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Trump supporters/Hillary supporters, Dealbreakers?


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With the election coming up and the vitriol on social media regarding diff. of opinions on these two...in fact, I have had a friend on FB announce that if someone found out their friend OR family member voted for Trump, they'd ostracize them from their lives...

 

Now, I wonder how these two candidates will factor into the dating criteria? How passionate are you are that you're willing to let a person go due to WHO they will be voting for?

 

Some...may even decide not to tell you who they are voting for on principle, yes?

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Unless you are a passionate liberal or passionate republican type, I don't see that this is a problem or issue at all. It might be the least of your differences.

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GorillaTheater

I have friends and family all over the political spectrum; I'm wary of people who would exclude people from their lives based on political persuasion (although I might do so based on them being obnoxious or a pain in the ass about it).

 

 

But right now, if I was in the dating game, I'd be equally wary of anyone who was a little too ardent in their support of either candidate. Might point to some fundamental compatibility issues for a romantic relationship which wouldn't be a big deal in a non-romantic relationship.

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(although I might do so based on them being obnoxious or a pain in the ass about it).

 

or post extensively on FB about it, I defriend those people, fast....

 

I personally don't think it matters but my wife had the * put in her online profile about it, so she has to be around the same type of politic thinking people.. and I do get it because in life and work the quickest way to argue with someone you like and respect is talk politics so it's a to each his own kinda thing I guess.

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Cablebandit

I don't care who they are voting for as long as their choice involves intellectual integrity. Ignorance doesn't bother me like willful ignorance does.

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I don't care who they are voting for as long as their choice involves intellectual integrity. Ignorance doesn't bother me like willful ignorance does.

 

So you are saying they must vote like you then as the definition of intellectual integrity is subjective and can be different for each person.

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GorillaTheater
So you are saying they must vote like you then as the definition of intellectual integrity is subjective and can be different for each person.

 

 

Mutual respect plays a big part in this. My wife is both more conservative and more religious than I am, maybe by a big margin. But we can talk about issues respectfully and without getting personal.

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Mutual respect plays a big part in this. My wife is both more conservative and more religious than I am, maybe by a big margin. But we can talk about issues respectfully and without getting personal.

 

Yes it does, my wife and I are not always on the same page politically either even though we both have the same ideology.

Religion is the same, we are mostly on the same page with the exception of my understanding of the AA side on things and how they influence my thinking.

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Cablebandit
So you are saying they must vote like you then as the definition of intellectual integrity is subjective and can be different for each person.

 

Absolutely not. Knowledge levels vary while intellectual integrity can still exist.

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GunslingerRoland

I'm thinking if I was in the dating world I'd have a hard time being compatible with someone who was a Trump supporter. The campaign he's running seems very opposed to my core belief system.

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I am dating a guy that said he was a Trump supporter and I almost dropped him. We talked and he did more research and no longer supports him. Otherwise I don't think we would have a future together. Trump is everything that is wrong with this country. I can't honestly believe people support him after all the racist and hateful things he has said.

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salparadise

I wouldn't date a Trump supporter––no way. Luckily my girlfriend and I are on the same page and feel quite a bit of camaraderie. We aren't big Hillary fans either but the alternative is unfathomable.

 

I have also been unfriending people on facebook who post pro-trump garbage, or disparaging stuff about Hillary. I have a few good friends who are conservatives, so I unfollowed them instead of unfriending them.

 

I pretty much have a zero tolerance policy on demagoguery.

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I'm tolerant of opposing points of view so political affiliation wouldn't really matter to me. I'm not real socially political anyway and that tends to be the last thing on anyone's mind when we're interacting.

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I'm tolerant of opposing points of view so political affiliation wouldn't really matter to me. I'm not real socially political anyway and that tends to be the last thing on anyone's mind when we're interacting.

 

Really? :p

 

G and I don't agree about Hillary/Trump but we enjoy a debate and neither gets bothered. I talk better/he types better. I don't debate him on ls but I always win in the living room :)

We both understand that whatever...we'll be up or down together.

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Really? :p

 

G and I don't agree about Hillary/Trump but we enjoy a debate and neither gets bothered. I talk better/he types better. I don't debate him on ls but I always win in the living room :)

We both understand that whatever...we'll be up or down together.

 

Well I mean I bet he's not worried about Trumpary when your boobs are in his face. ;)

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For my bro's , yes.

 

For my female friends, we debate and often allow differences to be heard.

 

Where I used to work it was die hard Republican...I was not welcomed to their open chats.....But they sure had fun making jokes at my expense....

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To me, there are two levels of disagreement.

 

I think reasonable people can disagree about tax rates, or military philosophies, or the proper scope of government, etc. I have lots of reasonable friends on both sides of the aisle who can discuss and even debate those issues in a civil, constructive way.

 

Then there's the other level. These are the people I ignore and/or avoid.

 

Name calling. Calling someone "Lyin' Ted" or "Little Marco" or saying someone has "small hands," etc etc - I don't see how it fits into a grown up conversation about serious issues.

