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Old 15th August 2017, 7:35 AM   #16
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It wouldn't be an issue for me.

The lack of confidence and the fact that you are so insecure about your baldness would be more of problem for me. It's just hair.
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Old 15th August 2017, 7:37 AM   #17
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What are your suspicions as to the why?? Very curious lol
I suspect it has something to do with the relatively 'controlled' population/genetic migration over the 100+ years. Overwhelmingly caucasian, but even the ethnic backgrounds within the predominant population is not that varied. I am NOT suggesting inbreeding or anything like that, rather, the predominant ethnic groups coming in were probably not too diverse.
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Old 15th August 2017, 7:38 AM   #18
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It wouldn't be an issue for me.

The lack of confidence and the fact that you are so insecure about your baldness would be more of problem for me. It's just hair.
What I meant to say and forgot to add, self confidence is much more attractive than hair any day...
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Old 15th August 2017, 7:41 AM   #19
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Consider yourself fortunate that you've got some of the physical factors you described working in your favor. I read your post and then think of the lighter skinned dudes who are bald(ing) but also vertically challenged and carrying an extra 30 pounds. Now THOSE guys have a steep hill to climb.
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What are your suspicions as to the why?? Very curious lol
Me too. I have my own theories about MPB. I've studied it extensively, actually 😄
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Old 15th August 2017, 8:08 AM   #21
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Consider yourself fortunate that you've got some of the physical factors you described working in your favor. I read your post and then think of the lighter skinned dudes who are bald(ing) but also vertically challenged and carrying an extra 30 pounds. Now THOSE guys have a steep hill to climb.
Maybe, but are not those some of the guys I see in the supermarket every day with a wife and kids in tow...

I think a lot of attraction is learnt and if her beloved Dad is a small, white, chubby, bald guy then that is probably who she will ultimately choose as a husband...
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Old 15th August 2017, 8:12 AM   #22
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I suspect it has something to do with the relatively 'controlled' population/genetic migration over the 100+ years. Overwhelmingly caucasian, but even the ethnic backgrounds within the predominant population is not that varied. I am NOT suggesting inbreeding or anything like that, rather, the predominant ethnic groups coming in were probably not too diverse.
I think it has a lot to do with environmental factors impact on androgens


Op, the problem is you are letting baldness define you so much. I know how a few men get about this. They resort to taking fin, which is essentially rat poison, to delay it even if it destroys their sex drive. It becomes an obsessive insecurity. You'll find if you wear it well and confidently most women don't care and many find it very sexy! Insecure is no sexy

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Old 15th August 2017, 8:23 AM   #23
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I think it has a lot to do with environmental factors impact on androgens


Op, the problem is you are letting baldness define you so much. I know how a few men get about this. They resort to taking fin, which is essentially rat poison, to delay it even if it destroys their sex drive. It becomes an obsessive insecurity. You'll find if you wear it well and confidently most women don't care and many find it very sexy! Insecure is no sexy
I don't want to hijack this thread, but I would agree with this. I have lived from the west to the south and now the north and have notice more bald men in my current area than anywhere else. What do you suspect? I am convinced that genetics due to predominant population has something to do with it. I'm in a mountain state. Radon?
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Old 15th August 2017, 8:40 AM   #24
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According to the UK’s National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (Nice), the condition affects 30% of white men under 30, increasing to around 80% of men over 70 (it occurs less in black men, and later and more slowly in Asian men). Its causes are well established but poorly understood by those of us who have it. We might blame blocked pores, over-shampooing, over-brushing, the water supply or even the remedies we’ve bought, but the truth is that it’s a cruel trick played by nature on the genetically susceptible. Dihydrotestosterone (DHT) is thought to be the hormone responsible. It’s synthesised from testosterone by an enzyme, 5-alpha-reductase, that’s found in the dermal papilla, a small compartment at the base of the hair follicle. This kicks off a process of miniaturisation in hormonally sensitive areas such as the forehead and crown. The dermal papilla cells fall in number, the follicles shrink and, as the American Hair Loss Association puts it, they stop producing “cosmetically acceptable hair”
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History tells us of men willing to try all manner of bizarre remedies to thwart hair loss. In the Old Testament, the prophet Elisha is taunted for his baldness by a group of boys. He’s sufficiently touchy about this to call for the assistance of God, who promptly summons two bears to maul the boys to death. Harsh, certainly, but it’s worth noting that God chose to exterminate the taunters rather than tackle the hair loss. You can’t really blame him, though. Male pattern hair loss is a very tricky problem indeed.
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Finasteride, meanwhile, has been available in the US for hair growth under the name Propecia since 1997. Its hair-growing properties were first noticed by users of Proscar, a 5mg dose of finasteride originally manufactured by Merck for treating enlarged prostate glands. After tests, Merck determined that a 1mg dose was sufficient to promote hair growth. Its workings are better understood than minoxidil’s (it’s thought to inhibit the 5-alpha-reductase enzyme in the dermal papilla) but some of the side effects listed by the FDA, including erectile dysfunction, libido disorders and ejaculation disorders, can put men off. “There are millions of people taking finasteride with no side effects,,” says a disgruntled Stevenson, “but you don’t hear from them. I feel sorry for the people who are scared.”
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Thanks. I have a decent idea as to why/how hair loss occurs. I'm more interested in why, in this area, there seems to be more of it than other areas of the country I have lived.
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Old 15th August 2017, 9:35 AM   #26
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Where's the OP? Is this one of them post and dash?
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Old 15th August 2017, 10:01 AM   #27
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Thank you for all the replies so far.

