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I'm not into comics, I prefer to read actual words, to describe events, rather than a big red Booom! writtend across two pages...however...

Jason Momoa was appearing, and that alone swung me.

I decided late, no time to get a costume of any worth organised, so I went as "guy totally out of his depth"

 

As I'm walking around, looking at all the couples/families that obviously went to a lot (or a little...) effort to dress up, and I started this weird thought process.

 

Why have I never found a partner in my entire life who really shared my interests. I was thinking back though all my significant ex'es, and I realised not a one of them would have wanted to go to such an event, some would have gone "for me" but none would have been excited at the prospect, it would have been an eye rolling "the comi-what?

My current dates, similarly, not interested...

It actually depressed me.

Same with my music, no one has ever liked the stuff I listen to...usually they like top 40 crap, while I listen to Gary Numan's latest.

 

I mean, I can't complain, I've had perfectly happy relationships...but is it really that hard to find someone who you can live with, eat with, enjoy sex with, AND have shared interests?

Should I bother being that restrictive this time?

What I have noticed is that if I have met someone with similar interests...they flat out either aren't interesting otherwise, or aren't interested in me...

 

Life huh?

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Understandable. You are able to have a happy relationship, but they don't have many shared interests. You find someone that has many shared interests, but are uninteresting or are not interested.

 

Simply having shared interests does not mean someone will automatically like you of course. All it means is that you are a very unique human being.

 

Life huh?

 

No. It is just you. Your personality makes you that way. You say "if I have met someone with similar interests...they flat out either aren't interesting otherwise, or aren't interested in me...". Sounds 50/50 to me on both ends. ;)

 

If they are uninteresting, then how can they share interests with you?

If you are uninteresting to them, how can you share interests with them?

 

some would have gone "for me" but none would have been excited at the prospect

 

If someone cared for you that much, they would do that. That's what a true relationship should be like. You really shouldn't care about you're interests, you should care about the person. Me personally, I hate sports, but I'll watch a game with my friends just to be in their presence. :)

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You're not the only one struggling with this. I often wonder why I can't find a guy who actually enjoys theater or ballet and isn't gay or curious. Apparently they don't exist because I haven't found him yet lol.

 

On the other hand I would be totally ok with someone who has open interests if not shared interests. With many things I consider myself to have open interests. Using your ComicCon example, I have dated a few guys that are way into that stuff. Do I always get their references or read comics myself, nope. However I do love to go to those types of events and have a blast. How is this possible? Well I'm enjoying everyone else's excitement, meeting new people, seeing all the costumes, learning obscure facts that I can drop into random conversation lulls, and shopping. Not once do I have to pretend I'm not bored because I'm really not nor do I drive my guy crazy by insisting he explain everything to me.

 

I follow the same philosophy with sports. I could care less about sports and rarely even understand the rules. Yet when dating a guy that wants to go to a game here and there I can occupy myself just fine. Our excitement is different.... his because his team just scored and mine because the people sitting next to us made me laugh with something they said or did, but we're both having a good time and that is the whole point.

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I am so not a nerd but I have always wanted to go to this. Mostly because I love love love San Diego. I hope to move there soon.

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I often wonder why I can't find a guy who actually enjoys theater or ballet and isn't gay or curious.

 

I really love that you said this. :love::love::love:

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don't nerds go to comicon?

 

Damn right we do. I'll be attending one of these very soon (there is one in my city that just came through last weekend, but lets be honest, my cities comic-con is awful)

 

I'll head to the SD venue one year. Probably dress up like Gambit.

 

 

OP, when you are into the obscure, it can be very difficult to find another person who shares your interest because your interests aren't the "mainstream" whatever they may be.

 

Same with ballet and theatre. Who brings up little boys going to tallet and theatre? I bet if we did, more people would like that kind of stuff.

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don't nerds go to comicon?

 

I went to ComiCon in the 80s when there were only 5,000 people who would attend.

 

And - to the OP - I've seen Gary Numan perform every decade for the past forty years! He still puts on a great show!

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I really love that you said this. :love::love::love:

 

Hehehe and it makes me sad how true it is. Every time I go to the ballet or theater the few men I see there are either gay or their wives drug them kicking and screaming. I don't want to drag a guy under protest. I want him to find something enjoyable about the experience and be willing to share it with me once in awhile or love it as much as I do.

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Damn right we do.

 

I went to ComiCon in the 80s when there were only 5,000 people who would attend.

indeed. :)

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Trust me, just because a wife tags along to Comicon doesn't necessarily mean she shares the interest. If there's kids, then she's there to watch the kids usually. And she could also be there to make sure hubby doesn't spend their life savings on action figures she doesn't want to see cluttering up the house.

 

That said, surely there were some single girls there. So how many of them did you talk to?

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Trust me, just because a wife tags along to Comicon doesn't necessarily mean she shares the interest. If there's kids, then she's there to watch the kids usually. And she could also be there to make sure hubby doesn't spend their life savings on action figures she doesn't want to see cluttering up the house.

 

That said, surely there were some single girls there. So how many of them did you talk to?

Not ALL, but a significant number had put significant effort into the costumes, and of course there are always the hot young girls in skimpy outfits to get photos with too!

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don't nerds go to comicon?

 

Just to update your signature...

 

Dear God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those who piss me off.

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Trust me, just because a wife tags along to Comicon doesn't necessarily mean she shares the interest. If there's kids, then she's there to watch the kids usually. And she could also be there to make sure hubby doesn't spend their life savings on action figures she doesn't want to see cluttering up the house.

