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Does how a Women dresses affect how much you are/are not attracted to them?

 

Are there certain styles of dress that you find a turn off/don't like? And vice versa?

 

For example... a girl dresses very feminine, always in dresses, lacy tops etc, would that make you more attracted to them? Less attracted to them than someone who is a more causal jeans/tee girl?

 

I find this kind of thing interesting. Esp since i'm really into fashion/style, but I don't believe I'm ott, I just like to look presentable and well put together, yet I still can't find a decent man! haha.

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My hubby wanted us to live in an alternative area...and so I frequently dress alternative. I think it wigs him out sometimes. I tell him that if he wants me to dress normal then he should agree to moving somewhere conservative. He loves the area, so it's a great way to shut him down.

 

Generally speaking, a person's style tells us a lot about who they are and the tribe they belong to. Stay true to your style and you stay true to yourself - and you will attract a person who loves you for yourself. No sense in dressing fancy to attract a man if you're a more down to earth type of girl.

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100% yes. It can make a huge difference. Some would be more into lacey dresses, some more into jeans and a tee.

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I think it's a personal preference. I'm not entirely sure my husband or many of my guy friends could tell you what any given woman is wearing at any time other than maybe clothes & a color. I suspect that any woman who adopts a more masculine style will eliminate more potential suitors then attract them but the right guy for her will be happy about her choice of outfit.

 

Heartbrokenandhurt --

 

If you are having trouble fining a guy something else is at play besides your wardrobe. Are you too into fashion so your clothes give you a high maintenance vibe? Are you still wearing your heart on your sleeve from whatever happened to get you your screen name? Are you looking in the wrong places?

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Does how a Women dresses affect how much you are/are not attracted to them?

 

Are there certain styles of dress that you find a turn off/don't like? And vice versa?

 

For example... a girl dresses very feminine, always in dresses, lacy tops etc, would that make you more attracted to them? Less attracted to them than someone who is a more causal jeans/tee girl?

 

I find this kind of thing interesting. Esp since i'm really into fashion/style, but I don't believe I'm ott, I just like to look presentable and well put together, yet I still can't find a decent man! haha.

 

I'm in my 40s now, so in terms of style... there's not really a preference.

 

When I was young, I liked hipster girls (or what would become hipster girls, back then it was called alternative/mod). But I never really dated one.

 

I will say though that a woman who is all made up to the hilt (hair, makeup, clothes, shoes) is an initial turn off because that might indicate what type of priorities she has. But I'd still give that woman a chance.

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Does how a Women dresses affect how much you are/are not attracted to them?

 

I read a recent study where guys had to look a pictures of women and had to guess whether the woman in the picture was attracted to them. Most guys ignored even obvious signs in the body language (smiling, turning toward the camera) and tried to read the clothing styles.

 

Based on that alone it makes a huge difference, I would say. A simple smile does way more for me personally than whatever you wear.

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I would say the more feminine attire you described is definitely more attractive. However, it's also definitely not a deal breaker if you also go with jeans and a tee. You just won't get any compliments from me with that type of attire. :laugh: The main thing I'm concerned with is body type and to a slightly lesser extent, your face :D

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Does how a Women dresses affect how much you are/are not attracted to them?

 

Are there certain styles of dress that you find a turn off/don't like? And vice versa?

 

For example... a girl dresses very feminine, always in dresses, lacy tops etc, would that make you more attracted to them? Less attracted to them than someone who is a more causal jeans/tee girl?

 

I find this kind of thing interesting. Esp since i'm really into fashion/style, but I don't believe I'm ott, I just like to look presentable and well put together, yet I still can't find a decent man! haha.

 

For attraction, I'd say men have preferences at some level, but they're negligible relative to the other ones (face and body, personality).

 

They say, that as a rule of thumb, humans dress like the people they want to associate with. To fit in with their tribe, if you will.

 

Like, I've never had a meaningful relationship with a girl who has noticeable tattoos or exotic piercings. That's not because I wouldn't, it's more that the underlying reasons I think those things are unattractive are symptoms of incompatibility.

 

I had a girlfriend in college who I basically dressed. That was a strange role reversal.

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I have noticed I get way more looks, approaches, compliments etc when I wear a skirt or especially a dress.

 

Even women make more comments though...

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Sure, it makes a difference. Some styles don't suit the venue, some don't suit the person. Sometimes lace is attractive, and sometimes jeans - it depends on the circumstances, and perhaps body type.

