Payaslow Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 (edited) I met this girl about a year ago and she goes to the local university and for a long time i would text her with mostly no reply and i'd call her and still little to no reply so i stopped after realizing she had a BF. Flash forward to next school year. After the summer was about over she sent me a message on Facebook saying,"I've been thinking about you.. And when i comeback could we grab lunch? I want to tell you about my summer." So i started messaging her and it was great. So after about a month she invites herself to go to the concert me and my mom are going to and the first thing she talks about is how much weight i lost and that i look."Really good." Next weekend was another concert and she brings 2 friends a boy and a girl. I was kinda sad about the boy at first but after a while she started flirting with me and started touching me (my hand and arm) and even leaned on me during the concert. My family was also there and told me to start making moves. So i text her to see if she was going to service yesterday, because i was going to ask after church if she wanted to hang out friday but she didn’t reply.. And she didn't go to church which i wish she would've just said she couldn't. Also not replying to me drove me to lose interest and give up in the past... I wanted to call her today but i was nervous she wouldn't answer and it would be like last year... So i ask one of my good friends what i should do, he tells me to text her right now(Last night around 11) saying,"hey,are you alright?" and to go from there and whatever happens, happens. I wasn't for sure about it but i did and she replies about 30 minutes later saying,"Yes??" So at this point my friend is not replying and i really don't know what to reply to her so i just don't reply, thinking i'll handle it tomorrow. But now it's tomorrow and i'm still not sure what i should do. How should i reply? Should i still Call her later today? Should i wait to ask her to hang out? All advice would help thanks. Edited September 3, 2015 by Payaslow Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 Get in touch with her. Sitting around thinking about it won't get you anywhere. Fortune favours the bold. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 Yup. You dug yourself into a bit of a hole with, "Are you okay?" Translation: Why are you ignoring me? At this point respond with something like, "Great! I was thinking of doing XYZ this weekend. Interested in joining me?" If she says yes, flirt on this outing. If that goes well, ask her on a date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I'm usually a big fan of calling, but I would probably text her this time...and do it now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Payaslow Posted September 3, 2015 Author Share Posted September 3, 2015 I'm usually a big fan of calling, but I would probably text her this time...and do it now. Right, i'm about to text her that. How about,"Great! I was thinking of going to Waffle House this weekend. Would you like to join me?" Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 Waffle House is a step below IHOP and Denny's, at least it is in Georgia and South Carolina. Unless you're in high school, and honestly even if you are, I would suggest something else...something slightly more special. Go for ice cream even...anything. If money is tight, go for a hike or a bike ride somewhere pretty. Or a street fair...whatever. Lots of choices out there. Pick something she might actually get excited about doing. There must be other options in town besides Waffle House...I would think? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Payaslow Posted September 3, 2015 Author Share Posted September 3, 2015 Sent the message... Thank you guys for the replies, and now that i sent it i feel so much better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Payaslow Posted September 3, 2015 Author Share Posted September 3, 2015 Waffle House is a step below IHOP and Denny's, at least it is in Georgia and South Carolina. Unless you're in high school, and honestly even if you are, I would suggest something else...something slightly more special. Go for ice cream even...anything. If money is tight, go for a hike or a bike ride somewhere pretty. Or a street fair...whatever. Lots of choices out there. Pick something she might actually get excited about doing. There must be other options in town besides Waffle House...I would think? Of course, but she has told me on multiple occasions that Waffle House is her favorite and loves it. But you've given me more ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Payaslow Posted September 3, 2015 Author Share Posted September 3, 2015 Waffle House is a step below IHOP and Denny's, at least it is in Georgia and South Carolina. Unless you're in high school, and honestly even if you are, I would suggest something else...something slightly more special. Go for ice cream even...anything. If money is tight, go for a hike or a bike ride somewhere pretty. Or a street fair...whatever. Lots of choices out there. Pick something she might actually get excited about doing. There must be other options in town besides Waffle House...I would think? Still no reply... I'm not sad nor am i angry, but i just don't understand how she could do all of that and just give me the cold shoulder lol Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 I don't get it, you are just friends right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Payaslow Posted September 4, 2015 Author Share Posted September 4, 2015 Yeah we are just friends but anyway...So last night after completely not replying to my text. I post a status on FB and immediately after clicking post, She comments on my status with a sticker of the big cat waving. lol I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THE OPPOSITE SEX. Link to post Share on other sites
PaperCrane Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 Just follow Satu's advice. Be bold and conquer. You really have nothing to lose. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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