I agree with the majority of you that it's my attitude towards the baldness itself that needs to change not being bald itself. I have a constant goatee and trim it as and when so I do as much as I can physically to stay looking as sauve as possible.

I don't know, I still feel that online dating can be harsh on us bald guys because on there women can't sense the level of confidence in someone they haven't actually met in person. Obviously sometimes your profile as a whole can express a certain confidence, or not.

Anyway, I'm trying my best to meet more women these days but it's pretty difficult at the moment. I think besides online dating, I think the best way is introductions through friends. Looking into a new church where I know some people, maybe that'll help. Other than that, I think maybe the baldness issue is just one of many frustrations for me. As in the real issue is that I just feel left behind and lost. More of my friends are moving on, in long term relationships and getting married, where I'm stuck at square one.

On MPB, it is largely genetic. Obviously there are other diseases can that cause it but generally speaking it runs in families. As I said all my uncles on my mothers side are all bald and went bald fairly young like myself. It is common amongst Caucasians, infact I read somewhere that after Germany, the UK has the highest percentage of MPB within Europe. It affects South Asians and blacks to an average degree and Far eastern asians to a lesser degree.
What is interesting, is that there are ethnic groups where MPB is very rare and almost non-existent. It is known that is non-existent amongst the native red indians. Also when I was in South America, I noticed that it's extremely rare amongst Latinos. Men in Peru and Bolivia may not be too tall but they all seem to have great hair even in middle age and upwards. I saw possibly only 2 or 3 bald men during my time there in those countries (and they may have been tourists too!)

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Old 15th August 2017, 10:19 AM   #28
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I suspect it has something to do with the relatively 'controlled' population/genetic migration over the 100+ years. Overwhelmingly caucasian, but even the ethnic backgrounds within the predominant population is not that varied. I am NOT suggesting inbreeding or anything like that, rather, the predominant ethnic groups coming in were probably not too diverse.
Oh, ok, you were talking about men going bald, not men choosing to be bald. For some reason I thought you were referring to men shaving their heads and there being some kind of motivation behind that. Gotcha.
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Old 15th August 2017, 10:21 AM   #29
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Ideally, I would prefer a man not to be bald but it's not a deal breaker.
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Old 15th August 2017, 10:39 AM   #30
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I think that one thing I've noticed over years is that if you don't respect yourself for any reason (can be anything stupid: like not having the education you want, not having hair on your head, being short, being a virgin, etc), then other people won't respect you either. But if you accept yourself properly, then you are always coming from a position of great strength.

And women sniff out your weaknesses the same way dogs do. It's the mental weakness that is often the issue, rather than the whatever the thing is causing the mental weakness.
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When you don't respect yourself, you're essentially telling people "I suck, take it from someone who knows".

Over time, you realize that people in general want to like you. They're shy and need you to lead the way.

IMO, a lot of low self-esteem people don't understand how dodgy their behavior comes off as.
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