Dating when you're on the other side of 40

[redbaron007]

First off, a bit about myself since it is relevant to the thread...I'm like the lead Ben Stiller character in "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" who has lived his entire life in risk-averse fashion...and thought it all paid off....until it all fell apart last summer when my 12 year marriage collapsed...leaving me shellshocked at age 40+. After a few months of introspection, I made lifestyle adjustments like hitting the gym, improving my diet and cultivating new hobbies (learning foreign languages, painting). I felt that I had recovered a positive frame of mind that is critical to meeting women and having mutually enjoyable experiences. I share my recent experiences in my search for a steady girlfriend below. I welcome your thoughts on whether I should be approaching more women, and if so, where.

 

I decided to try Match.com, more suited to my age-group than Tinder. I created a profile, listed hobbies and sent out 50+ thoughtful messages out to various women in the 30-40 range, but did not get even a single response back, not one. I put it down to my being 40+, with a kid (I have him every other weekend), and probably most importantly, I'm Asian (Indian) and studies have shown that minorities of both sexes have awful response rates...enough said.

 

I tried painting since I love to sketch, but everyone else in my group was 50+, so though I like to paint, from a dating perspective, this was a dead end.

 

I work out 4 times a week and have approached some very attractive women (maybe 25-26 yo) directly by complimenting them on their fitness and beauty. They were at first taken aback, but were delighted and I had great conversations with them, but when I eventually asked them out, they politely declined confirming they had boyfriends and by their demeanor I could tell they were being truthful, so I still smile and wave to them when I see them in the gym.

 

I work remotely, so I am often at Starbucks. I have initiated conversations with women I found attractive. Again, they are very nice to talk too, but either too young (18/19/20 yo) and attending local colleges so I don't actively ask for their numbers, or have a boyfriend. Note I don't consciously approach teenage women. They just happened to look older than they were...

 

I tried Bachata, and the women were either too young (17-18) or older than me (50+). Finally, two friends (maybe 26-28 yo) recently joined the class. One was married, the other (whom I found attractive) was single. Once when they were leaving, I suggested we go out for a beer. I am goofy when I am enjoying myself and we had a wonderful time joking and laughing, but I felt awkward asking out one friend in presence of the other. The next week, we went out again after dance class, and had a beer (they shared one again). I have not seen them for the last couple of weeks since the Warriors are on a roll and the girl I like is a huge Warriors fan, and the games happened to be on Wednesdays...if they come back, I will hesitate no more and ask her out...she hinted she is single by saying how terrible OLD is. She also knows I have a kid, so nothing to hide there...

 

Finally, I met a young (23 yo) German music student at a cafe in San Francisco. I was in fact having coffee with my six year old munching on a cookie and she was sitting on the next table facing us. I politely inquired whether she planned on watching the Chinese New Year parade, and when she responded in a foreign accent, I asked her where she was from...coincidentally, I had just started taking German lessons (I like foreign languages) so we had some laughs with me trying out my shaky German. She suggested we share our email ids. The following week, I emailed her suggesting we check out some murals. She responded that she would love to, and said we should switch to text. We meet on a weekend, had a great time exploring the murals on Mission St, then had some appetizers and a glass of wine at the bar. I was playful, and held her hand most of the time, and stroked her hair and neck at the bar. But while dropping her off, I tried to kiss her and instead, got "the cheek". A week later I suggested we go for ice-cream. Instead her sister was visiting from Germany, so she asked if I wanted to join them for a trip to Muir Woods. It was late when we returned and so I suggested they stop by my apartment and I would whip up a quick healthy dinner. They agreed, I cooked some fish for them, we had wine, good conversation, then dropped them at the bus stop. Though we held hands while walking in Muir Woods, I did not try to kiss her in her sister's presence. I will text her this weekend and see if she is interested in going out again.

 

So as you can see, I am putting in the effort but it is proving very difficult and time-consuming. BTW I don't drink when I am by myself, so I detest going to bars to get drunk and/or pick up drunk women. I believe in attracting a woman through honest behavior so I prefer approaching and talking to women in broad daylight in a public environment when both are sober, even though it is quite nerve-wracking to walk up and introduce myself to a beautiful stranger - my heart pounds every single time.

 

So peeps, what are the other avenues I should try...art galleries, wine tastings? Am I trying too much, too little? All comments welcome!