 

Unabashed racism or sexism (we are all racist and sexist to some degree, as wel all best identify with those like us, but we should be trying hard to improve ourselves in this regard)

 

Willful ignorance or being anti-science. It's one thing to say, "Well I'm not sure that data is sufficient to support that conclusion." That implies that at some point, the speaker WOULD accept a conclusion if sufficient evidence pointed in that direction. But people who politicize science, or who "don't accept evolution," or think that the majority of data supports a theory that the world is 6,000 years old, well, I don't have any time for those people. They have turned off their brains.

 

Obsessing over or objecting to two grown men, or two grown women, marrying and having a family. Worry about your own relationships. I'm betting you could take some positive action to make your own relationship stronger, and I'm also willing to bet that two gay men committing to each other is NOT going to negatively affect your own marriage...unless your husband left you for one of those guys. Then...well, it's for the best.

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I just downloaded Tinder a couple days ago to browse and kill time while at work. So far, ALL of the people that have expressed a political opinion have said that they would not date a conservative or people that wanted to "make America great again". I will say in general, from all the Youtube videos I have seen, the left tends to get more angry and emotional than the right. And generally, it is liberal people that try to crash conservative rallies as opposed to the other way around.

 

Me, personally, I would definitely not mind dating someone that has differing political beliefs. I feel like I can learn much more from someone that does not agree with me. Someone that says "I agree" to all my opinions would bore me. I will also say that my current GF and I don't see eye-to-eye on all political issues, but we don't care. Politics hardly comes up between the two of us, and when it does, we don't fight over it anyway.

 

I will say though that if you're a Trump supporter, you're going to have a hard time finding a date.

 

Edit: I'd actually never date someone (I don't think) that would exclude a group of people from their dating people based on beliefs. So for example, even if I was a conservative, I would not date someone that was a conservative who would never date liberals (and vice versa). That, to me, is unattractive. I am an atheist and my GF is religious. I knew from the start that she was religious. I never attempted to convert her and I am glad she does not see me as satan or w/e for being an atheist. Actually, I am GLAD my GF is religious.

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thefooloftheyear

I know several couples that differ pretty strongly politically....They get along about as well as anyone else...

 

I don't really identify strongly with any particular party..So really anything goes.While ill make a strong argument for my point, I can still find some common ground with most....I guess the only trait I truly don't care for are the whiny, crybaby variety of left wingers...They all sound like the fat kids or social misfits that got picked on in high school and can't let it go...I guess I can say the same, but to a lesser degree, the self righteous "goody two shoes" type of right wing person...

 

Anyway...

 

Right wing attractive women seem very confident and sexy...Like the one's that don't whine and wring their hands over every social injustice they feel is wrong with the world, will order a freakin' steak at a restaurant if she wants, will shoot a gun or get her hands dirty....you get the idea..

 

Also. many of my left wing friends are pot heads...No thanks..I don't care what they do as long as it doesn't bother me, but the culture is just lame as hell as far a I am concerned.Fine as a friend, but not a partner..

 

At the end of the day, it wouldn't really matter as long as the person wasn't "over the top"...

 

TFY

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I couldn't date a Trump supporter but not because of Trump's politics. Most of the men I've been involved with in my life were Republicans. I'll split my ticket and vote republican in the senate and democrat in the presidential and our republican senate candidate probably will too. It's a mess this time around. I just couldn't be in be in a very close relationship with someone who voted Trump. I'd be shocked if any of the republican men I've had relationships with would either. Some of the other republican candidates were just fine, though. So it's not at all about party or philosophy for me.

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LookAtThisPOst

Thing is, women can't stand Trump, so if you're a man who is a Trump supporter, it's a deal breaker...your dating pool just went down. :laugh:

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major_merrick

For me, politics (or rather, the LACK of certain views) is extremely important. I can't stand most Democrats. I oppose the regulation of almost everything - I reject authority of any type as much as possible. I don't like the Republicans either, frankly. But I'd vote for Trump over Hillary any day of the week and twice on Sunday. Yes, I'm a woman. And yes, I know a number of women who will vote for Trump. Yes, I'd like to see a woman for president one day, but I feel that a person's views are much more important than their gender.

 

I suspect the Trump vs Hillary thing will be very divided along what part of the country you are in, as it always is. Those on the coasts and those in big cities tend to go left, and those of us in "flyover country" or in the South tend to go right.

 

Of my two GFs, only one cares about politics, and we think alike. The other doesn't care at all. So we're a match. I mostly hang out with people who think like me and don't really drink either party's Kool-Ade.

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I'm thinking if I was in the dating world I'd have a hard time being compatible with someone who was a Trump supporter. The campaign he's running seems very opposed to my core belief system.

 

Same here. Although I have a few people in my life who are Trump supporters, and they aren't insane, or racist. They tend to be moderate Republicans (except for one, who used to pretty Liberal, and has grown more conservative as she got older).

 

A close member of my family hates Hillary, and has said to me, "If you don't vote for Hillary, then I won't vote for Trump" (they hate Trump as well, but apparently that doesn't outweigh the Hillary loathing). We bickered a bit over it, because there's no way I'm voting against her if Trump is on the ballot. I'm having enough trouble getting my head around the few people I know and love, backing him. I think one has now changed her mind, but the others...

 

Normally, I would be more open-minded about this, but I really can't stand the guy.

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