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Greenhawk84

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Hello,

 

 

So I have another thread regarding my breakup about 7 months ago, but now I am posting about my aftermath.

 

 

I have only been on one date since and I cannot seem to find any good [for me] potential daters or even any hook up potential. I am online sending messages every day (most are ignored). I am trying to talk to women in public (I am not very outgoing on the surface). I received some numbers, had some conversations, but nothing comes of it. She loses touch, I lose touch, I'm sorta "meh" about her.. etc.

 

 

If there was any path that would challenge my self worth it would be this one. Being dumped followed by months of rejection. I can only tell you it can be agonizing. I keep my hope that a very good companion could come into my life at any moment or even just a really fun woman to date for a while and see where it goes.

 

 

Yesterday I had to have a moment to let the tears flow. I don't mind rejection as a part of life but when I get hit with one after another and it creates a pile, I have to let that steam out. It really does shout "look at all this evidence that you are not wanted."

 

 

I know I have choices and I won't settle. I don't want to be settled for either. Thanks for reading a moment, for any of you also having a drought in your life. I just want to be touched; cuddled, kissed, go out on dates..

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Go on Tinder!! If you're not bad looking, you will have a number of fun dates!

 

If you're not that attractive, work out, it will help you to look more desirable. Come back to Tinder , you will get some dates!

 

Good luck!!

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Go on Tinder!! If you're not bad looking, you will have a number of fun dates!

 

If you're not that attractive, work out, it will help you to look more desirable. Come back to Tinder , you will get some dates!

 

Good luck!!

 

I been on Tinder for about 5 months. I haven't met a single woman from there. I swipe 100's of people.. I got a couple conversations, but they died. It gets to where I ask something or try to set a date and I get no response. I have had girlfriends before.. people say I am handsome.. but I don't really know sometimes. People say nice things all the time to make someone feel better.

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Honestly mate, I know how you feel. I'm not able to get dates personally, but the lack of any female contact is unbearable at times.

 

As for Tinder...I haven't had any luck on there myself, and I'm allegedly attractive. You may get lucky so I suggest keeping an account open, but don't put too much weight on it.

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Honestly mate, I know how you feel. I'm not able to get dates personally, but the lack of any female contact is unbearable at times.

 

As for Tinder...I haven't had any luck on there myself, and I'm allegedly attractive. You may get lucky so I suggest keeping an account open, but don't put too much weight on it.

 

I have to keep my options open. As much failure that has been happening there is something bound to happen positive. I know I'm on here bitching about things, pretty insignificant in the world, but I like to share my feelings so perhaps someone else can relate. It's better to not feel alone.

 

We have to keep trying because if we shut it all down there will definitely be no success.

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If you're not that attractive, work out, it will help you to look more desirable.

 

Good luck!!

 

I would like to add that I do go to the gym each week and go running in my local park. I am in better shape than before.

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I'm in the exact same boat after my breakup months ago, just pure loneliness. Part of me likes it for some reason, it feels like life is testing my endurance.

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What's worse is people who want to go on dates with you forever but say they don't hook up. like dangling a carrot in front the starved. It's sadistic

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The problem with a dry spell is that it kills your confidence, thus making it harder to get out of that dry spell.

 

 

Yes, it really works against making progress with confidence. However, I know that I MUST maintain my confidence by letting myself feel sad by the rejections and move on. As I talk to more women I get use to the idea. I know that I if I do not try I will never succeed. Lately I had a surge in messages online. I changed my profile picture and switched it up. If it gets stale then switch it up.

 

 

It does not change the fact that out of 5 online conversations, maybe one of them has true potential for a date. With so many different schedules/factors (some people have kids, etc.) and being spread across 5 conversations, some of them are going to suffer. As my friend Andy and I talk about, I need to "close deals." I try not to let conversations linger on texting without trying to set a date. It really is like fishing.. change your lures.. change your spots.. fight the fish before yanking too hard. Keep at it.. fail again.. get up.. keep at it. Cry if you have to sometimes, be lonely, talk to friends, come online and talk.. just keep going.

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