[smudge21]

I a bit confused as firstly you tell us that you think it's difficult to get dates being over 40, but then go on to tell us about the interest you're getting with girls nearly half your age. You're clearly doing something right. Okay, they're not "progressing" as fast as you'd like and a lot are unavailable, but it seems like you're wanting to reach the top of the mountain without going through the climb.

 

 

The dating game is difficult for most of us, especially when what we want becomes more serious rather than just a quick fling. I know a friend who is in his early fifties and very similar set up to yours, including all the usual knock backs and connections. It will happen for him and you, but just may take longer. In the meantime, try to focus on the positive that clearly you are doing something right when you meet these girls, but remember that they are still very young, and their views on dating and relationships will be very different to yours. Big sign that you're dating someone way younger = when you take them out for pizza and they look confused when it's served on a plate and not in a box.

[Toodaloo]

If you are over 40 then why on earth are you reserving only asking out women who are "highly attractive" and in their 20's?

 

Keep up the social life and keep asking women out but I really think you need to be sensible. Why on earth would a 20 yr old girl want to go out with a 40yr old man? She would only use you anyway...

 

Match was not at all good for me. Didn't last a week on there. OK cupid didn't bring up many matches either. Pof has been better but you do have to contend with the sexual messages as a woman so anything like that be warned.

 

Like I said. Keep being active and sociable and keep talking to women. Eventually you will get a hook. Even if it is with the hot 20yr olds mother...

[Standard-Fare]

I think you're already doing exactly what people would advise you to do in your shoes. You're doing a great job of trying lots of activities that can help you meet women, you're clearly not shy about approaching people/asking for a date, and you've also given online dating a try.

 

The only thing that caused me some confusion/concern while reading through your experiences — you seem to view every single woman who crosses your line of sight as a potential target. For example, those 19-year-olds in Starbucks shouldn't even be falling on your RADAR. And sometimes you have to let an attractive woman at your gym be just that: an attractive woman at your gym. Not someone you might date.

 

The music student, well, I guess you lucked out there but I'm curious what her deal is.

 

You might consider new approaches with online dating. Since you've obviously a confident and capable guy, I'm wondering whether your profile or your style of messaging just isn't working for you. I don't think your age, ethnicity, or having a kid would automatically rule you out for that many women. Maybe get some advice from female friends there - are you using the right pictures? Does your profile convey the right type of information in the right tone?

[Art_Critic]

I was in my 40's when I met my wife, dating in my 40's was easy as long as I didn't date out of my age range.. I had a 10 year rule and would never date someone who I could be her father, that is asking for Daddy issues...

 

My wife is in the same age grouping as I am and that is one of the things that helped make us compatible...

 

I think your biggest issue right now is age.. you say 50 is too old but 25 isn't too young for you.. gezz....

 

Why not keep looking and putting your energy toward someone in your age group, that way you are in the same place in life and your lives will match.. and having to meet her parents on the first date isn't an issue

 

When you go online looking for dates look at the age range your profile is set for, if it says 20-35 then no over 35 woman with half a brain is going to say Hello to you when you hit her up, make the age ranging in your profile 35-45 and go from there, that way when you hit a girl 35+ up she knows you aren't looking for some young thing half your age...

[LookAtThisPOst]

I was in my 40's when I met my wife, dating in my 40's was easy as long as I didn't date out of my age range.. I had a 10 year rule and would never date someone who I could be her father, that is asking for Daddy issues...

 

My wife is in the same age grouping as I am and that is one of the things that helped make us compatible...

 

I think your biggest issue right now is age.. you say 50 is too old but 25 isn't too young for you.. gezz....

 

Why not keep looking and putting your energy toward someone in your age group, that way you are in the same place in life and your lives will match.. and having to meet her parents on the first date isn't an issue

 

When you go online looking for dates look at the age range your profile is set for, if it says 20-35 then no over 35 woman with half a brain is going to say Hello to you when you hit her up, make the age ranging in your profile 35-45 and go from there, that way when you hit a girl 35+ up she knows you aren't looking for some young thing half your age...

 

He'll probably get the same lack of responses as he did no matter what age bracket he chooses since that is the consensus regardless.

 

He can give it a shot though.

[central]

You seem to be doing the right things, except for focusing far too much on younger women. Even if you catch one, they're not likely to be keepers.

