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Over the past few months, I've been communicating with a girl that I am interested in and I think she's interested in me...but I've been getting mixed signals so I don't what to do now.

 

There are times where we text each other back and forth for hours, exchanging funny selfies.

 

Other times, not so much. Short or no responses whatsoever. Is this girl just playing with me or am I reading too much into it?

 

We had dinner twice and we had great conversations and great chemistry. I guess in this day and age with texting, its hard to gauge if someone is busy or not.

 

There is a concert coming up of a band we both like, I want to ask her to go, but if shes totally not into me, I don't want to make a fool out of myself.

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Bumping this up in hopes someone can help me, plus I have new examples that I am not sure of.

 

Well, today i mentioned the concert and she kind of played coy, didnt seem to enthused about going. I didn't mention her and I going, I just mentioned that it was coming.

 

Today, in the NE we had a little snowstorm, nothing too major, just a nuisance. Well, she texted me asking if i made it home safe. I responded and asked her if she did as well. She responded by say she did.

 

I then mentioned if she wanted to meet up for breakfast with a mutual friend later in the week...

 

No response.

 

I dont know what to make of this hahaha

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There's not really enough information about this girl to make a judgement either way. She could be interested in several guys and just keeping her options open. She could be interested in you but has no idea if you're interested in her, therefore she's playing it safe. She could just like you as a friend, and maybe likes the attention you give her.

 

Maybe she doesn't give you lengthy text responses sometimes because she's busy, or because she's not interested in talking about whatever it is you're texting her. This is why texting is a bad way to start out a relationship. How often do you guys hang out in person? Only twice??? Over the course of several months? Spend more time with her face to face. How did you guys meet?

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I then mentioned if she wanted to meet up for breakfast with a mutual friend later in the week...

 

 

She already went out with you twice for dinner. That indicates some interest.

 

 

Though when asking her out to breakfast why are you her out and including the 3rd wheel?

 

 

Why the need to bring your on personal C@#K blocker?

 

 

What is it with the lets meet up manure? Do young men not know how to call on a woman and pick her up at the front door (I obviously had to mention the front door because it appears that too many young men think it appropriate to just sit in their car and honk their horn and wait for the bee-itches to come out. What a poor image that gives off).

 

 

Time to be direct. So man up, make the Duke proud, and ask her out on a date.

 

 

You see she is not your GF now.

 

 

When you ask her out two things can happen. She will says yes and you get the GF you want.

 

 

She says no, and throws in the: not even if you were the last man on earth you still will be better off because you will stop wasting your time and money.

 

 

Then you will be free to pursue a woman that will want you.

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Over the past few months, I've been communicating with a girl that I am interested in and I think she's interested in me...but I've been getting mixed signals so I don't what to do now.

 

There are times where we text each other back and forth for hours, exchanging funny selfies.

 

Other times, not so much. Short or no responses whatsoever. Is this girl just playing with me or am I reading too much into it?

 

We had dinner twice and we had great conversations and great chemistry. I guess in this day and age with texting, its hard to gauge if someone is busy or not.

 

There is a concert coming up of a band we both like, I want to ask her to go, but if shes totally not into me, I don't want to make a fool out of myself.

 

I fail to see what is so mixed here. Its been a few months and you've gotten nowhere pretty much. How old are you?

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She already went out with you twice for dinner. That indicates some interest.

 

 

Though when asking her out to breakfast why are you her out and including the 3rd wheel?

 

 

Why the need to bring your on personal C@#K blocker?

 

 

What is it with the lets meet up manure? Do young men not know how to call on a woman and pick her up at the front door (I obviously had to mention the front door because it appears that too many young men think it appropriate to just sit in their car and honk their horn and wait for the bee-itches to come out. What a poor image that gives off).

 

 

Time to be direct. So man up, make the Duke proud, and ask her out on a date.

 

 

You see she is not your GF now.

 

 

When you ask her out two things can happen. She will says yes and you get the GF you want.

 

 

She says no, and throws in the: not even if you were the last man on earth you still will be better off because you will stop wasting your time and money.

 

 

Then you will be free to pursue a woman that will want you.

 

Dating has become so complicated nowadays that people never know who's interested in who and what they're looking for. This advice is so refreshing because it shows OP- and every young man on this site, who continues to post about not understanding how to ask women on dates, how to escalate interest and make a woman your GF, etc.- that this process does not need to be so complicated when you just be direct about your intentions.

 

It seems dumb to completely blame OLD and smartphones/texting, but I'm in the generation who remembers the old-fashioned way, and it was much, much easier.

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