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I have seen this a lot in dating profiles, "Looking for a professional". Though this is a vague term is it not?

 

I mean, you could be a professional mechanic to a professional Wall Street tycoon, but in what context does "professional" actually mean.

 

Can this term be ignored and this person be contacted anyways, perhaps may people THINK they are professionals contacting others anyhow?

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MidwestUSA

I take it to mean white collar, not mechanic. Sure, some mechanics are "pros", but it doesn't sound like this one is looking for a guy with grease under his nails.

 

But hey, give it a shot. Got a suit and tie pic in your profile?

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Are they a professional?

 

Funny you mention that, on their POF profile under "Profession" they have typed, "Professional", lol. Nothing specific.

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Michelle ma Belle

Honestly, I love people who post such things in their profile. It makes much easier to pass them by without a second thought.

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Honestly, I love people who post such things in their profile. It makes much easier to pass them by without a second thought.

 

No kidding! It's often one of many qualifications on their list. It has entitlement written all over it.

 

We all have criteria, of course, but when a woman has a LOT of criteria and lays it all out with a certain attitude, it sounds like she's saying, "I am better than everyone else. I can have anyone I choose." So, if you meet ALL of these qualifications maybe I'll respond and maybe I won't, but if you don't I'll be pissed that you have the audacity to think you're in my league.

 

Why would a person like that humiliate herself by advertising the goods on a dating site? She must not be having much success at White House galas and state dinners, eh?

 

What man in his right mind would be attracted to that?

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It's one of those things--if you have to ask, you aren't it.

 

Right. OP, don't worry about it. If she doesn't appeal to you for ANY reason, don't let it get under your skin. Find someone who resonates for you.

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SwordofFlame

I think these days most people that pair up are from the same socio-economic backgrounds. Professionals date professionals. You don't really have to state that in your profile.

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"the term is used as shorthand to describe a particular social stratum of well-educated workers who enjoy considerable work autonomy and who are commonly engaged in creative and intellectually challenging work.

...a professional does mainly mental work, as opposed to engaging in physical work

 

A doctor or a lawyer is considered a professional, a painter or a plumber or a mechanic isn't.

 

Professional people tend to want to date other professional people, hence why someone who describes her job as a professional is "looking for a professional".

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"the term is used as shorthand to describe a particular social stratum of well-educated workers who enjoy considerable work autonomy and who are commonly engaged in creative and intellectually challenging work.

...a professional does mainly mental work, as opposed to engaging in physical work

 

A doctor or a lawyer is considered a professional, a painter or a plumber or a mechanic isn't.

 

Professional people tend to want to date other professional people, hence why someone who describes her job as a professional is "looking for a professional".

 

Exactly. Honestly if I were to find myself out there looking, I would be looking for a "professional" as well.

 

I find I tend to "click" better with lawyers, engineers, and other professionals - perhaps because we both spend 10 hours of our days doing similar things, understand the demands of these sorts of positions, and the lifestyle that comes with it - and that doesn't just mean money, but the hours, type of commitment etc.

 

If I am working long hours in the financial district on the week days - I wouldn't really want to date a bartender who works weekends, and doesn't really understand my lifestyle (nor would I be familiar with his).

 

I tend to get along better with "like minded professionals".

 

Now, if it was some barista, saying that he "must be a professional" well, yeah, maybe its gold digging. If its a professional looking for someone who is on the same playing field - well I think that is certainly understandable - and common!

 

How about this - if it was a professional athlete - saying that they were looking for competitive athlete - would that be offensive? I know a fair number of "pros" who have ended up married to other professional athletes. They understand each others life styles / need for training regimes / goals etc.

 

I see a "professional" seeking a professional the same way.

 

Plus, a man in a suit :love:

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ChickiePops
Funny you mention that, on their POF profile under "Profession" they have typed, "Professional", lol. Nothing specific.

 

Lol..well regardless of anything else, she doesn't sound too bright. Unless she meant that she's a prostitute...:bunny:

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Funny, had I asked dad who a professional was, he'd have pointed at the TV when the Lakers were playing and said, 'see Jerry West there, or Wilt Chamberlain, now those guys are professionals'. The funny part was he was a professional by most definitions, a CPA, but never thought of himself in those terms.

 

Such underscores the individual nature of personal definitions. The person on the other side of the dating profile is the best source of what professional means to them.

 

Can this term be ignored and this person be contacted anyways, perhaps may people THINK they are professionals contacting others anyhow?

 

Sure, why not? They placed an ad which invites contacts from interested parties. Live a little.

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Eternal Sunshine

Looking for an upgrade in lifestyle? How about looking for a match.

 

I am a professional and looking for a professional. I have been more open to giving other types of shot but we ended up having zero in common. Some of the most tedious dates of my life. Actually, someone's occupation is one of the most telling part in how well we will be matched, from an OLD prospective.

 

I really see nothing about entitlement here. Similar to fit people prefering other fit people etc.

 

As an example I had this conversation on Tinder yesterday.

 

Me: "What do you do?"