 

 

Maybe things have changed, but I had the most success with OLD when I got back into dating around your age. The key is good photos and a sincere yet slightly humorous profile. Women contacted me! YMMV. Yes, almost all were within 10 years of my age, to a few years older. For most men, that age range is the likeliest to produce results - only occasionally will there be outliers, and they rarely work out.

 

 

Keep up various activities, and try others - but don't give up on OLD yet. Do set your age filters to exclude anyone more than 10 years younger, as many will be scammers or just waste your time.

[kendahke]

I tried painting since I love to sketch, but everyone else in my group was 50+, so though I like to paint, from a dating perspective, this was a dead end.

 

I think your limited thinking and adherence to risk-free efforts is what you still haven't sorted out and resolved. Fix that and you will fix your problem.

 

It doesn't occur to you that developing friendships with people opens you up to possibly meeting people in their life who are in your age range? Not to mention, you never know where love will come from and so what if it's some woman in her 50's who loves to paint? The point is: love, not getting an ornament you can fling in your ex's teeth for leaving you.

 

See, this is the lesson the universe is teaching you. You're so picky that it's having a negative impact on you getting to where you say you want to be. It has to be delivered perfectly with pretty packaging and a pretty bow, but it might be totally rotten and spoiled once you open it up and take a good look at it.

 

And I have to say, leave 20-something's to those in their age bracket. It's not a good look.

[Sara1989]

Now I know why women in their 40s say it's hard to find a man their own age:( pretty obvious your going only for the younger, prettier women. There are many attractive, single women your own age so maybe you should try them before downing yourself.

[redbaron007]

There are a few points: that I would like to clarify:

 

Now I know why women in their 40s say it's hard to find a man their own age:( pretty obvious your going only for the younger, prettier women. There are many attractive, single women your own age so maybe you should try them before downing yourself.

 

I think I may have given the wrong impression that I "go after" the young pretty ones. That is not true. I would like to approach any woman I find attractive over the age of 25 who I can have a laugh with. I would much rather prefer someone in the 30-45 range since I am looking for LTRs only, not flings. There are a few very attractive, fit and well-dressed 35-40 yo women that I regularly see at my Starbucks and at the gym but they are all married, or have a boyfriend in tow. I am yet to see a single 30-40 year old woman sitting by herself w/ a book or laptop in a Starbucks in my area. I live in a small wine country town in the north bay.

 

On Match.com, all 50 emails were sent to women in 37-42 age group, none responded. There are in fact only not too many single women in 37-42 age group even on Match.com in my area. Also, note my town is 82% white. The only other Asian Indian that I know of is my physician. :-)

 

 

I also need to clarify that overall I am very happy as a person due to my new lifestyle that includes fitness (running and strength training), healthy eating, lots of fresh air, reading, art and being more sociable to everyone (I stop and talk to infants to elderly, not just pretty young things). So when I say dating for 40 yo's is "difficult', I guess I exaggerated. When I reread my initial post, I recognize that I have been quite proactive, and that the process is difficult for everyone. I just need to continue to be patient and persistent, and focus my time on targeting the right demographic (30+). So I will focus my time at new avenues like wine tastings and art galleries in San Francisco more often. These are things I personally enjoy, and if I meet someone along the way, even better.

Edited April 5, 2016 by redbaron007

[redbaron007]

I a bit confused as firstly you tell us that you think it's difficult to get dates being over 40, but then go on to tell us about the interest you're getting with girls nearly half your age. You're clearly doing something right. Okay, they're not "progressing" as fast as you'd like and a lot are unavailable, but it seems like you're wanting to reach the top of the mountain without going through the climb.

 

 

The dating game is difficult for most of us, especially when what we want becomes more serious rather than just a quick fling. I know a friend who is in his early fifties and very similar set up to yours, including all the usual knock backs and connections. It will happen for him and you, but just may take longer. In the meantime, try to focus on the positive that clearly you are doing something right when you meet these girls, but remember that they are still very young, and their views on dating and relationships will be very different to yours. Big sign that you're dating someone way younger = when you take them out for pizza and they look confused when it's served on a plate and not in a box.

 

Thank you for raising very valid points on being patient and persistent.

