Getting additional pics from OLD prospects

[SevenCity]

Let me start off by saying the women are going to hate me for this thread....

 

Anyway, I get matches from women and often they have the face only pics or that downward angle pic that makes them look much thinner than they are in real life.

 

Call me superficial, but I like thin women. I have nothing against heavy women but I just don't find them attractive (much like girls who won't date a guy below a certain height).

 

The last girl I went out with from online was easily 60 - 70 lbs heavier than her pic lead me to believe. I should have walked out but I felt bad and had dinner / appetizers with her only to run out when I couldn't take it anymore as I had zero attraction. I should mention this date required me taking a train into the city so it was not local.

 

I've learned that a lot of women will post waist up only pics or a strange angle that makes them appear much thinner than they are.

 

On the other hand, I think that perhaps they just don't have full body pics or want to be judged on that. A woman can be the best girl in the world but I will not be attracted if they are overweight.

 

So my question, how would one tactfully ask for a full body pic without coming off like a superficial jerk (which in your eyes I may be)?

 

Or to the guys - should I just avoid all women without a full body pic?

 

Thanks in advance!

[mightycpa]

Hey Superficial!

 

The one thing I've read from women in a bunch of forums are how they are so put off by guys they don't even know asking for more pictures. There's a big EWWW factor to it.

 

Maybe ask "Which popular band name best describes you:

 

a) Thin Lizzy

b) The Fat Chick

c) Average White Band

d) Pussy Riot

e) Dum Dum Girls

f) Babes in Toyland

 

[spiderowl]

Just ask them if they are over a certain weight/dress size. Yes, they will be furious with you for asking but some of them might be stupid enough to think if they meet your requirements now, you are the guy for them. People don't always stay thin, unfortunately, so if they put on weight they will have to find someone else. But hey ho, that's what happens if either partner has fixed requirements.

 

If you have a thing about weight, make it clear up front so that the more curvy women can filter themselves out from your prospects. It saves both of you from disappointment.

[rushed]

You could try and bull**** your way into getting a full body pic.

 

You: Hey, I think I'm looking pretty swanky in my outfit today. What do you think? {send full body pic of you}

 

Her: Oh, I like your shoes.

 

You: I think you can tell a lot about a person from their clothes. Send me one of you in your outfit today.

 

Or, you can go stalker if you have her phone number. Some facebook accounts are linked to a person's phone number and you can look up their fb via their phone number, and look through their pics that way.

[Cookiesandough]

There is no way to ask someone for a "full body pic" without being shallow and tactless.

I'm skinny as hell but when I was doing the o.d. thing, the second a guy asked me for "more pics" I blocked/deleted. I understand you have you preferences, ?but it's just a huge turn off from the jump. Makes you seem extremely shallow and tasteless right from the jump. Not to mention kind of desperate..

 

Other girls might feel differently though.

 

Is there a tactful way to ask for **** pics, STD test results, income tax files etc.???

 

Nope..just not. I go by the pics the guy posted and if I there is not sufficient proof from them that he's physically attractive enough for me to be interested in a first date with him I move the hell on.. Hopefully you have other options

[Ieris]

I would go with something similar to what @rushed said. What is your fashion style like? Can I see some pictures?

[NuevoYorko]

 

So my question, how would one tactfully ask for a full body pic without coming off like a superficial jerk (which in your eyes I may be)?

 

Or to the guys - should I just avoid all women without a full body pic?

 

Thanks in advance!

Yes, you'd come off as poorly and many of the most lovely and slender women won't respond well to such a request; they don't have to "prove it" to Internet strangers.

 

Just be very clear with any woman that you communicate with that you absolutely, 100%, with no exceptions, ONLY like women who wear a size 0 and weigh under 105 pounds, or whatever your criteria. Stress it emphatically. I guarantee you that any woman who won't meet your weight standard will NOT want to subject herself to certain rejection. Of course, there will be some thin women who will reject you because they'll be turned off by your stringent body size requirements, but you'd be incompatible with them anyway.

[Sweetfish]

Let me start off by saying the women are going to hate me for this thread....

 

Anyway, I get matches from women and often they have the face only pics or that downward angle pic that makes them look much thinner than they are in real life.

 

Call me superficial, but I like thin women. I have nothing against heavy women but I just don't find them attractive (much like girls who won't date a guy below a certain height).

 

The last girl I went out with from online was easily 60 - 70 lbs heavier than her pic lead me to believe. I should have walked out but I felt bad and had dinner / appetizers with her only to run out when I couldn't take it anymore as I had zero attraction. I should mention this date required me taking a train into the city so it was not local.