 

Him: "I own a chain of convenience stores and you?"

 

Me: "I am a research scientist"

 

Him: "I would never think to become a research scientist. How can you spend so many hours stuck indoors?"

 

 

.....

 

Already, it's obvious that we are on different wavelengths. Note that this guy probably has money if he owns a chain of convenience stores. I don't care about money. I would much rather date a researcher whose contract run out and he has to work as a waiter to make ends meet.

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I have seen this a lot in dating profiles, "Looking for a professional". Though this is a vague term is it not?

 

I mean, you could be a professional mechanic to a professional Wall Street tycoon, but in what context does "professional" actually mean.

 

Can this term be ignored and this person be contacted anyways, perhaps may people THINK they are professionals contacting others anyhow?

 

Why would you ignore the term?:confused:I think if someone goes out of their way to put that that's what they're looking for, you should pay attention.

 

While I'm all for arguing about the meaning of terms and I agree many people think they are professionals (this reminds me of seeing dating profiles where for level of education a lot of men selected "graduate" and I came to realize many of them thought it meant you graduated from high school...and didn't realize it meant graduate as in graduate school, as in Master's degree, PhD or other professional degree beyond college). I think the intelligent guess here is that generally, professional in this context likely means white collar professions.

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Looking for a lifestyle upgrade. Pass.

 

I think this a rather narrow view.

 

Many women are professionals and I am wagering most women who say this are women who are professionals seeking other professionals and want to make it clear.

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LookAtThisPOst

I actually had met went on a date with a "Law of Attraction" and "DreamBuilder Coach" coach.

 

After she told me about what she did, I was wondering when she drank the Kool-Aid. She kept going on and on about "energy" and "vibes" and how she can help you design and manifest a life that's in harmony with your soul's purpose.

 

*scratches head* I almost asked, "Is it a pyramid or Ponzi?" LOL But I didn't. She tried to sell me on it, but she didn't hook me. I did some research and it falls under the "Life Coaching Industry."

 

She's actually a cleaning lady as her bread n butter that was moonlighting as a "Dreambuilder". So yeah, it's up to interpretation what "Professional" is.

She was actually an attractive woman, you wouldn't think she was a cleaning lady by my location's standards. Usually they sound like they smoke 10 packs of cigs a day and have a voice like a fog horn. lol

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Looking for an upgrade in lifestyle? How about looking for a match.

 

I am a professional and looking for a professional. I have been more open to giving other types of shot but we ended up having zero in common. Some of the most tedious dates of my life. Actually, someone's occupation is one of the most telling part in how well we will be matched, from an OLD prospective.

 

I really see nothing about entitlement here. Similar to fit people prefering other fit people etc.

 

As an example I had this conversation on Tinder yesterday.

 

Me: "What do you do?"

 

Him: "I own a chain of convenience stores and you?"

 

Me: "I am a research scientist"

 

Him: "I would never think to become a research scientist. How can you spend so many hours stuck indoors?"

 

 

.....

 

Already, it's obvious that we are on different wavelengths. Note that this guy probably has money if he owns a chain of convenience stores. I don't care about money. I would much rather date a researcher whose contract run out and he has to work as a waiter to make ends meet.

 

To be honest, I know a lot of people who don't give a hoot about their professions not matching.

 

I know a married wife, that's a CPA, has her Masters in it. She has a husband that has a lawn service.

 

So there goes that theory.

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gonnadropthemic

The city I live in now is pretty uppity and snooty lol

 

So to me professionals are the doctors, attorneys and anyone else who makes a 6+ figure income :)

 

If they want a "professional" they want someone who works long hours, makes good money and understands the hard work that comes with all those long hours. Not to downplay any other career. But being around doctors and stuff, I can attest that this is their mindset. They work all the dang time so it's probably better to date someone who would understand that and all the stress that come with working 12+ hour days and then being responsible for patients lives and stuff....

 

You would think though that a "professional" wouldn't be on a dating website though. lol

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They work all the dang time so it's probably better to date someone who would understand that and all the stress that come with working 12+ hour days

 

These people are pretty much non-relationship material, much less marriage material.

 

You could have a sig. other that's waiting on them to come home though...one of these days.

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thefooloftheyear

It's probably code for bringing in at least 125K and not walking on all fours...

 

TFY

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To be honest, I know a lot of people who don't give a hoot about their professions not matching.

 

I know a married wife, that's a CPA, has her Masters in it. She has a husband that has a lawn service.

 

So there goes that theory.

 

You know a lot of people but named one couple...

 

One couple cannot debunk a theory.

 

Of course there are exceptions, but in most couples, for obvious reasons, the people tend to be similarly educated, from similar backgrounds, and have other similarities.

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You know a lot of people but named one couple...

 

One couple cannot debunk a theory.

 

Of course there are exceptions, but in most couples, for obvious reasons, the people tend to be similarly educated, from similar backgrounds, and have other similarities.

 

Actually, let me clarify. I know many, but just named a couple that came to mind as an example.

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