 

I can't say I'm dating the 23 yo German student, which I think is what you meant by "dating someone way younger". We went out only twice, including once with her sister. She is very thoughtful, soft-spoken, compassionate and kind, and adores her family. Since she is a pianist, she talks about how Beethoven loved to take nature walks and why she likes Chopin. She talks about the difficulty these great masters had when they composed music faster than they could write out the notes. Looks-wise, she is pretty but not the typical young "hottie". She dresses modestly and does not use makeup or dye her hair as far as I can tell (meaning she is not really worried about appearances). I really like her thoughtful, intellectual and compassionate nature. At the same time, she claims to be good at poker and can be playful. Her lovely personality is what attracts me more than her youth or looks. But she completes her studies and returns home this summer, so I don't have any expectations. I just try to stay mindful and enjoy the present moment.

[hasaquestion]

There are a few points: that I would like to clarify:

 

 

 

I think I may have given the wrong impression that I "go after" the young pretty ones. That is not true. I would like to approach any woman I find attractive over the age of 25 who I can have a laugh with. I would much rather prefer someone in the 30-45 range since I am looking for LTRs only, not flings. There are a few very attractive, fit and well-dressed 35-40 yo women that I regularly see at my Starbucks and at the gym but they are all married, or have a boyfriend in tow. I am yet to see a single 30-40 year old woman sitting by herself w/ a book or laptop in a Starbucks in my area. I live in a small wine country town in the north bay.

 

On Match.com, all 50 emails were sent to women in 37-42 age group, none responded. There are in fact only not too many single women in 37-42 age group even on Match.com in my area. Also, note my town is 82% white. The only other Asian Indian that I know of is my physician. :-)

 

 

I also need to clarify that overall I am very happy as a person due to my new lifestyle that includes fitness (running and strength training), healthy eating, lots of fresh air, reading, art and being more sociable to everyone (I stop and talk to infants to elderly, not just pretty young things). So when I say dating for 40 yo's is "difficult', I guess I exaggerated. When I reread my initial post, I recognize that I have been quite proactive, and that the process is difficult for everyone. I just need to continue to be patient and persistent, and focus my time on targeting the right demographic (30+). So I will focus my time at new avenues like wine tastings and art galleries in San Francisco more often. These are things I personally enjoy, and if I meet someone along the way, even better.

 

Sounds like you "get it" in a way most single 40 year olds don't. You'll be fine as far as I can tell from an anonymous internet post. Keep doing what you do.

 

Are there any large running clubs in your area? With a track club you can do something you were going to do anyway, and meet people in the process. There might be people in your age bracket there.

[Emilia]

I'm 43 and socialise a lot via Meetup. I meet men from early 20s to late 50s, obviously some more suitable than others. I can tell from the activities the group is based around what sort of crowd I am likely to get.

[preraph]

Honestly, I think you are using your imagination and really putting yourself out there are doing just fine. Perhaps any expat communities might be a good online place (or local expat meetups). Expats, one assumes, being generally less intimidated by people from other places. I realize you're having trouble finding that exact right age group, because young people are simply out more, but you would probably do better in that 30-40 range, so be sure and hit the playgrounds and games and entertainment centers like arcades with your kids regularly and maybe meet other single parents. But I think you're really doing well at talking to people and trying to make a plan. Good luck to you.

[redbaron007]

I'm 43 and socialise a lot via Meetup. I meet men from early 20s to late 50s, obviously some more suitable than others. I can tell from the activities the group is based around what sort of crowd I am likely to get.

 

Thanks, this is exactly the type of response that is helpful. Meetup is something that I have never tried and I think the right place for the demographic I'm seeking. I will try it especially for outdoorsy stuff like biking or bird-watching or photography, all of which I enjoy. By now, I must sound like a jack-of-all-trades but master-of-none, which is kind of true. I enjoy a wide variety of activities and try to do as much as I can after work and on weekends.

[redbaron007]

Honestly, I think you are using your imagination and really putting yourself out there are doing just fine. Perhaps any expat communities might be a good online place (or local expat meetups). Expats, one assumes, being generally less intimidated by people from other places. I realize you're having trouble finding that exact right age group, because young people are simply out more, but you would probably do better in that 30-40 range, so be sure and hit the playgrounds and games and entertainment centers like arcades with your kids regularly and maybe meet other single parents. But I think you're really doing well at talking to people and trying to make a plan. Good luck to you.