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I would say the most important thing is dressing for the occasion and not letting yourself get too masculine, though I have broken that rule most of my life. I wore elaborate cowboy boots for at least a couple of decades on a regular basis and I also wore a goodwill men's black blazer over things and even wore a music artist tie in a couple of photos. I was doing Patti Smith before Patti Smith was doing Patti Smith.

 

That was all fine because I was in a focused music subculture and experimenting was the way fashion was done in that group. Mostly stuff from thrift stores and vintage clothes for me and for a lot of the guys I knew as well.

 

That said, the more masculine stuff like the cowboy boots, I'd have done better in something more girly probably, but it's not like I never wore anything else. I'd wear slingbacks or high heels when I wanted to.

 

With men, I agree they miss most of the details. Dress appropriately for where you're going. And men generally just want to see the outline of your body or some skin somewhere and they're happy.

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for me, i'll walk out of the gym all sweaty (not even cute gym clothes) and i'll get approached by men more than when i've put together a chic and feminine outfit, haha.

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for me, i'll walk out of the gym all sweaty (not even cute gym clothes) and i'll get approached by men more than when i've put together a chic and feminine outfit, haha.

 

Hahaha yeah that too - but it shows your body.

 

I get hit on when I am wearing my riding breeches and boots... And smelling like barn yard :lmao:

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It's all in the body type....

 

A woman dressed to the nine's and all dolled up, but is dumpy or awkward looking or whatever and I won't bother even looking...Another woman with ripped jeans, no make up, and a t shirt can really get my attention if she has the goods,,,

 

But all guys are different..

 

TFY

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for me, i'll walk out of the gym all sweaty (not even cute gym clothes) and i'll get approached by men more than when i've put together a chic and feminine outfit, haha.

 

It seems that guys generally are attracted to either feminine or exercise outfits (the latter reveals the female body shape).

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It seems that guys generally are attracted to either feminine or exercise outfits (the latter reveals the female body shape).

 

I have a related question: I go hiking during the weekend when the weather permits. I normally wear a sports t-shirt and a pair of yoga pants for hiking, and often have to do some errands on my way home. Is it appropriate to dress like that while doing errands?

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I have a related question: I go hiking during the weekend when the weather permits. I normally wear a sports t-shirt and a pair of yoga pants for hiking, and often have to do some errands on my way home. Is it appropriate to dress like that while doing errands?

 

As long as your sexual organs are covered your outfit is "appropriate". If you are using every out of the house opportunity to try to meet somebody, yoga pants & a fitted shirt seem like they would show off your body so that will attract somebody. As long as you are not smelly/sweaty/dirty it should be fine.

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As long as your sexual organs are covered your outfit is "appropriate". If you are using every out of the house opportunity to try to meet somebody, yoga pants & a fitted shirt seem like they would show off your body so that will attract somebody. As long as you are not smelly/sweaty/dirty it should be fine.

 

Thanks. Of course everything is fully covered :lmao: I'm not concerned about meeting people; but it seems that are diverse opinions regarding whether it's appropriate to wear yoga pants outside of the gym...

 

OP: Sorry about the digression :o

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It's all in the body type....

 

A woman dressed to the nine's and all dolled up, but is dumpy or awkward looking or whatever and I won't bother even looking...Another woman with ripped jeans, no make up, and a t shirt can really get my attention if she has the goods,,,

 

But all guys are different..

 

TFY

 

This is my take, too, though I'll extend it to say that she doesn't even need a crazy body if she looks pulled together. I actually prefer women in simplistic outfits that stand out because the individual items compliment each other well, and doesn't look like they probably took 45 minutes to get dressed.

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I like a woman that looks great. That puts some effort into her dress style. I am more about face than anything. I would rather have a woman that is slightly heavier with a great face. Than a banging bod but the face is not kept up.

 

So clean straight white teeth is a must if possible.

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I have a related question: I go hiking during the weekend when the weather permits. I normally wear a sports t-shirt and a pair of yoga pants for hiking, and often have to do some errands on my way home. Is it appropriate to dress like that while doing errands?

 

Hell yeah...:D

 

TFY

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You can certainly attract certain men, by dressing a certain way for sure. What happens after is then anyone's guess. For me, I always look more at a woman who takes care of her appearance, and indeed I like sexy styles (whatever that may be - its a personal thing of course).

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