 

I've learned that a lot of women will post waist up only pics or a strange angle that makes them appear much thinner than they are.

 

On the other hand, I think that perhaps they just don't have full body pics or want to be judged on that. A woman can be the best girl in the world but I will not be attracted if they are overweight.

 

So my question, how would one tactfully ask for a full body pic without coming off like a superficial jerk (which in your eyes I may be)?

 

Or to the guys - should I just avoid all women without a full body pic?

 

Thanks in advance!

 

 

just put you enjoy fit women in your profile...

 

was that so hard...

 

I hope you don't take offense when they ask to see your check stub lol

 

Whats fair is fair right?

[SevenCity]

just put you enjoy fit women in your profile...

 

was that so hard...

 

I hope you don't take offense when they ask to see your check stub lol

 

Whats fair is fair right?

 

Thanks for all the replies.

 

Seeetfish - I find it funny that women equate body type to a mans paycheck. I actually saw this one angry girl on POF that posted a text convo pic in her profile with a guy asking for a full pick and she responded "Only if I can see a pay stub and dic pic.

 

I think a woman would be as upset if I showed up 70 lbs heavier or 6" shorter than I appeared.

 

But good point about stating I like thin women. If these were local dates I wouldn't care as much but going into the city is a hassle.

[elaine567]

I would go with something similar to what @rushed said. What is your fashion style like? Can I see some pictures?

 

Even so, your fashion sense???

It all comes across as shallow.

"YOU may be able to recite the entire works of Shakespeare by heart but your dress sense is soooo last season..."

Superficial.

 

He either needs to be better at filtering out women who are photographed at weird angles, or he needs to just be interested in women who will post full body pics on their profiles.

 

Also if her idea of a fun night is Netflix, pizza and icecream, she loves box sets, video gaming and other couch based activities and wouldn't be seen dead in a gym or walking in the park, then he doesn't need body shots. She will either be overweight or is heading that way pretty soon.

A few well targeted general questions may be more helpful than getting 20 pics taken when she was at her slimmest, or running the risk of getting blocked.

[Cookiesandough]

Lol @ fashion sense. How many straight guys even ask for more pics of a girls fashion ,though. Like someone couldn't see right through that

[ReformedPUA]

I may get heat for this advice too.

 

Say "I will not meet up with someone without a full-body picture. I have one up of myself, so fair is fair here." There is no need to beat around the bush here. A woman won't meet up with a guy if she doesn't think she'd be attracted to him--and possible reasons for that include height and body type and bad pictures--so why can't you screen likewise. If she writes you first, let that be the first thing you write her back.

 

If YOU were the one who wrote her first, then...well....if it is important to you, then what were you doing writing a woman without a full body shot in the first place? There are a lot of physically attractive women online who do post full pictures. Why weren't you writing those women instead.

Edited January 21, 2017 by ReformedPUA

[Lilyana76]

Honestly when it comes to online dating, I look at it as just meeting new people on the first meet, no big first date, no pressure. Just a quick drink during happy hour or what have you.

 

I never go in with high expectations, just the expectation that at the very least I made a new friend. I don't care what their pictures look like, or what they do for a living. Its just meeting someone new. If theres a connection great.. if not, no harm no foul.

 

Maybe instead of taking these women out on "dates" when you first meet them, suggest a quick drink or a coffee. That way if who you meet isn't what you want, its quick in and out, and you don't have to insult them about their body type, or offend someone by asking for a body picture.

[preraph]

It's insulting to ask, so don't ask. If they had wanted to share that, they would have. So just don't talk to those women and move on. Downward shots don't make THAT big a difference though, and most people do selfies these days. I hope you get past being so rigid about body type by the time your 40 because that kind of thinness doesn't last past 40 usually, and having babies changes the body even on the naturally thin ones.

 

My wish for you is that someday you actually know what love is and love a woman enough that no matter how her body changed, you'd find it out of the question to leave her. Because anything less than that is just sexual interest, not love.

[normal person]

Some women will lie about their weight. Some men will lie about their height, income, etc.

 

I understand the frustration as I've been where you are a few times, I think what bothers me most is that if someone deliberately lies to you about what they look like (and we're all superficial to some extent), you're then in a situation where it's rude for you to call them out for lying, and on top of that, you often have to pay for their drinks/dinner while having your time wasted.

 

As terrible as it is, it's unavoidable. Just the cost of doing business. If it's that much of a concern, see if they want to FaceTime beforehand.

[SwordofFlame]

Ask to connect on Facebook or Instagram. Might not work or be helpful, but it's worth a shot.

