Is this normal?

[hellohellohello]

So I have been talking to this guy I've known for a few months, and although we're both shy and our approach was slow and tentative at first, at this point it seems that we both know we're attracted to each other.

 

But, although we've talked about a lot of things, we seem to avoid making any reference to us actually dating each other. I know he's available (which I found out through a third person), and he did ask me early on if I had a boyfriend (I said no). Since then on, we've stuck to talking without really expressing any sexual interest, although there are also minor favors that you wouldn't typically do for just about anyone.

 

So I wonder: will this eventually lead to something, or should there be an explicit discussion of our relationship status?

[acrosstheuniverse]

It's normal for making new friends, but no, it's not 'normal' in the sense that it's going to go anywhere romantically.

 

If you were interested in each other you'd have met up by now, or there'd be flirting or sexual interest, sounds like you're just friends to be honest. I mean, what do you chat about? Have you actually even met up?

[oldshirt]

This is the problem when two shy, unassertive people try to get together.....nothing happens. There may be a physical attraction and a basic compatibility and comfort, but when nobody takes the bull by the horns and nudges things forward, it's a failure to launch.

 

 

There are two possible outcomes here. One is one of you is going to have to step up to the plate and make it happen. Or one of you is going to get bored and tired of waiting and just fade away like a fart in the wind.

 

 

If you don't have it in you to take the bull by the horns, then you are going to have to tell him to step it up and make it happen.

 

 

He is probably waiting for you to give him some kind of green light so shine the green light in his eyes until he gets the message.

 

 

The problem is lot of shy guys are totally dense about what constitutes a green light so you may have to just reach down his pants until he gets the message.