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Signs a "nice" guy is into you (vs just being nice)


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There's a (single) guy i know who is a gentleman. He is very very nice to me. But he is also the type who will go out of his way to help someone, I think. He has gone out of his way to help me before

 

here is the thing. How can you tell when someone like this is interested in you as opposed to just being nice? I thought maybe he was interested, but it's not like I see him asking me out. And I know he is on Tinder (seems glued to it) and has gone out with girls from there, which leads me to think maybe I've got it all wrong because he's clearly not too shy about asking them out.

 

So that's why I'm here asking, how can you tell when a certifiably nice guy likes you? And how can you tell when he doesn't like you. Even if I let him go, I am sure he won't be the last nice guy I run across and I don't want to misinterpret things. I also have a married coworker who is extremely nice, so I always think of him as the barometer of niceness (clearly he's not into me, yet he's still nice, so why should I assume this single guy is any different)

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PrettyEmily77

Based on the OP only, I'd say not interested - he's active on Tinder and is getting dates out if it.

 

 

Only way to be sure is to ask him out yourself / drop heavy hints for him to ask you out, I would say.

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Based on the OP only, I'd say not interested - he's active on Tinder and is getting dates out if it.

 

 

Only way to be sure is to ask him out yourself / drop heavy hints for him to ask you out, I would say.

 

Right but in general, how can one decipher when a nice guy is being nice or interested? Because I do not want to be wasting my time again on someone not interested because I am misinterpreting their actions as a sign of interest.

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Right but in general, how can one decipher when a nice guy is being nice or interested? Because I do not want to be wasting my time again on someone not interested because I am misinterpreting their actions as a sign of interest.

 

Same advice, really - either ask the nice guy out yourself or find out from a third party whether the guy is interested or not. Nice or not, a guy is still a guy, and nice guys ask the objects of their attention too...

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a guy is still a guy, and nice guys ask the objects of their attention too...

 

 

Not always the case.

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Take one opportunity to make it clear to him that you are open to being asked out. If you do that & he doesn't seize the opportunity move on.

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Care to elaborate?

 

 

I can only speak for myself, but I have been fond of girls I interact with before, but never really asked them out. But that's just me.

 

I might be a little more subtle about it.

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I can only speak for myself, but I have been fond of girls I interact with before, but never really asked them out. But that's just me.

 

I might be a little more subtle about it.

 

Why have you not asked them out?

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Not always the case.

 

Indeed. Also not to go on a long rambling spree and perhaps actually risk complicating matters even more, but both men and women go about things in such different ways, that even the "surest" sign actually may be very misleading. I know it may not be super magical or charming to some, but seriously the best way to understand someone else is to ask. Every relationship starts somewhere and hopefully through communication over time you will get an even better picture of that person. This "shouldn't" ruin any potential romance or development of a meaningful relationship, but I'm sure to some it would be.

 

Many women want to be approached, but I've known just as many that don't mind going for something they like themselves. I also don't believe this is something isolated to the modern western world, granted that in some places people are still very traditional when it comes to initiating relationships. A good question would be, what is holding you back from approaching this guy, I don't judge you differently or less, no matter what your response may be. As always I'm just curious to understand all my fellow human being. All in all, everyone is very different, but I do believe many complicate matters, because in their mind they believe things should be a certain way.

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Not always the case.

 

 

What I meant by that is that asking or not asking has nothing to do with how nice a guy is. Not nice guys don't necessarily ask either.

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