JustGettingBy Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Pretty much what the title says. I'm considering using OLD to open up a new avenue to meet women and am just looking for some advice to avoid 'rookie mistakes'. Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Use good, recent pictures. Not pictures of you with an animal you killed, or your cars and toys only. Don't waste too much time messaging back and forth. If you are interested, ask them out pretty quick. Put something more in your profile than "ask". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) Sure thing: 1. Pick good site. Tinder is more casual/hookup. Match/OKC more relationship. I hear good things about Bumble. Never tried it. 2. Have good but accurate pics. Lots of them. 10+ 3. No shirtless pics 4. No dead animal/hunting/fishing pics 5. Have at least 1 full body pic 6. Have a decent description. Not super long, but say something about yourself that's unique. 7. You'll have to do the outreach on OKC/Match. Bumble, the women reach out. Tinder is just a swipe thing. 8. Have a decent outreach text/email. Don't make it canned. Don't make it long. Mention something about them that you noticed from their pics or their profile. Do: "Hey, is that pic from the Sheraton in Cancun?" Don't, "You are so pretty/hot/gorgeous/smoking/sexy" 9. If you strike up a conversation. Chat her up. Ask her out fairly quickly... maybe 5 to 10 volleys into the conversation. Make it easy to say yes: coffee, tea, cocktail. Something that is short and low investment. Do NOT drag on the chat. 10. Up to half of the profiles you see are not real: Yes, some are fake. Some are scammy. Some are second accounts. Some are zombie accounts. Some are from just lookie-loos. Some are women who currently have a full slate of guys or are just getting into/out of a relationship. Just assume that only 1 in 2 profiles you see is really a woman who is actively looking for a relationship. 11. Don't lie about anything. Your body type. Your height. Your relationship status. Editorial: You have to understand that if she is at all attractive in her pics she is getting anywhere from 5 to 100 inbounds per day if you're in a city and on the right site. The vast majority of this deluge of inbounds are guys that she doesn't want. Old guys. Young guys. Creepers. Asshats. You name it. And you're lumped in with them. So you have to stand out and the way you stand out is by saying something unique and about her - proves that you actually checked her out and are trying. Don't waste her time. OLD is just a path to first meet. It is not a relationship management platform. It isn't real until you meet. OLD is absolutely rock bottom lowest investment. People ghost. People disappear. A couple of years ago I was out with three female friends having beers. They decided to have a "Tinder race". They all whipped out their phones and raced by swiping on every guy to see who could come up with 20 matches the fastest. Then they wagered on who would get the most inbound texts out of those 20 matches. OLD can suck. Or it can be great. For me I had really great luck on Match and OKC. I had good pics, a great profile and I give great text/email. If I put some real work into it on Monday - Tuesday I could have 3 first dates lined up for the weekend. I think I am an outlier though for men. Good luck! Edited March 3, 2017 by Mrin 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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