stemgeek Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I asked a female friend who I just started liking to go to a concert with me last week. We've hung out in groups before and had a great time but this is the first time that I asked her to hang out one on one. She initially said yes but told me something last minute came up two days before the concert. Should I romantically pursue her or is she just not interested? Keep in mind it's just hanging out. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I asked a female friend who I just started liking to go to a concert with me last week. We've hung out in groups before and had a great time but this is the first time that I asked her to hang out one on one. She initially said yes but told me something last minute came up two days before the concert. Should I romantically pursue her or is she just not interested? Keep in mind it's just hanging out. Which one is it? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author stemgeek Posted October 9, 2017 Author Share Posted October 9, 2017 Which one is it? I mean, the way I phrased it to her did not sound like a date IMO. It sounded like how I would ask any friend to go hang out with me. But I hope to ask her out on an actual date in the future, if I believe there's a chance she's interested. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I mean, the way I phrased it to her did not sound like a date IMO. It sounded like how I would ask any friend to go hang out with me. But I hope to ask her out on an actual date in the future, if I believe there's a chance she's interested. So you think she can't tell that you're actually interested in her? I'd be willing to bet she can, and knew you were hoping for more than just "hanging out." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 So you think she can't tell that you're actually interested in her? I'd be willing to bet she can, and knew you were hoping for more than just "hanging out." Right. Ive never had a guy ask to hang out without sexusl or romantic intent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIvy Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I asked a female friend who I just started liking to go to a concert with me last week. We've hung out in groups before and had a great time but this is the first time that I asked her to hang out one on one. She initially said yes but told me something last minute came up two days before the concert. Should I romantically pursue her or is she just not interested? Keep in mind it's just hanging out. If a man asked me to hang out at a concert, I would think he likes me. I am willing to bet she knows. If she said yes initially, then she probably does like you too. I would try one more time. Ask her when is the next time she is free and go to another concert or take her out to dinner. If she says yes again, she definitely likes you. If she says no, then she probably just sees you as a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 She might have clicked that you're into her, but I don't think that has anything to do with her bailing on you hanging out. It's way too early to tell anything at this point, so I don't see why you couldn't try and reschedule. No matter which way you look at it, there's only one way to find out what it is Then again, I'm in a different camp to everyone else who's replied and have absolutely no problem hanging out with girls one on one in a friendship sense. Most girls I meet feel the same way. When your personalities fit but there is no spark, being "just friends" is super easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 I mean, the way I phrased it to her did not sound like a date IMO. It sounded like how I would ask any friend to go hang out with me. But I hope to ask her out on an actual date in the future, if I believe there's a chance she's interested. If you are interested in her, then ask her out straight. Tell her you like her personality and you want to get to know her and see if there is some chemistry. If she says no, then she doesn't find you attractive. It's simple as that. So, my advice is to stop playing games and get honest with her. Bold is better than meek. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
foreverdancer Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 This needs more context. How long have you known her and how long have you been friends? How close are you with her compared to your other friends in your group? Link to post Share on other sites
GuitarGuy7 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 Man, don't even waste your time chasing girls who are never going to give you their time. Ask her out, if she says yes then great! If she says no, then forget about her. If she says yes then says no at the last minute, then try again. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I think that you ask her out once. If she flakes. You put her out of your mind. Thats it. Cut and dry. Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 She's not into you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris2016 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Props for asking her out. Ask someone else out now. Ain't got time for that. Link to post Share on other sites
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