 

This is also a good suggestion. The only limitation is that at present, I have my six-year-old only on alternate weekends since he lives an hour away with his mother. When he is with me, I take him to SF to expose him to different experiences like street festivals, parades. He is a bit introverted and would rather play with his Legos or iPad so I gently try to get him out of his shell and get him outdoors. I will check out local indoor arcades but the weather here was 80 degrees today, so people are generally out more already. :-)

 

I think for the 30-40 demographic, the women are, like us men, busy with their jobs. The single moms, in addition to their jobs, have kids to take care of, so probably have even less time than I do. So maybe they mingle within their social circles.

[redbaron007]

As I mentioned before, I have a satisfying career as a techie that keeps me motivated and financially comfortable. Outside of work, I have a host of interests like gym, painting, dance class, German class, street photography, etc. I am also satisfied that I have rid myself of my Walter Mitty risk-averse nature and have put myself out there, and am confident that I will meet someone to be my co-pilot.

 

Since this is an anonymous forum, I can reveal that I only get a little sad when I am in bed at 11 pm after the day's work followed by gym or bachata class (or both!). It's just that I have never even properly kissed a woman for more than a year, let alone have someone warm in bed with me. This is the only time when I feel a little sad. I will not pay for sex and not pick up drunk women, so for now, I will have to involuntarily be a celibate monk.

 

The next morning however, I am up and ready to tap-dance for the rest of the day.

[Emilia]

Meetup is great, just follow the hobbies you enjoy and talk to people. No expectations, just widening your social circle. You will learn how you prefer socialising, I feel more relaxed in some groups than others.

[redbaron007]

Sounds like you "get it" in a way most single 40 year olds don't. You'll be fine as far as I can tell from an anonymous internet post. Keep doing what you do.

 

Are there any large running clubs in your area? With a track club you can do something you were going to do anyway, and meet people in the process. There might be people in your age bracket there.

 

This is another great idea, thank you! I will look at the local Road Runners club of which I used to be a member back in my Walter Mitty days years ago !

[redbaron007]

I was in my 40's when I met my wife, dating in my 40's was easy as long as I didn't date out of my age range.. I had a 10 year rule and would never date someone who I could be her father, that is asking for Daddy issues...

 

My wife is in the same age grouping as I am and that is one of the things that helped make us compatible...

 

I think your biggest issue right now is age.. you say 50 is too old but 25 isn't too young for you.. gezz....

 

Why not keep looking and putting your energy toward someone in your age group, that way you are in the same place in life and your lives will match.. and having to meet her parents on the first date isn't an issue

 

When you go online looking for dates look at the age range your profile is set for, if it says 20-35 then no over 35 woman with half a brain is going to say Hello to you when you hit her up, make the age ranging in your profile 35-45 and go from there, that way when you hit a girl 35+ up she knows you aren't looking for some young thing half your age...

 

How was dating in your age range easy in your 40's? For me, it is proving anything but easy. How and where did you meet these women in your age-range, including your wife? Did you meet them at events or via social circles or OLD?

 

Regarding OLD profiles, as I have mentioned before, I have tried the 37-45 age range and have had zero responses. I am pretty sure this is because of my ethnicity. When it comes to OLD, women generally seek partners within their own race and my area is 82% white, small, and predominantly families with kids. I have read studies by OLD sites themselves that conclude that minorities of both sexes have abysmal response rates. So for now, I will stay away from OLD and focus on venues I have not tried before:

1> local running clubs

2> Meetups,

3> Local kids arcades

4> art galleries and wine tastings,

....and spending as many weekends in SF as possible.

Edited April 6, 2016 by redbaron007

[TooLegitToQuit]

I didn't get the impression OP was targeting much younger women either. I am a single guy in his 40s too. It's just much rarer to find someone our age who is also single.

 

Sounds like you're doing great OP. You're getting dates and at least one woman seems into you. You might want to try CrossFit as well. You'll see the same women over again. So you will have time to build/suss out attraction and connection before you ask them out. Strength work will also help w your running.

Edited April 6, 2016 by TooLegitToQuit

[LookAtThisPOst]

I didn't get the impression OP was targeting much younger women either. I am a single guy in his 40s too. It's just much rarer to find someone our age who is also single.

 

Yeah, the mid-30's to mid-40s group seems to be the "married with children" category a lot where I live.