 

That said, surely there were some single girls there. So how many of them did you talk to?

Around a dozen, but I was with a friend and his young step daughter.

There was one girl, my GOD she was gorgeous, fantastic wild personality, dressed provocatively, but way too young.

I asked her who she was dressed as, assuming she was some Anime cosplay

She replied "no babe, this is just me!"

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Around a dozen, but I was with a friend and his young step daughter.

There was one girl, my GOD she was gorgeous, fantastic wild personality, dressed provocatively, but way too young.

I asked her who she was dressed as, assuming she was some Anime cosplay

She replied "no babe, this is just me!"

 

Well, it sounds like you found your Mecca. Seems like surely there is a forum or something for Comicom that you could start meeting people on prior to the next show and then ask them to meet you there for coffee or a free cone bra or something!

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You're not the only one struggling with this. I often wonder why I can't find a guy who actually enjoys theater or ballet and isn't gay or curious. Apparently they don't exist because I haven't found him yet lol.

 

On the other hand I would be totally ok with someone who has open interests if not shared interests. With many things I consider myself to have open interests. Using your ComicCon example, I have dated a few guys that are way into that stuff. Do I always get their references or read comics myself, nope. However I do love to go to those types of events and have a blast. How is this possible? Well I'm enjoying everyone else's excitement, meeting new people, seeing all the costumes, learning obscure facts that I can drop into random conversation lulls, and shopping. Not once do I have to pretend I'm not bored because I'm really not nor do I drive my guy crazy by insisting he explain everything to me.

 

I follow the same philosophy with sports. I could care less about sports and rarely even understand the rules. Yet when dating a guy that wants to go to a game here and there I can occupy myself just fine. Our excitement is different.... his because his team just scored and mine because the people sitting next to us made me laugh with something they said or did, but we're both having a good time and that is the whole point.

 

theater. like productions in small town theaters? cool. my friend (who is married) acts in a lot of these and the girls are always attractive so I meet them all out for drinks after sometimes.

 

ballat - dudes in leotards with their junk bulging out? then spinning so centrifugal force makes them bulge out even more?

PASS!!!!! :)

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Understandable. You are able to have a happy relationship, but they don't have many shared interests. You find someone that has many shared interests, but are uninteresting or are not interested.

 

Simply having shared interests does not mean someone will automatically like you of course. All it means is that you are a very unique human being.

Thanks for agreeing with me...but

 

You contradict yourself, and make little sense.

If they are uninteresting, then how can they share interests with you?

If you are uninteresting to them, how can you share interests with them?

What...?

This is daft, what, so everyone who likes the same things as me AUTOMATICALLY is interesting as a potential partner...Lordy, if only life was that simple!

 

If someone cared for you that much, they would do that. That's what a true relationship should be like. You really shouldn't care about you're interests, you should care about the person. Me personally, I hate sports, but I'll watch a game with my friends just to be in their presence. :)

Not for the long game, trust me, people doing things "for their partner" soon show their disinterest.

I hate the national sport in Australia, Footy.

 

I loath it with a passion, an excuse for unintelligent drug-using misogynists to get paid far too much because they can kinda kick a ball...a bit.

 

I CANNOT go out with someone who insists on watching this mind-numbing exercise in futility, watch them lose their temper, let their mood be affected by some events over which they have no control whatsoever. Doesn't matter how loud they scream at the TV, their team (like, they own it or something), wins or loses based solely on how much over the salary cap the teams are.

 

Sorry, I'll get off this soap box now.

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Just to update your signature...

 

Dear God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those who piss me off.

 

:laugh::bunny:

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don't nerds go to comicon?

 

Gamescom for me. And a Japanese festival with a friend next year. Those Manga comics are better than I expected... :p

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theater. like productions in small town theaters? cool. my friend (who is married) acts in a lot of these and the girls are always attractive so I meet them all out for drinks after sometimes.

 

ballat - dudes in leotards with their junk bulging out? then spinning so centrifugal force makes them bulge out even more?

PASS!!!!! :)

 

Yes like small town theaters, I'm a huge fan of local productions. As for ballet ummm you're supposed to be watching the fancy foot work and those awesome lifts and spins not staring at crotches lol. Also not every ballet involves guys in tights, I have seen several where the guys are wearing loose pants or the kind of pants you'd see tap or jazz dancers wear. It just depends on the show.

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Yes like small town theaters, I'm a huge fan of local productions. As for ballet ummm you're supposed to be watching the fancy foot work and those awesome lifts and spins not staring at crotches lol. Also not every ballet involves guys in tights, I have seen several where the guys are wearing loose pants or the kind of pants you'd see tap or jazz dancers wear. It just depends on the show.

 

And let's not forget the girls...!

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Hehehe and it makes me sad how true it is. Every time I go to the ballet or theater the few men I see there are either gay or their wives drug them kicking and screaming. I don't want to drag a guy under protest. I want him to find something enjoyable about the experience and be willing to share it with me once in awhile or love it as much as I do.

 

I'm with you. I feel the same way.

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I'm with you. I feel the same way.

The solution is simple:

 

Google:Nude Ballet

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as a big comic book nerd, ive always wanted to go to a comic book convention, and in costume too hehe :)

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Maybe you should go regularly to ALL of the local conventions. You might encounter someone who lives nearby and shares the same interests and passions.

 

It should be incredibly easy to ask her out for a cup of coffee when you have so much to discuss and talk about!

 

Outside of those circles, you might as well be searching for unicorns.

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