What am I missing?

[JustGettingBy]

Alright, so like many people here, I've hit a certain age (25) and haven't been in a relationship. I've identified one reason (I used to be totally clueless). My current situation:

 

3 time college graduate living at home working multiple part-time jobs (one is in field of study) with all jobs adding up to 40 hours per week. Currently looking for full-time work in field. Over $30k in the bank adding, a few hundred bucks to my savings each month. Multiple circles of friends, all groups are mixed gender. Most of my friends are in relationships. I'm a bit of homebody with aspergers.

 

Now, unlike a lot of the people posting here who haven't been in a relationship, I believe I can change for the better, and in the past few months, have made the following changes:

 

Applying for full-time work daily (I have an interview next week at a place I used to volunteer at, and have gotten at least one interview per month each month this year)

Began meditating daily

Began to learn how to cook

Stopped watching pornography

Turned half-hearted fitness routine into daily runs and exercises

Researched signs of women being interested

Started eating slightly healthier

 

All the while, I've been on OLD, and while I have been getting an above average amount of replies, no dates. I've gotten to asking a couple of women out, but they said they've been busy. I always said something along the lies of "I'll get back to you in a couple months", and plan on doing so just on the off chance that's the truth and not just a polite "no".

 

Thing is, nobody, friends or family has really been asking "Have you found someone/are you seeing someone?" etc. Even after I hint that I'm looking "yay, another exciting chapter in my book of being the 7th wheel" nobody asks, if I've even began seeing anyone, and one friend even replied "don't get a girlfriend". Usually perpetually single people posting here have people asking these sorts of questions. Are people hinting that looking now is just a waste and I shouldn't bother? Do people drop those kind of hints? Any other advice?

[d0nnivain]

Nobody is hinting that you shouldn't bother. Read all the threads on here from people who are peeved that they are constantly being asked if they found somebody yet. Your relatives don't want to be nosy pests. If you would like their help or advice, ask them.

[mightycpa]

Count your blessings. You're just not old enough to get your daily dose of that stuff yet, or maybe the people who would ask are aware that you struggle a bit in this department.

 

Either way, CYB.

[Mysterio]

I think the best way to have peace of mind is to keep doing the things you are doing. Add a Recreational activity and have an interesting life.

 

I think the chase for love is a joke. I am 46. I struggle with it as well. Yet I have the gift of time to see what works and what does not. I think the trick is to meet people. Or Women in our case and let the relationships just come about. There is no special gestures and lines. Just like freindships. Let it come out naturally instead of pushing anything.