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I'm 27 years old and I never went on a date, never asked a girl out, never kissed a girl, etc. The sad thing is I don't even know how to change this. The women I am attracted to are just impossible.

 

As stated above, I'm 27. I'm a first year surgery resident (M.D). I drive a BMW, I'm in shape even though I work 90 hours a week (home gym even when I'm exhaused), dress nicely, have an Ivy education, etc. I'm actually pretty good looking (except for my height). I'm also the sweetest guy you will ever meet. I would so go out of my way for a girl who was actually interested in me and spoil her beyond belief. I just don't know if a girl would ever be interested in me.

 

I've used Bumble and Tinder and have around 200 matches on Tinder and about 5-10 matches on Bumble every day, but the problem is I'm only attracted to the "hot" girls who won't give me a chance (the ones every guy thinks is absolutely gorgeous). I think the biggest issue is I'm only 5'8 which is horribly unattractive for a man, and maybe I lack confidence. But confidence only goes so far.

 

Whenever I see a girl I'm legitimately attracted to and would go out of my way to ask out, she always seems to be with a 6'1 dude out of a Ralph Lauren catalogue. Every year I keep telling myself I'm going to find a gorgeous girl and ask her out. Every year I disappoint myself. This clearly isn't working.

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I posted about the Bumble app before, I noticed that so many of the people on them look too good to be true like they are all models. Needless to say, I had a terrible experience on there that left me scared for life which I will not get into. To address your questions/concerns ...

 

I don't know what to tell you. I've said before that if there was an answer, I would tell you what the answer is. Either to you or anyone else out there with "where are all the good men/women out there?" I don't know where, I don't think it exists quite honestly. It's what it is. All you can do is keep moving forward. Focus on you - your job, your goals, your interests, the things around you. Because all you have, really, is you. I realize this more as I get older. Just keep a mindset. Think "It's all cool. Whatever will be will be. You're okay."

 

I feel you, trust me. It's what it is.

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I think you know the solution to the problem

 

If you're repeatedly being rejected by the same types of women, you're going to have to go for different types

 

Forgive me, but I'm having a hard time believing a fairly good looking, 27 year old M.D has never even kissed a girl

 

I'm in nursing school, there's plenty of less attractive, less intelligent nurses who would go out with a MD for no other reason besides the fact he's an MD

 

I don't understand that logic, but I see it all the time none the less

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I'm 27 years old and I never went on a date, never asked a girl out, never kissed a girl, etc. The sad thing is I don't even know how to change this. The women I am attracted to are just impossible.

 

As stated above, I'm 27. I'm a first year surgery resident (M.D). I drive a BMW, I'm in shape even though I work 90 hours a week (home gym even when I'm exhaused), dress nicely, have an Ivy education, etc. I'm actually pretty good looking (except for my height). I'm also the sweetest guy you will ever meet. I would so go out of my way for a girl who was actually interested in me and spoil her beyond belief. I just don't know if a girl would ever be interested in me.

 

I've used Bumble and Tinder and have around 200 matches on Tinder and about 5-10 matches on Bumble every day, but the problem is I'm only attracted to the "hot" girls who won't give me a chance (the ones every guy thinks is absolutely gorgeous). I think the biggest issue is I'm only 5'8 which is horribly unattractive for a man, and maybe I lack confidence. But confidence only goes so far.

 

Whenever I see a girl I'm legitimately attracted to and would go out of my way to ask out, she always seems to be with a 6'1 dude out of a Ralph Lauren catalogue. Every year I keep telling myself I'm going to find a gorgeous girl and ask her out. Every year I disappoint myself. This clearly isn't working.

 

Wanna give me a shot? I am single as a pringle~

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Wanna give me a shot? I am single as a pringle~

 

Yeah seems pretty rare to find women who are into shorter guys. Dated 1 woman who was 6'1; I'm 5'8. Rest were all shorter than myself though.

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I'm 27 years old and I never went on a date, never asked a girl out, never kissed a girl, etc. The sad thing is I don't even know how to change this. The women I am attracted to are just impossible.

 

As stated above, I'm 27. I'm a first year surgery resident (M.D). I drive a BMW, I'm in shape even though I work 90 hours a week (home gym even when I'm exhaused), dress nicely, have an Ivy education, etc. I'm actually pretty good looking (except for my height). I'm also the sweetest guy you will ever meet. I would so go out of my way for a girl who was actually interested in me and spoil her beyond belief. I just don't know if a girl would ever be interested in me.

 

I've used Bumble and Tinder and have around 200 matches on Tinder and about 5-10 matches on Bumble every day, but the problem is I'm only attracted to the "hot" girls who won't give me a chance (the ones every guy thinks is absolutely gorgeous). I think the biggest issue is I'm only 5'8 which is horribly unattractive for a man, and maybe I lack confidence. But confidence only goes so far.

