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Dark Horse

I'm a 21 year old male who's about 5 ft 3 and 100 pounds. So yeah, I just want an honest opinion, would you date a guy this small? I won't get too offended or anything.

 

I workout and it's not like i'm starving myself, i'm just lean. And I think me being pretty short just makes me look even skinnier. There's definitely guys pound-for-pound that are skinnier than I am.

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RecentChange

For me, at 5'6" and fairly thick / muscular. Yes, it would be a deal breaker.

 

I joke that I don't like dating any guys that I feel I could beat in a wrestling match :p

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Your height has nothing to do with finding a woman ! Of course many women would like to go out with you. Though the societal norm is that women like tall men but if they have nothing else besides height , they are useless.

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Ruby Slippers

There's a guy in my office who's 5'2. He met his wife at the office - she's 5'1. They're a cute couple and seem very happy together.

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ChocolateRain

Where i live ( not where i come from ) guys like you are everywhere and its normal ( and i am not talking about Asia either lol )

 

i think i could never date a guy your size , it would probably wake up my motherly instincts ...

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It greatly narrows your field, but it doesn't mean you won't find someone. Whether you have success at dating depends as much on having an outgoing personality and something special about you, whether it be talent or achievement, than anything. So work on making yourself interesting and outgoing. The alpha male in my old music crowd wasn't 5'3" but he was about 5'6" and he was the most sought-after guy in our crowd. He was in a band and was very good looking and also sewed his own stage clothes.

 

My best advice is to not let yourself get focused on some woman you think is hot looking or that all the other guys are going for and just be alert and pay attention to any women who seem to like to come up and talk to you or are friendly towards you. Those are the pool that some of them will date you. It certainly may mean you will have to lower your physical standards for women.

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It may be a deal breaker for some women. Let's be honest: age, ethnicity, religion, height & even hair color are deal breakers for some.

 

That said, you will be the perfect match for somebody. Those are the women you need to find.

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Your height has nothing to do with finding a woman ! Of course many women would like to go out with you. Though the societal norm is that women like tall men but if they have nothing else besides height , they are useless.

 

The point is hardly that any given woman is going to want to be with ANY tall guy. It's that the vast majority of women will NOT want to be with a short one.

 

OP, you will have to accept that about 80-90% of the women you meet will write you off immediately. Whatever the (well meaning) ladies on here will tell you. You'll need to be patient or lucky.

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I'm a 21 year old male who's about 5 ft 3 and 100 pounds. So yeah, I just want an honest opinion, would you date a guy this small? I won't get too offended or anything.

 

I workout and it's not like i'm starving myself, i'm just lean. And I think me being pretty short just makes me look even skinnier. There's definitely guys pound-for-pound that are skinnier than I am.

 

Like someone else mentioned, women generally like to be smaller than the guy they're with. I'm 5'10" and lean but and there's plenty of women out there who feel fat or large next to me.

 

So yes, it definitely hurts your odds. Yes, the majority of women will write you off for your size.

 

The other thing, and the biggest thing, that would hurt your odds would be being a b*tch.

 

So friend, you have to decide whether you're going to let the fact that life dealt you one disadvantage screw you over, or whether you're going to cultivate the talents you DO have.

 

There is a lot of comfort in being a victim. It's an easy way out. Very easy and very comfortable, which is why it's popular among women and men alike. You can worry about making up for your size or you can let other people worry about making up for everything else.

 

May I ask what you're doing with your life outside of dating?

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Well, most girls don't want to be heavier than their boyfriends. I personally would rather date a chunky guy over a skinny one. You can bulk up if you want, so you won't be so skinny. You can stay skinny but might be hard finding a girl. Your height isn't bad, there are many short girls including myself.

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I'm 5'7 and dated a guy your height for a while. The long distance was the dealbreaker, not his height.

 

Also, my father in law was your weight and height when he met my hubby's mother. She was taller than him.

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The point is hardly that any given woman is going to want to be with ANY tall guy. It's that the vast majority of women will NOT want to be with a short one.

 

OP, you will have to accept that about 80-90% of the women you meet will write you off immediately. Whatever the (well meaning) ladies on here will tell you. You'll need to be patient or lucky.

I call BS. If this was true, short people would have died out centuries ago. You see people of equal height coupled off ALL THE TIME. Yes short ones too.

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Well, most girls don't want to be heavier than their boyfriends. I personally would rather date a chunky guy over a skinny one. You can bulk up if you want, so you won't be so skinny. You can stay skinny but might be hard finding a girl. Your height isn't bad, there are many short girls including myself.

 

Its interesting how men's version of what women find attractive and women's version differ in this regard.

 

If you ask the average guy which dude in a lineup has the best body, he'll invariably pick the one who's got the best athletic body. Lowest body fat percentage, best strength to weight ratio, best power or speed. Guys assume that performance is impressive. They see men's bodies as race cars.

