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Old 17th September 2017, 10:43 AM   #1
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I just can't take it anymore.

I know for a fact that I cannot date or attract women. I try to explain this to people and all I get is people telling to quit with the "poor me" posts. They don't understand that that's not my intention. I genuinely have major issues that make my odds of attracting women absolute zero. It is impossible for me to attract and date a woman. This has always been the case since birth. My biggest problem is that I'm so desirous of women, and constantly long for a gf and a relationship. I've got to get rid of this desire if I'm to have some peace of mind and closure to this problem. I've thought about castration, but everyone tells me I'm being facetious when I say that. I'm NOT! I'm dead ****ing serious, and I want it as soon as possible. I simply can't go on like this.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:07 AM   #2
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So, what is your question then.

What are you looking for from the forum.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:13 AM   #3
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So, what is your question then.

What are you looking for from the forum.
How can I get rid of the desire for women/sex/dating etc.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:20 AM   #4
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How can I get rid of the desire for women/sex/dating etc.
I have absolutely no idea. I love women and I love and enjoy sex . I hope to keep on rocking on like this for quite a while too. I don't think anyone else on the whole of LS knows how to get over desire for women either either.

Your problems sound completely beyond the scope of an internet forum OP. Have you ever considered therapy.

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Old 17th September 2017, 11:29 AM   #5
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Have you ever considered therapy.
No, it would be irrelevant to this problem.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:58 AM   #6
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How can I get rid of the desire for women/sex/dating etc.
You can't.....:[
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Old 17th September 2017, 1:04 PM   #7
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There's got to be a way. Not even castration would?
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Old 17th September 2017, 1:11 PM   #8
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There's got to be a way. Not even castration would?

I think it would take away physical arousal but your brain that may still give you sexual cravings. And that is independent of the desire for romantic companionship/intimacy/affection from a woman. You'd still probably want romantic love. Don't do that.
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Old 17th September 2017, 1:17 PM   #9
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Work on yourself to make yourself more desirable to women. Everyone has room for improvement
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Old 17th September 2017, 4:36 PM   #10
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Work on yourself to make yourself more desirable to women. Everyone has room for improvement
I've already been through why it's impossible. I've talked about it on this forum. I don't feel like getting bogged down in that discussion again. Just know that it's absolutely impossible for me to be liked or fancied by women. This is a reality beyond my control. It is unchangeable.

It's why my only hope at finding peace of mind lies not in making my desire for women, sex, and relationships (such as other guys enjoy) a reality (which is impossible), but rather in destroying the desire I have for it. This way I can finally bury this thing that has troubled me for so long and put this torture to rest. The ONLY option at this point is the latter option.
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Old 17th September 2017, 6:58 PM   #11
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I've already been through why it's impossible. I've talked about it on this forum.
No you haven't. You just insisted that you had horrible, inescapable problems and refused to elaborate on them in any detail. I even linked you an article about a woman who had lost a limb and was a real hit on Tinder, you insisted you had it worse than her, but didn't go into why. People asked and you dodged the question. You just said you're "not like other people." There's only so much that can people can do to help if you won't describe the problem.

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Just know that it's absolutely impossible for me to be liked or fancied by women. This is a reality beyond my control. It is unchangeable.
You seem to be in the mindset that women just grant people their attention arbitrarily and that their affection can't be earned, which it most definitely can. Do something respectable. Display talent. Take a stand. You'd be surprised how quickly a woman's opinion of you can change. Your biggest problem is your "woe is me" attitude, your second biggest problem is granting women all this power over you, and your third biggest problem is assuming that since women are seemingly unattracted to you, that your fate is sealed as such and there's nothing you can do to improve yourself or change their minds.

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There's got to be a way. Not even castration would?
You should seek help from a professional, not a bunch of strangers on the internet.

And didn't you say you were fine now?

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But regardless, please go back and read my post about how happy I am that I've recently gained a sense that I can happily move on without it.
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Old 17th September 2017, 7:51 PM   #12
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I know of guys in a wheelchair who are in relationships. You should google Sean Stephenson.

Meanwhile OP you need to take responsibility for the posts in your threads not being to your liking. First you wrote a couple threads asking how you could attract a woman. Then you wrote a post saying that you finally moved on from needing to attract women. So you can't blame people for not getting your current emotional state when you were the one who was saying it was something else. Then you come back and express an inordinate amount of self-pity about how truly awful you have it *without really going into the why*--repulsive to either gender.

So I am going to agree w @normal_person and say you need to work on your attitude first. It's the only advice anyone here can give you really.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:13 PM   #13
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On being Ugly

OP there are people from all walks of life that manage to find love.
Sometimes in the most unexpected ways. we are all guilty in feeling like we might be unloveable, but it will happen for you if you want it to.

And if you do not, since it seems from your posts that you do not.
You have to learn to be okay alone. Stop with the pity party and embrace being alone. Once you are okay with being alone, and make peace with that you will feel much better. Remember comparison is the killer of joy.

Try to work on urself and unconditionally loving urself. Here is a video that I think will help you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2js063a1Suk
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Old 18th September 2017, 12:12 PM   #14
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Code. I say this with respect. I think you may need to have some therapy. Just to gain perspective on your life. I also think that the social media hypes up romantic relationships too much.

I think that a lot of us are just going to have to suck it up and live with out a romantic relationship. We have to think that something is coming for us that is better than we think we deserve. Thats how I think. I want it as well.

I just don't want it to rule my life. I moved out from my parental home when it was ideal and a great deal came to me in a form of a Condo, down the street from my work which is a 20 min bus ride and 3 minute walk from my bus stop to my work.

I think a lot of us really need to let go of the chase for love. I seem to get my way or close to it, when the woman shows interest in me and make a move on me. More than when I go on the hunt for love.
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Old 18th September 2017, 1:49 PM   #15
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No, it would be irrelevant to this problem.
If you refuse to get help, then there is nothing that can be done. I guarantee therapy - especially cognitive and behavioral therapy, would help you. But you have to want to do something other than whine.
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