[LookAtThisPOst]

Let me start off by saying the women are going to hate me for this thread....

 

Anyway, I get matches from women and often they have the face only pics or that downward angle pic that makes them look much thinner than they are in real life.

 

Call me superficial, but I like thin women. I have nothing against heavy women but I just don't find them attractive (much like girls who won't date a guy below a certain height).

 

And the caveat there is that something can be done about weight, nothing can be done about height.

 

The last girl I went out with from online was easily 60 - 70 lbs heavier than her pic lead me to believe. I should have walked out but I felt bad and had dinner / appetizers with her only to run out when I couldn't take it anymore as I had zero attraction. I should mention this date required me taking a train into the city so it was not local.

 

I've learned that a lot of women will post waist up only pics or a strange angle that makes them appear much thinner than they are.

 

On the other hand, I think that perhaps they just don't have full body pics or want to be judged on that. A woman can be the best girl in the world but I will not be attracted if they are overweight.

 

So my question, how would one tactfully ask for a full body pic without coming off like a superficial jerk (which in your eyes I may be)?

 

Or to the guys - should I just avoid all women without a full body pic?

 

Thanks in advance!

 

Yeah, you have to watch those "MySpace Angles" lol. Sometimes I would check for a double chin in the face only pics, if they have a 2nd chin, I move on, lol. Some face shots where the jawline is more pronounced, you can take a gamble at meeting up with them and they may not be obese or overweight.

 

Typically, I look for photos at least from the waistline up.

 

and most people do selfies these days

 

I avoid these like the plague...if, like I said before, they had a more pronounced chin.

 

This is a typical dating "DON'T" 101, if 7 of their photos are all selfies, time to move on. I mean, cannot they get a picture of them when casually out and about with friends. I'm sure they have Facebook pphotos of themselves that they aren't using on the dating sites.

Edited January 22, 2017 by LookAtThisPOst

[Popsicle]

This is total BS.

 

I'm super thin and had a full body pic in my profile and I still had guys asking me for more pics. And they lived around the corner from me.

 

It's BS. They're probably married and just want to jerk off.

 

I refuse to participate in the send me more pics game. If you want to meet, I'm willing. If you want to play the pic or Skype game, then to hell with you.

[Popsicle]

just put you enjoy fit women in your profile...

 

was that so hard...

 

I hope you don't take offense when they ask to see your check stub lol

 

Whats fair is fair right?

 

Right? Lol.

[Lilyana76]

I don't understand the more picture thing either... Just meet for a drink or quick coffee and you'll have your answers then. I don't understand why the necessity for a picture? It does come off as pervy or just shallow.

 

As for pictures other than selfies. I have mainly selfies on my OLD profile. I won't post pictures of my kids on there, because I'm afraid there may be Pedos. I won't post pictures of my friends and family because I think that is a violation of their privacy.

 

if you are that concerned about weight and body issues, bring it up to them before you meet. Say "if you're a fatty stop talking to me now, I'm not interested." Save you the time, and save them the time from meeting someone shallow and may have just missed out on meeting an amazing person.

[LookAtThisPOst]

This is total BS.

 

I'm super thin and had a full body pic in my profile and I still had guys asking me for more pics. And they lived around the corner from me.

 

It's BS. They're probably married and just want to jerk off.

 

I refuse to participate in the send me more pics game. If you want to meet, I'm willing. If you want to play the pic or Skype game, then to hell with you.

 

Chances are they are angling at you sending nudes.

[NuevoYorko]

And the caveat there is that something can be done about weight, nothing can be done about height.

 

How is this a "caveat" and how does it have anything to do with the OP's question?

 

The idea that anyone would feel entitled to ask people to "prove" things about their bodies to Internet strangers seems outrageous.

[losangelena]

I actually don't think it's superficial to want to date thin women—we all have our preferences. In your case, OP, I'd say just stick to women who you can clearly discern as thin. If there's a question in your mind, don't proceed.

 

I do find it kind of funny that you say you've got nothing against larger women, but then say that you ran out on one when you "just couldn't take it anymore." Why not just stay, enjoy getting to know someone new, then leave? That doesn't seem so hard.

Edited January 22, 2017 by losangelena

[Shining One]

OP, ask your dates to meet you somewhere with a publicly accessible camera feed. There's a lot near the beaches and other hotspots where I live. You can check her out on your phone when you're nearby and then determine whether or not to show up.

[Popsicle]

Chances are they are angling at you sending nudes.

 

Sure they are and this is what women think when guys ask for more pics.