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TaraMaiden2

You can't talk to ALL women, without fail, just as we can't talk to all men without fail.

 

How old are you?

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Like anything you practice. Talk to all sorts of people all day long, not just the ones you find attractive. Say hello to clerks, people you pass. . . just make idle chit chat.

 

You can also join a group called ToastMasters. It is more about public speaking but it addresses conversational skills too. If money is no object look into taking classes through Dale Carnegie (or at least read the book)

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So you see a girl you like. She is pretty how do you know that you actually like her? She might have a habit of picking her nose while snogging for all you know.

 

Just quit trying to chat every girl you fancy up. Chat to all women, practice, practice and practice. Put yourself in challenging situations. Plan some comments and stories ahead of time so you have something there in your pocket you can fall back on or topics that you can talk about and ask about.

 

Then if you still like them ask them out. 99% of the time they will say no, they may have a guy already or something like that BUT every now and then one of them will say yes.

 

Don't worry about the ones that say no. If its not to be its not to be. Just be glad you asked anyway.

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how to talk women without fail

 

Without fail? I don't know what you mean by that. You aren't going to sleep with every woman you talk to - not even close :laugh:

 

A reality check:

 

Typically, I have to approach about 20 women if I want a guaranteed date. When I was at my best (or worst, depending on your view), I'd make a big effort to incorporate this into my routine. For example, I'd approach at least 5 women in my lunch break, or after work. So, that's at least 25 a week. I'm more lazy than that now though :D

 

You collect numbers, and a lot of those lead nowhere. It's all a numbers game (no pun intended). You have to be prepared to go through the grind – it's exciting but also very frustrating at times, and takes effort.

 

Don't believe that pick up artist bollocks about being able to 'attract any woman – without fail'. We all have to go through a lot of no's to get a yes. Anyone telling you otherwise is speaking bollocks, and probably trying to sell you something. How many no's you will have to go through is dependent on your looks and your game.

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How do you ride a bike without falling? You have to ride a bike and learn where your center of balance is.

 

How do you learn to skate? You fall down a lot til you learn where your center of balance is to keep your butt off the ice.

 

How do you learn to play guitar? You practice and play a lot of wrong notes and rhythms til you develop muscle memory and memorize key/chord progressions.

 

You learn to talk to women by talking to women and figuring out what to say.

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Like many have said, the better you get at talking with PEOPLE, the easier you'll talk to ladies you find attractive. The more you talk, the more you learn and have to talk about as well. Find common interrests, knowledge etc

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