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Guy friend and I avoid the conversational topic of dating like the plague


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I am friends with this guy Mark and we are I guess still getting to know each other. I haven't known him all that long. I enjoy talking to him. However, I noticed we always side step the topic of dating and relationships. For example, When i asked how was his weekend, he gave me some answer that did not include that he went on a date with someone he met online. But then later we were in a group and someone else was talking to him and he mentioned it to them, I overheard (not sure if he knew I overheard)

 

Anyways, I guess nothing is stopping ME from bringing it up, but I just can't help but notice we really avoid this topic. I feel like if we discussed it we could be closer friends, but I am hesitant for some reason and so is he for some reason (unless he's picking up a vibe from me?!). Do you have any guy friends where you avoid discussing dating with them? I see his other female friends ask him all the time, did you have a date, or asking him what he thinks of so-and-so girl. etc. I just don't know what's stopping me.

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A lot of times when ppl have 'play' romances in environments outside the home like work, they don't discuss the reality of what goes on elsewhere. Reason being is that it would put a damper on the fun of the playtime and generally lead to a more ho-hum interaction if the spice of flirting and danger was removed from the mix.

 

Not coincidentally, ppl tend to suddenly want to discuss their SO's if/when they feel the play R has gone too far in order to reel it in and hang reality over the fantasy.

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There is a guy I am friends with at work that I avoid talking about dating, men and similar topics as well because I am well aware he is interested in being more than a friend (multiple people have informed me of this, plus you can read him like a book). I guess you could say I have officially (and permanently) friend-zoned this guy. He's given me his number multiple times and I never contact him outside of work. Why? Because I do not want to lead him on or give him the impression I am interested.

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