when I am attracted to him physically and he's a nice person. It's mostly in the FACE.

And it's strange because I can be really attracted to guy in a picture or when his face is still, but then his facial muscles may move in such a way when he smiles and talks (This sounds nutty when I explain it like this, but I think a lot of people are like this they just don't give it as much thought) that he becomes NOT my type. His face can become unattractive to me. I also noticed my parents have a type. My dad is white and all his girlfriends were asian. My mom is Asian and I know her type automatically. She talks to me about actors she thinks are cute, they seem to all kind of resemble each other in a look similar to my father.

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Old 16th October 2017, 4:33 PM   #5
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My dad is white and all his girlfriends were asian. My mom is Asian and I know her type automatically. She talks to me about actors she thinks are cute, they seem to all kind of resemble each other in a look similar to my father.
My daughter will be born in early Dec. She is my first. I'm predominantly Scottish and her mother is asian. I sometimes worry how she is going to feel about growing up half. I want to make sure she feels connected and a part of both cultures. Have you experienced issues with this?

I don't mean to sidetrack the thread.
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Old 16th October 2017, 4:54 PM   #6
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I spent 7 years dating and even getting engaged to, curvy woman. The type that are pretty and have curves in all the right places but are just larger than swimsuit models, or at least what they used to be like. I liked having sex with a woman I did not have to worry about crushing or putting too much weight on.

Yet I married a 4' 11" 79 lb. woman. She was so small and so opposite of what I was used to, that she appeared kinky. She bruises easily so I cannot put weight on her during sex. If I hug her during my orgasm, I hurt her. If I grasp her wrist too tightly she bruises. Her breasts bruise so I have to be very careful with them. I cannot just have the rough raw sex I used to have with my larger ladies. The saving grace was that my wife is bi and her girlfriend just happened to be the curvy girl I had a crush on since high school. So I got my wife to make gentle love with and her girlfriend to be rough with and she liked it rough.
I got my cake and ate it too.

However, now I am only attracted to petite woman. If I dance with someone close to my height, 6', it feels weird. My wife has ruined me for normal sized woman. I just am not attracted to women who are not petite and shapely. My wife used to get a lot of looks when dress sexy or at nude beaches. She was the size of my 12 year old nieces, who wore my wife's clothes, but she had the body of a full grown women with 36C breasts that were firm enough that she did not start wearing a bra until her 40's and still only wears it once in a while. I like woman like Kelly Ripa and and other small celebrities. That is now my type.
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Old 16th October 2017, 4:55 PM   #7
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My daughter will be born in early Dec. She is my first. I'm predominantly Scottish and her mother is asian. I sometimes worry how she is going to feel about growing up half. I want to make sure she feels connected and a part of both cultures. Have you experienced issues with this?

I don't mean to sidetrack the thread.
Awww. Congratulations!!! I can happily say I've never experienced issues that I can directly relate to my ethnicity. However, I do look more Caucasian and live in the US. I easily blend in. It's great you want to keep your daughter connected to both parent's cultures. My taught me her language when I was younger and I am so grateful for that! Being half is like the best of both worlds to me and I'm sure it will be for your daughter too!!!

Sorry for thread derailment, Mysterio
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Old 16th October 2017, 4:57 PM   #8
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I do . . . dark hair, light eyes, chiseled features, sharp wit and medium build. If you line up all the men I have ever dated or even pictures of them with rare exceptions they all look alike. There were a few outlying blondes or particularly tall ones but otherwise I'm a cliché.
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Old 16th October 2017, 10:42 PM   #9
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Interesting!

I've been married for 21 years, and when I met my husband I guess I could say I liked a 'hero' type- military, firefighter, or police officer. And he was in the reserves and is a firefighter.

Appearance-wise I'm pretty fluid, I find a lot of types of guys attractive, but I do prefer dark hair and eyes. I never had the chance to date black, Hispanic, or Middle Eastern men but I find I'm very attracted to a lot of them. I'm not that attracted to very fair haired and fair featured men, blond or redhead. I think since I'm fair skinned of English/Irish heritage, guys like that seem more like they're my brothers!

I'm more attracted to stocky builds, even overweight guys with a slight belly. But on the other hand, I'm also attracted to slim men, like tennis players and runners. I'm not attracted to the bodybuilder type but that's probably due to a prejudice that assumes they are vain or shallow, and I'm sure I'd grow to like a muscleman if he proved to not be that way, lol.
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Old 16th October 2017, 10:46 PM   #10
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Absolutely...

Unless they have an enormous trust fund....Then I can flex a bit....

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Old 18th October 2017, 5:19 AM   #11
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My type changes from time to time. As I am growing older. I want a woman that shows me interest and kindness. If its not there. Then I find I am not attracted to the woman as much.
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Old 18th October 2017, 7:51 AM   #12
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Yes I definitely have a type physically and mentally I guess.

I have always been attracted to that type (but attraction is ultimately determined by my mental attraction).

I like tall, fit east-Asian men. A lot of people have told me I am weird for that or that I am never going to get "my physcial type" to want to be with me long term, especially since I am hispanic. Its sad because these insecurities made me almost give up on my crush on my ex because I didn't think he could ever fall in love with me.

He ended up leaving anyway so maybe they were right, sigh.
At least I tried....

I try not to listen to these people but the way my love life is going I have my doubts sometimes.

I like someone who is humble, confident intelligent and carrier orientated/passionate and can have good conversation.
I also like guys that are confident in social situations but are more naturally introverted/don't drink and party a lot.

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Old 18th October 2017, 8:22 AM   #13
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My daughter will be born in early Dec. She is my first. I'm predominantly Scottish and her mother is asian. I sometimes worry how she is going to feel about growing up half. I want to make sure she feels connected and a part of both cultures. Have you experienced issues with this?

I don't mean to sidetrack the thread.
Aww congrats on the baby 👶
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Old 18th October 2017, 8:31 AM   #14
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loose and easy

All my dating life I had a type.. blonde and hot...your typical blonde bombshell I guess and I never veered off that while in my 20's, 30's and most of the way thru my 40's.. then I met my now wife..
The woman I'm married to doesn't fit the blonde part, she is hot however but a brunette..

Proof that even guys can change
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Absolutely...

Unless they have an enormous trust fund....Then I can flex a bit....

TFY
But son, she has huge........ tracts of land! .,lol..
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