[preraph]

This is also a good suggestion. The only limitation is that at present, I have my six-year-old only on alternate weekends since he lives an hour away with his mother. When he is with me, I take him to SF to expose him to different experiences like street festivals, parades. He is a bit introverted and would rather play with his Legos or iPad so I gently try to get him out of his shell and get him outdoors. I will check out local indoor arcades but the weather here was 80 degrees today, so people are generally out more already. :-)

 

I think for the 30-40 demographic, the women are, like us men, busy with their jobs. The single moms, in addition to their jobs, have kids to take care of, so probably have even less time than I do. So maybe they mingle within their social circles.

 

It can only benefit to get your son out doing as many different activities as possible and not let him sink into doing nothing but playing games and legos. It shouldn't be up to him whether he wants to do something or not, you being the parent. Anyway, it will create new interests and maybe friends for him.

 

Yes, that 30-40 is either working people or people busy with kids, which is exactly why I said you need to go places where parents take their kids to find them. They don't do much socially.

[Miss Peach]

FWIW I have gone out with a few Indian and single dads so that alone wouldn't be an issue to me.

 

If you are over 40 then why on earth are you reserving only asking out women who are "highly attractive" and in their 20's?

 

This was my first question. You are going to strike out with a lot of these women because (even if you look good for your age) they perceive you as old. To be honest that is probably why half of them are talking to you in the beginning. They assume you know you have no chance so they are safe.

 

I would start by looking for women in their 30s and 40s. Depending where in your 40s you are, even some 30s women may view you as too old - especially if they are attractive and have options. I can't post the link due to LS rules but Evan Marc Katz wrote some good articles about this on his blog.

 

If you haven't already checked it out, look into meetup. I have men a lot of people there doing things I enjoy. I tend to look for groups that attract people around my age so I've been able to meet quite a few people there. I have met BF and exBF through there.

[redbaron007]

So something strange happened at Bachata class today that I wanted to mention to you good folks...knowing there was no Warriors game today, I was hoping to meet the two girlfriends who went out with me for a beer twice and was all set to ask the single one out for a date...but alas, they were a no-show.

 

...Then, as we usually rotate through songs, it was my turn to dance with this particular beautiful girl. I have had a polite conversation with her before in past classes, complimenting her on beauty, her height (at 5'10'' or 5'11'' she is a good 2'' taller than me) and how flawless and smooth her movements are. She told me that she was till recently a dance student at a local performing arts college and ran out of money, so is working to save and return to college. She always greets me with a broad smile and says "Hi...<my first name>" though we see each other only once a week AND there are 15+ guys in dance class AND I have an obscure Indian first name that can be mispronounced, misspelt, misunderstood so easily that I have to spell it out to everyone (D-as-in-Delta...you get it!)...Ordinarily, a tall, beautiful girl who remembers my obscure Indian name would instantly get an invitation for coffee/smoothie/beer from me but she is probably not even 25, so I did not venture beyond polite self-deprecating jokes (and hence did not mention her specifically in my prior posts). Today again, she was very pleased to see me, said a cheery "Hi ObscureName!". I replied, "Hi <her-name>!" and the song started and we started dancing. Then suddenly, she said slowly with a serious expression: "ObscureName, look at me...don't look at the floor...look at me!" I mumbled something about not wanting to step on her toes, but she replied, "No, don't worry, just look at me...many guys I dance with look at the floor...look at me". So I looked at her and we danced...she looked straight at me with a serious face and didn't say a word. So I looked at her lovely brown eyes and said nothing, we just danced...then after a minute or two, the song ended and the instructor yelled "Rotate", she smiled at me and went off to the next guy...

 

I don't know why that simple interaction had such a strong effect on me. Maybe it was because of my 365+ day involuntary celibacy, maybe I was caught off-guard and had no time to hide behind goofiness, maybe because of her beauty, whatever the reason was, I was just mesmerized...Wow, just wow!

 

To all the guys who have commented on the age demographic topic so far, I can assure you this...if you have been celibate for over a year like me, and a lovely girl is standing inches away right in front of you (that too in a dancer's "closed position"), and she commands you to look straight into her eyes, all the logical thoughts about age difference go flying out of the window in a millisecond...none of you guys will think "umm...you don't exactly fall in my +/-10 age demographic, missy! So kindly stay off my radar!". You will just stop thinking, and just look into her lovely eyes, like I did, dance and just go with the flow!

Edited April 7, 2016 by redbaron007