 

Whenever I see a girl I'm legitimately attracted to and would go out of my way to ask out, she always seems to be with a 6'1 dude out of a Ralph Lauren catalogue. Every year I keep telling myself I'm going to find a gorgeous girl and ask her out. Every year I disappoint myself. This clearly isn't working.

 

No, it's clearly not working.

 

Look dude, is isn't about your height. It isn't about your education, it isn't about your job, it isn't about your BMW. Focus on the material things in life, and you will attract others who are equally motivated by the material and superficial.

 

Many women of quality will be turned off by the fact that you don't have time to date.

 

And perhaps, you need to be more realistic with your expectations. Sure, it's all well and good to chase the "hot" girls, but it would seem to me that you must be passing on many wonderful women in your search for the perfect physical specimen.

 

Remember, beauty fades and true beauty is found in the inside, not only the outside...

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Focus on the material things in life, and you will attract others who are equally motivated by the material and superficial.

^this.

 

You'll figure it out because you're smart. Mail order Russian model bride=Done.

 

If you're matching on OLD, they are giving you a chance. You didn't get to be an MD just by talent. You had to work hard and study. So practice and study the game of other dudes like your friends to get you some learning. Have you seen the 1994 movie Milk Money? Go on a date with a high-end escort to train you.

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If it makes you feel better, I'm a 26 year old virgin who, like you, has never kissed a girl or been on a date. But unlike you, I'm ugly, uneducated, and a loser. My case is hopeless, while yours is not. With credentials like yours, and your good looks, there's no reason why you shouldn't have women lining up to date you. Just sounds like you're selling yourself short. Start approaching them with confidence and you'll see them reciprocate. Of course, I can't tell you this with 100% certainty, but it seems like that's the case. You could have facial and bodily deformities on top of a crappy personality and unattractive voice like me. Just rock what you've got (which is alot according to your OP) and you'll have women in no time. And ATTRACTIVE women too.

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Yeah seems pretty rare to find women who are into shorter guys. Dated 1 woman who was 6'1; I'm 5'8. Rest were all shorter than myself though.

 

lol I'm a woman. I am 5"2 on a good day...

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I know what I am posting goes against what society says is normal, but maybe trying a different path may help you find success...

 

Have you considered there is more to life and love than material things (looks, cars, jobs, height, etc)? If someone chooses to define his or herself by what he or she has or how he or she looks, that person is setting him or herself up for disappointment because all things get old and fade away. All things.

 

Perhaps instead of Tinder or Bumble, which espouse short and meaningless "hook-ups", maybe you'd find success seeking your soulmate. Have you considered finding a local community or fellowship type church and joining a small group there? You might find someone with whom you can share more than material experiences. You might find someone who sees you for more than a 5'8" well-fit Dr who drives a BMW. You might find your soulmate, someone with whom you can share a lifetime.

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I'm 27 years old and I never went on a date, never asked a girl out, never kissed a girl, etc. The sad thing is I don't even know how to change this. The women I am attracted to are just impossible.

 

As stated above, I'm 27. I'm a first year surgery resident (M.D). I drive a BMW, I'm in shape even though I work 90 hours a week (home gym even when I'm exhaused), dress nicely, have an Ivy education, etc. I'm actually pretty good looking (except for my height). I'm also the sweetest guy you will ever meet. I would so go out of my way for a girl who was actually interested in me and spoil her beyond belief. I just don't know if a girl would ever be interested in me.

 

I've used Bumble and Tinder and have around 200 matches on Tinder and about 5-10 matches on Bumble every day, but the problem is I'm only attracted to the "hot" girls who won't give me a chance (the ones every guy thinks is absolutely gorgeous). I think the biggest issue is I'm only 5'8 which is horribly unattractive for a man, and maybe I lack confidence. But confidence only goes so far.

 

Whenever I see a girl I'm legitimately attracted to and would go out of my way to ask out, she always seems to be with a 6'1 dude out of a Ralph Lauren catalogue. Every year I keep telling myself I'm going to find a gorgeous girl and ask her out. Every year I disappoint myself. This clearly isn't working.

 

Let them chase you. Your doing too much. Time for you to change your look and get into the Modern look. I've done that myself because I wanted too. The hair, smell an etc.. Cargo Joggers look for causal look. Vans Canvas sneakers (all white / all black) costly but you can affort it. Leather bracket for men. I make my own mens leather brackets. Need to buy no show or cut off socks.. I am not keen on tore jeans yet. If you dress right you'll get them to look at you. Fix you hair if you don't have hair go all bald. Wear a base ball hat with out labels. Nike sport wear still holds up value.

 

Stop chasing them let them chase you.. Good looking to average women if you can deal with them go for it.. Even woman you don't want to take talk to them and get the feel of the action.

 

Try it out you just don't know until you try...

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