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Its worthwhile because not matter what you learn a huge amount doing, yes its can be truly awful but if you step back each of those experiences can be referred to as learning.

 

 

I don't regret it because finally I think I have found something that works for me, yes, it wouldn't work for many others if anyone at all but whatever it is it does make me feel good and most importantly happy.

 

 

Look, its not like I am getting kissed or anything like but its really nice to have someone take some interest in me, someone to pay attention to me, someone to laugh and smile with even though we don't actually spend that much time together, the time we do spend together is great. She seems to get me and I seem to get her.

 

 

Yes, I went on a few dates with other people but I never seem to have any sort of connection with them. I went on a few pay dates from seeking arrangement.

 

 

I think all the bad experiences actually helped me to appreciate how good this current situation is despite the obvious huge compromises.

 

 

My thought is: Its better to have exactly what you want some of the time than something you don't really want all of the time.

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I have mixed emotions about going out there seeking love. I think that sometimes its better to be chill about these things.

 

I say if someone likes you. They just try to connect with you. If it turns Romantic. Then it will.

 

Most people are evaluating on looks only. That is fallacy, because there is more to a relationship than looks.

 

For me personally. A woman has to be engaging to me conversationally. I am not just going to be drawn because of the looks. Yet. I feel she should be well groomed as well. No chin hairs or anything like that. You can spend 10 minutes in the mirror grooming yourself. Its not that complicated.

 

I also am a big believer in your romantic partner can't be all things to you. Most of us have a verity in friendships. So one person does not have to carry the load.

 

If I meet a woman who likes me romantically. All I want is for us to treat each other well and be good to each other. Thats it. I say be open to meeting new people. Yet, don't let it consume your life.

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I have mixed emotions about going out there seeking love. I think that sometimes its better to be chill about these things.

 

I say if someone likes you. They just try to connect with you. If it turns Romantic. Then it will.

 

Most people are evaluating on looks only. That is fallacy, because there is more to a relationship than looks.

 

For me personally. A woman has to be engaging to me conversationally. I am not just going to be drawn because of the looks. Yet. I feel she should be well groomed as well. No chin hairs or anything like that. You can spend 10 minutes in the mirror grooming yourself. Its not that complicated.

 

I also am a big believer in your romantic partner can't be all things to you. Most of us have a verity in friendships. So one person does not have to carry the load.

 

If I meet a woman who likes me romantically. All I want is for us to treat each other well and be good to each other. Thats it. I say be open to meeting new people. Yet, don't let it consume your life.

 

I agree with you. Ultimately I feel much better not browsing these sites etc. Though I suppose some would say this is giving up and maybe it is but maybe its actually better for me because once again I have the contentment which falls away every time I get back into the muddy trench that is dating.

 

 

Maybe less is indeed more.

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