 

Listening to my female buddies talk about dudes in college (I didn't really have a group of girl friends who I was "bro-ey" with until then) was really eye opening. They'd be talking about how cute these portly guys are and I'd be like what the hell, he's a fatty!" They don't want to date a race car necessarily, they like SUVs. Big and convenient.

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Its interesting how men's version of what women find attractive and women's version differ in this regard.

 

If you ask the average guy which dude in a lineup has the best body, he'll invariably pick the one who's got the best athletic body. Lowest body fat percentage, best strength to weight ratio, best power or speed. Guys assume that performance is impressive. They see men's bodies as race cars.

 

Listening to my female buddies talk about dudes in college (I didn't really have a group of girl friends who I was "bro-ey" with until then) was really eye opening. They'd be talking about how cute these portly guys are and I'd be like what the hell, he's a fatty!" They don't want to date a race car necessarily, they like SUVs. Big and convenient.

 

Hahah I prefer the race car :p

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The only person in the thread who took any offense wasn't the OP; just someone whose post history suggests a pattern of cynicism and discontent.

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Dark Horse

I'm not offended at all, the big reason why i'm single and never had a girlfriend has little to do with my size. Okay maybe it does, but it's just a small piece of the puzzle. Sure if I were taller it would probably help but iv'e seen guys who don't have the greatest appearance get a girlfriend.

 

It's because of my shyness and social problems and too afraid to take the initiative or next step. And not to mention few chances of meeting women and when I do, i'm too scared to talk to them.

 

Wanna know how to be a single male for a long time? Never talking to girls.

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SammySammy

This is another case of "you have to like the ones that like you".

 

Choose from the women who WOULD date you. What the rest of us think doesn't matter.

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Dark Horse

I'm not offended at all, the big reason why i'm single and never had a girlfriend has little to do with my size. Okay maybe it does, but it's just a small piece of the puzzle. Sure if I were taller it would probably help; I know that my height is going to be a deal breaker to some women but I know it won't be for all. That's why i'm most interested in girls around my height or a little taller; I prefer girls who are 5 ft 5 and under.

 

The reason I have no success with women is because of my shyness and social problems and too afraid to take the initiative or next step. And not to mention few chances of meeting women and when I do, i'm too scared to talk to them. I fail because I rarely play the game, and when things don't go my way I give up too easily.

 

Wanna know how to be a single male for a long time? Never talking to girls and never taking a risk.

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The point is hardly that any given woman is going to want to be with ANY tall guy. It's that the vast majority of women will NOT want to be with a short one.

 

OP, you will have to accept that about 80-90% of the women you meet will write you off immediately. Whatever the (well meaning) ladies on here will tell you. You'll need to be patient or lucky.

 

Many women prefer a TALL, DARK and HANDSOME man... just like many men prefer a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN that has Big T-ts and nice As$ ... but I look around and I see average looking guys who are bald with good looking women... and overweight women with in shape, decent looking dudes... when it comes to the heart and what gets you off --> nothing is a given.

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I'm not offended at all, the big reason why i'm single and never had a girlfriend has little to do with my size. Okay maybe it does, but it's just a small piece of the puzzle. Sure if I were taller it would probably help; I know that my height is going to be a deal breaker to some women but I know it won't be for all. That's why i'm most interested in girls around my height or a little taller; I prefer girls who are 5 ft 5 and under.

 

The reason I have no success with women is because of my shyness and social problems and too afraid to take the initiative or next step. And not to mention few chances of meeting women and when I do, i'm too scared to talk to them. I fail because I rarely play the game, and when things don't go my way I give up too easily.

 

Wanna know how to be a single male for a long time? Never talking to girls and never taking a risk.

 

Are you a good looking guy? If you look like Scott Eastwood, I don't care if you're 4'11... women will love your face and adore you.

 

It comes down to looks NOT height.

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I'm a 21 year old male who's about 5 ft 3 and 100 pounds. So yeah, I just want an honest opinion, would you date a guy this small? I won't get too offended or anything.

 

I workout and it's not like i'm starving myself, i'm just lean.

 

You need to see a doctor, this isn't just 'lean'. You are underweight for a woman of your height and extremely underweight for a man of your height.

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Arieswoman

No problem for me Darkhorse - I'm 5'3" and often dated guys smaller than me :)

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You need to see a doctor, this isn't just 'lean'. You are underweight for a woman of your height and extremely underweight for a man of your height.

 

I was thinking the same, you're really light OP.

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Are you a good looking guy? If you look like Scott Eastwood, I don't care if you're 4'11... women will love your face and adore you.

 

It comes down to looks NOT height.

 

I almost think that's usually the case. Whether you're deaf; in a wheelchair; or whatever, if you're good looking you'll have an easier time.

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