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Deal breaker if you look like someone's family member?


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I found this for the first time on a dating profile. Would never occur to me, but isn't a bit of an odd thing to say in a profile?

 

 

"I have a very large family. And if you in anyway resemble any of them I will more than likely not be interested in you romantically."

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PegNosePete

It's a very odd thing to say. How are you even meant to know, unless they post pics of all their family?

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It's a very odd thing to say. How are you even meant to know, unless they post pics of all their family?

 

I guess the person writing that would judge by the interested party's photo. It's sort of a forewarning of a letdown 'sorry, you look like my creepy pervy uncle', whether it's true or not. :)

 

I would have never opened communication with a guy who looked like my ex, TBH. Or my brother. That might be weird.

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That makes sense to me, but the truth is many people unconsciously seek someone who resembles one of their family members. Ew.

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That makes sense to me, but the truth is many people unconsciously seek someone who resembles one of their family members. Ew.

 

That's because genetic similarity is an attractant. I was watching a documentary on this very thing recently. It turns out you can separate siblings at birth, let them grow up unaware of each other and if they happen to cross paths as adults it's almost guaranteed they will legitimately fall in love. Yes in a sexual way.

 

It's such a certain thing that it's a major concern for organisations that try to reunite adopted people with their birth families. The reintroduction has to be carefully managed to prevent this happening. The idea that we shouldn't be attracted to our close relative isn't genetic, it's actually social conditioning, a byproduct of living in close proximity to them as children. Take that away and you have.....:confused:

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I guess the person writing that would judge by the interested party's photo. It's sort of a forewarning of a letdown 'sorry, you look like my creepy pervy uncle', whether it's true or not. :)

 

I would have never opened communication with a guy who looked like my ex, TBH. Or my brother. That might be weird.

 

I can relate. Hell, I'd be very reluctant to date someone who has the same FIRST NAME as my sister (who to be fair has an unusual first name). I get that I may be writing off someone great and that it isn't the woman's fault that this was the name she was given. Saying her name in the throes of passion would just feel really really wrong though so I'd rather not even go there.

 

People just have arbitrary dealbreakers OP, it is what it is and it's their prerogative.

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LookAtThisPOst
I can relate. Hell, I'd be very reluctant to date someone who has the same FIRST NAME as my sister

 

Wow! :laugh:

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losangelena

I don't get what the problem is.

 

I wouldn't date a guy who looks like my brother. Gross and creepy.

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I'm another for the I don't get it camp. I wouldn't want to date someone who resembles my brother. That would be weird.

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It makes sense that you don't want to date someone who looks like one of your family, but it doesn't make sense to post it in a dating profile. Just weed out the ones that you don't want to date before actually going on a date. Seems simple to me.

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I can relate. Hell, I'd be very reluctant to date someone who has the same FIRST NAME as my sister (who to be fair has an unusual first name). I get that I may be writing off someone great and that it isn't the woman's fault that this was the name she was given. Saying her name in the throes of passion would just feel really really wrong though so I'd rather not even go there.

 

People just have arbitrary dealbreakers OP, it is what it is and it's their prerogative.

 

Yeah, I once was asked out by someone who had the same name as my father.

 

It creeped me out a bit and turned it down because I didn't want to end up screaming my Dad's name in bed.

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It makes sense that you don't want to date someone who looks like one of your family, but it doesn't make sense to post it in a dating profile. Just weed out the ones that you don't want to date before actually going on a date. Seems simple to me.

Exactly. But it's very common to do this kind of thing. Many people will put dealbreakers on their profiles every time they have an ex who tricked them or whatever. I've seen some really silly and obscure ones and the only thing they make me think is, "oh dear, look who fell for the oldest trick in the book"...

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I can relate. Hell, I'd be very reluctant to date someone who has the same FIRST NAME as my sister (who to be fair has an unusual first name). I get that I may be writing off someone great and that it isn't the woman's fault that this was the name she was given.

 

My name and that of my husband's first wife are similar. Think Mary and Marie. He has been divorced from her for THIRTY years, and yet it's slipped out. Never in bed, tho, thankfully.

 

He's called me by his second wife's name as well, once in front of his daughter. She was aghast; I just laughed. Whatcha gonna do? :)

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Jacques on stage

I went out with a lady once but I couldn't shake the feeling that she reminded me of someone.

 

When I realised it was my Nan, I had to end it.

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